1, (emotional problems) always feel that they lack the attraction of being loved. Some people often feel inferior because they have no lover, think that they are not attractive to the opposite sex, think that others look down on themselves, dare not communicate with the opposite sex, and are even more afraid of making mistakes in front of the opposite sex. They have to protect their self-esteem by avoiding contact with the opposite sex and try their best to cover up their inner pain and loss.
Solution: College counselors with this psychological dilemma should be encouraged to find their own strengths from all aspects, excavate and sort out their own bright spots and characteristics that can attract others, learn to change their way of thinking, and compare their strengths with others' shortcomings, so as to strengthen themselves and accept themselves.
2. (Emotional problems) It is difficult to find friends of the opposite sex who can be lovers. The main reason for this psychological distress in love lies in the superficial understanding of friendship and love, and the lack of scientific understanding of social interpersonal relationships, which further proves that their sexual psychological development lags behind the maturity of sexual psychology. Of course, it does not rule out the influence and psychological impact of complex interpersonal relationships formed by rapid social development and concept renewal on college students.
Solution: When you meet such a student counselor, you should help students reveal the naturalness, sociality and complexity of love, and guide college students to have subjective will and let nature take its course in the process of courtship. Of course, if students encounter emotional troubles, it is suggested to talk to counselors or psychological teachers to help students grow up from love.
3. (Interpersonal relationship problem) is one of the three main problems in college psychological counseling (the other two are emotional confusion and academic problems). College students have a strong need for communication, eager for more people to know themselves, get close to themselves and become their good friends. However, due to various reasons, such as shyness, fear, inferiority, lack of communication skills, poor verbal skills, etc., I don't know how to communicate with others, and I am even afraid of communicating and unwilling to communicate with others.
Because students from other places don't understand Shanghainese, some students hold the idea that Shanghainese are exclusive, and they don't get along well with their classmates in Shanghai, which leads to interpersonal tension and loneliness.
Solution: The class can organize some activities to improve interpersonal skills and abilities. Students who have serious emotional problems due to interpersonal problems should be advised to talk to psychological counselors.
4. (Academic Problems) University is the goal that high school students yearn for and pursue, and it is also the spiritual pillar that they give up many hobbies and are willing to trudge in the sea of questions. After entering the university, some students forget to eat and sleep in order to keep their advantage in middle school. Besides my professional courses, I also study some courses urgently needed by society. In addition, they are in a state of intense study due to the examinations of various certificates such as English and computer.
Some college students are not interested in their major. In addition to being forced by teachers or parents to fill in their volunteers for the college entrance examination, the professional adjustment during college admission also prevents them from learning their favorite majors.
Some students were excellent in the middle school that year, but as soon as they entered the university, they found themselves just "ordinary people" with equal strength, and even found that their English and computer were not as good as other students. The loss of superiority also makes some students unable to adapt.
At the same time, some students feel relieved when they are admitted to the university, so even if they feel the crisis of competition and the pressure of employment, they are unable to study hard. Academic frustration will make students feel inferior, anxious and depressed, and even serious psychological problems will appear if they are not solved in time.
Solution: The class can carry out some activities to exchange learning experience, and can also recommend students to seek the advice of psychological teachers.
5. (Career Development and Job Selection) With the deepening of the reform of the distribution system of higher education, on the one hand, the market has brought more opportunities and greater freedom to college students in job selection, but on the other hand, it has also increased the difficulty of job selection, aggravated the behavioral responsibility and psychological pressure of college students, and the graduates' own quality, gender, major and social relations have restricted their autonomy in job selection.
For a few college students, even graduation means unemployment. This change is a realistic contradiction that is difficult to solve for college graduates with introverted personality, poor psychological endurance and weak psychological adaptability. It is influenced by the traditional concept that "you are a national when you enter the university, and you can get the imperial salary when you have an iron rice bowl".
The conflicts of some students' majors, interests, employment purposes and personality characteristics make them ambivalent. Fear, anxiety and irritability break their psychological balance, make them depressed, make them lack confidence in life, lose hope for the future and do nothing about the status quo.
Solution: Knowing yourself, making a good career development plan, improving vocational skills, mastering employment information and seeking the help of psychological teachers can alleviate the psychological troubles caused by career development and job selection.
Summary: between the heavens and the earth of life, if it is a blink of an eye, it is sudden. If the heart is sunny, the heart is beautiful! Standing in youth, everything is beautiful. Even if there are a lot of troubles there, the regrets there can't be forgotten, but blank youth is as important and beautiful.