To sum up, there are three points: first, can you be born; The second is whether you can raise it when you are born; Third, does your child agree? If you can give birth, the last two points are fine, then give birth!
What do netizens say?
It's better to ask yourself than others. Because the situation in your family is only clear to your own family.
It's really not better now than before. I remember when I was young, I had eight sisters, so my parents were very supportive. Although my parents tried their best to train my eldest brother into a college student, when it was my youngest turn, my brothers and sisters were all older and my family had spare capacity to train me, but I was still proud of the good conditions. From the beginning, they were mainly liberal arts, but they didn't go to college in the end, otherwise they could be trained.
But in our era, ordinary college students can be directly assigned to work in government departments after graduation, and high school students will be entrusted with heavy responsibilities when they come out to work in factories and companies. Unlike now, the diploma has depreciated, and the government has to graduate at least. Entering an enterprise after graduating from an ordinary university is equivalent to the treatment of high school students in our time.
Although the diploma has depreciated, the cost of raising a child has greatly increased due to the current involution phenomenon. If you think your family can afford such expenses, you can have one.
Looking forward to everything, just because young people are under great pressure now doesn't mean that they want more children to be more stressed when they grow up. At present, the society is aging seriously. If we don't let go of the third child, there may be a population gap in the future. If you have one more child, you will have a chance to rise in that era.
In fact, when we think about our growth in those years, we are all stocked, because there are many children, and we can't do anything without stocking.
But your wife is older, 48. She will be 49 after giving birth, and her mother will be 69 when the child is 20. If the family has money, it's no problem at all. If the family is not very rich, the woman will retire at the age of 55, and it is a bit difficult to raise her children independently at the age of 20. I don't know how old you are.
Besides, since your family is going to have three children, there must be two children ahead. What do these two children think? We should also ask for advice.
There is a saying that is not pleasant to listen to, there are unexpected events in the sky, and people are doomed. Giving birth to a child at such an age should consider some accidental factors. In case, I said in case, parents lose their ability to support, would you two children like to take care of your brother or sister?
Moreover, it is your own health problem, and you need to do a pre-pregnancy physical examination. Is it suitable for having another child?
These comprehensive factors should be considered. Why don't you and your family sit down and discuss it?
If you really want it, you should make a good plan, and even set aside some funds in advance for the third child to graduate from college and give it to a lawyer for safekeeping. Relatively safe.
Analyze all these opinions to your wife and see how she is?
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38% dare not give birth, 48% still want to give birth. How dare they be so brave!
Letting go of the three-child policy means letting go of those who have conditions. Those who are not qualified will not dare to have a second child if they are released. Age is one of the key points. If it's all right, I suggest going to the kindergarten gate. How young my parents are now, and there are many grandmothers who are 48. Now you have more than 50 children in kindergarten, older than other people's grandmothers. Don't feel inferior? Children don't feel inferior?
I have a classmate whose mother gave birth to a younger brother when she was about 45 years old. We are both in our twenties. To tell the truth, we are all embarrassed to talk to her about it. That sounds horrific. She was embarrassed. I also saw with my own eyes how her family took care of the child. Parents are old, and all aspects of taking care of their children are behind the times. This little brother was almost brought up by their sisters. I take him to play, buy clothes, see a doctor and teach homework, and parents don't have to ask too much. I think it's just for their sisters. Even if they get married, they always take care of their parents. Now my parents are almost seventy years old, my brother is in college, and my sisters are still in charge of him in all aspects. My classmates can manage if they have good conditions. For example, one of her sisters has a poor family, and there is nothing she can do. Think about it. If it weren't for her sister, it would really be impossible to rely on her parents.
Your family is going to have three children, there should be two children on it, and your wife and 48 children should be adults. If you want to have a small child, even if the family economy is good, there is still a big gap with young people in parenting. When children are in kindergarten and primary school, they need their parents to play games with them, so your physique and mentality are difficult to compare with those of young parents in their twenties. If you don't behave well again and again, your child will be disgusted and want your brother and sister to replace everything. Do yourself a favor.
Ask me what to do, that is, never have three children!
If you can, you must! It's no use asking if others can't help. As long as you are healthy, fertile and rich, the most important thing is you! Good kidney and strong function. No problem. If the function of kidney deficiency declines, your wife will be 48 years old. You must be several years older than you! If you are over 50 years old, your living standard and diet are good, your nutrition can keep up with health and maintenance, your passion can surge, and your wife can spark love. Your feelings are also deep ~ Your wife will stay here for one night, and if you wait for the time, you will get amazing results in the crisp autumn.
Wow! Great! Your wife gave birth to twins! That's great. This is not the third child. This is a serious fourth child! What a good blow! A string of two dolls! I wish you happiness!
Think about it. If you have a third child at the age of 48, under normal circumstances, when the child graduates from college at the age of 22, you will be over 70 years old. If you get married later, 80 years old may not be able to let the child enjoy the family happiness independently.
I am 48 years old, and I can't afford to play with three children. Now I have two children and a happy family. Eldest brother will get married soon after graduating from college, and the second child is probably still young. I should go to primary school, too. When to do something, let nature take its course, and I can't force it. I want to be a mother when I can be a grandmother, and my eldest brother and second child don't support me. In the end, I will work hard and will not bring happiness to your old age.
What the 48-year-old middle-aged people should do now is to manage and cultivate the second child well, get married as soon as possible, and don't become a burden for the rest of their lives. You gave birth to a second child and devoted most of your life to your child after marriage. You should have a good rest after retirement. If you have three children, your retirement will be completely disrupted. In the long run, you should be cautious when giving birth to three children at your age.
It's time to be a grandmother. It's really hard to risk having three more children. It's easier to live than to raise. Do you want to live in the future? Maybe you have the financial conditions to give your child a good life, and you can satisfy your child materially. What about mentally?
She is a very old woman. If something goes wrong, I can't imagine. There are many elderly women who are in good health before giving birth, and all kinds of risks come to you when they are in labor. For the sake of their health, they should think carefully before making a decision.
And your children now, both of them are not young! It is estimated that the older ones are all in college, and the younger ones are in their teens, which is almost a fire pit. If you want another nursing child, you will be busy. It's not easy to breast-feed a child. It will be too much for you when you are old. If you love your wife, you should stop it.
Let's talk about the difference between children in old age and other children! Generally, children born at an advanced age are not as clever as those born at a younger age (there are some children born in their forties around me who are like this, which may be quite special. ) When your child goes to school, you pick him up and drop him off, which makes him feel uncomfortable. The parents of other students are so young and beautiful, and their parents are so old that they will feel inferior in their hearts.
Personal views are for reference only. If you really want a child, it's up to you and your wife.
If the economic conditions and health permit and the national policy allows children, there is no need to listen to other people's opinions. The point is that your family has no opinion. You are afraid of being a test-tube baby in the middle of the year. As long as you have everything, who are you afraid of?
My wife was very excited after May 3 1 the country opened the three-child policy.
Because our first two babies were girls, she always wanted a boy, but for some reason she never gave birth.
But now that the policy has been liberalized, she is eager to have three children, but she is opposed by our family.
Parents at home, including two daughters and parents-in-law, came to persuade her to give up the plan of having a third child.
The first reason is that my wife is 48 years old and is usually in poor health. If she wants to have a third child, she belongs to an older woman.
Moreover, the physical condition can't keep up, and the risk of having a third child due to dystocia is also high. Maybe the child born in the future is still a deformed child, and his health is not good when he is old.
The second reason is that my wife works in a cotton mill, and she is usually very busy, and sometimes she often works overtime, which is basically 12 hour, with a monthly salary of more than 5,000.
If she wants to have three children, she must quit her job and have children in peace.
And because I work in a machinery factory, my salary is more than 6 thousand.
Although both daughters have grown up, they are still studying. Their college education expenses, living expenses and my other miscellaneous expenses every month have already spent a large part of our family income.
My salary is not high. If I have a third child, whether it is a boy or a girl, it will cause great economic pressure to our family and greatly increase our family's expenses and burden.
The third reason is that I am 50 years old and my wife is 48 years old. If I have a third child, we will be over 60 years old by the time he grows into a teenager.
Because the family is not rich, with our economic conditions.
If a boy is born, it will be a problem to get a wife, a bride price, a house and a car in the future, and I am sure I can't afford to raise him too much.
Moreover, after giving birth to three children, my wife must go to work, and it is also a problem that no one takes care of the children.
Our parents are both elderly, both over 70 years old and suffering from some diseases. My father-in-law is still taking care of her sick mother-in-law.
Although parents are in good health, their eyes are worn out and they can't take care of our children. The pressure is much greater!
The fourth reason is that my two daughters have grown up and will definitely get married in a few years.
In case my husband and wife want another child, we are too old to take care of him, and we will definitely help the youngest in the future.
Will become the legendary "brother-helping demon", which will definitely have an impact on their families and cause disharmony in marriage.
Therefore, for various reasons, my family finally advised my wife not to have a third child, and my wife agreed. After the two daughters get married, we will take good care of the elderly!
If your wife is in her forties and wants to have a third child, you must consider all the reasons I mentioned earlier.
If you have money at home, good economic conditions and a third child, there is no pressure.
And your parents and children support you, and your wife is in good health, so she can have children.
This is advice from an experienced person!
At the age of 38, I feel old, my energy can't keep up, and I dare not ask for it. Forget it, educate the two children well, enjoy it as soon as possible, live the life you want, and enjoy life.
It's easy to have children. Anyone can have seven or eight children as long as they are healthy. The question is what your economic base is. Chairman Mao, the great leader, taught us that the economic foundation determines the superstructure. How can you become a billionaire and have three children? You can also help others have three children. If you barely have enough food and clothing, I advise you to give up the opportunity to have three children for others.