Don't invade your roommate's privacy.
Everyone has his own secrets, and we should not try our best to explore the privacy of roommates. When the other party turns a field into privacy, it has a special sensitivity to this field, and any topic that tries to break into this field is not welcome. It is especially important to note that you must not rummage through your roommate's clothes without his consent.
Take an active part in group activities
Dormitory activities are not only an activity, but also an important form of connecting feelings between roommates, so they should actively participate in cooperation.
Don't naively treat group activities as a boring move that costs money and effort, and show disdain. In fact, they are all emotional inputs, and they are indispensable. Roommates decide what to do together, and we should respect their choices. If you really can't attend, you can put forward your own ideas and opinions. Don't reluctantly participate, but let your roommates feel that you are dealing with things, and don't flatly refuse to hurt their interest. When others encounter difficulties and want to ask for help, they are responsive.
Good interpersonal relationships are based on mutual help. As long as you pay attention to your discretion and don't embarrass others, it is no problem to ask your roommate for help. Often helping others is also opening a path for yourself.
Don't speak too fast.
Language is an art, and how to communicate with language is a technology. Don't be sarcastic, don't be sarcastic, don't compete with others. "Thank you" and "I'm sorry" are often mentioned, which promotes the communication between roommates.
Finish the chores that should be done
The chores that every member of the dormitory should do not only refer to doing his own thing well, but also include doing the collective thing well. I don't care about the public health of the dormitory, nor about my own health. I don't think any group will welcome a selfish, lazy and sloppy person. Therefore, you must try your best to do your own housework, don't expect others to "help" you, and develop the good habit of doing everything yourself. Collective things must be done by the collective. If you don't do it or do things carelessly, others will have reason to say that you are wrong.
Creating a good dormitory atmosphere and establishing a good dormitory interpersonal relationship requires not only a good personality charm, but also the concerted efforts of all people in Qi Xin, which can be said to be an unavoidable compulsory course for four years in college.
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What are the problems in the interpersonal relationship of female college students' dormitory?
Problems existing in interpersonal relationship of female college students' dormitory
In fact, interpersonal conflicts among college students can be seen everywhere in social activities, and differences in interest, cognition and personality may be the causes of interpersonal conflicts. In our school, interpersonal disharmony in female college students' dormitories often occurs. Through personal experience and in-depth thinking and analysis, it is found that there are the following phenomena in female college students' communication:
First, communication retreat and self-isolation. Some female college students shrink back in dormitory communication, self-enclosed, afraid to participate in the topics discussed by roommates, afraid to argue with roommates, afraid to express their views, and shrink back and look forward. When their legitimate rights and interests are hurt, they dare not argue, for fear of offending their roommates, or show silence and concession, or appear aloof, lofty and inaccessible, eager to communicate with each other.
Second, small group communication. In the interpersonal relationship of female college students' dormitory, there is often "small group" communication. In this small group, everyone is very close and can even share the deepest secrets, while other roommates are excluded from this group and become outsiders. Even in a girl's dormitory, two or more small groups will be formed. In the same small group, everyone is closely linked, but the boundaries between different groups are clear, and there is no communication or little communication.
Countermeasures for interpersonal problems in female college students' dormitory
First, the social aspect. In this social environment, college students are easily influenced by incorrect values and unfair competition ideas, which in turn affects all aspects of college students' lives, including dormitory relations. In view of this, the society should attach importance to college students' mental health education and ideological and moral education, increase publicity, improve the grassroots education system, and create a noble moral atmosphere in society.
Second, family. Family education also has a great influence on people. Therefore, it is necessary for parents to guide their children in behavior and cognition, establish a harmonious, equal and democratic family relationship, explain the difference between principles and emotions to their children, maintain good communication, find problems early and make adjustments. Before and after entering school, parents should give correct guidance according to the existing knowledge and experience of contemporary college students or various social media, introduce their future college life in detail as much as possible, and put forward reasonable suggestions on how to get along with others, so that college students can gradually mature psychologically and physically.
Third, rely on yourself. As a female college student, if she wants to create a good study and living environment for herself, she must first communicate with others and be sincere and frank; Secondly, form good habits, cultivate noble quality and morality, establish and improve great personality, so as to improve their adaptability to the future. Finally, we should standardize personal behavior and respect personal habits appropriately.
Fourth, schools. As far as schools are concerned, it is a task that cannot be ignored to create good interpersonal relationships and dormitory atmosphere for female college students, build a harmonious campus and promote campus civilization. Specifically, the following improvements can be made:
First, carry out colorful activities in the dormitory. The dormitory environment with good cultural atmosphere is one of the important external conditions for good dormitory interpersonal relationship. The school actively carries out activities in the dormitory, which can enhance the feelings between female college students, enhance mutual understanding and trust, and enhance the cohesion and sense of belonging in the dormitory.
Causes of interpersonal conflicts in female college students' dormitories
First, social factors. Under the background of market economy, college students are easily influenced by incorrect values and unfair competition ideas, which leads to the weakening of collectivism of some college students, showing strong self-awareness, selfishness, ignorance of sharing and caring, and unprincipled. At present, the pressure of competition permeates every corner of students' study and life. If coordination is not good, it will easily lead to their own emotional anxiety, reduce interpersonal security, and be defensive to each other. In addition, the widespread use of modern communication tools, such as mobile phones, computers, the love of female college students, and some dormitory crisis events such as theft will also affect dormitory interpersonal relationships.
Second, family factors. Nowadays, college students are basically only children. The pampered life makes them only know how to take, but they don't know how to give superiority, which will make them not understand and respect others. These habits, which are not conducive to communication and doing things, make them unpopular in the dormitory, and it is difficult to maintain a stable and harmonious dormitory relationship for a long time. In addition, college students from different regions have different family economic backgrounds and different knowledge, and the family and school education they received from childhood varies from person to person, and their living habits and values are quite different.
Third, personal factors. Students' personal unhealthy psychological factors are important factors affecting interpersonal relationships, mainly including egotism, inferiority complex, jealousy and so on. Intimate contact in dormitory life leads to common details in life and may also lead to contradictions. The most intolerable details of dormitory life are: no personal hygiene, smelly feet, no cleaning of the dormitory, snoring, indirect telephone calls in class, disagreement with turning on and off the lights and fans, staying out too late, living with outsiders, and using other people's property without permission. Girls, on the other hand, have relatively high requirements for dormitory life, especially for dormitory hygiene and personal privacy. If they don't pay attention to the details of their own lives, ignore the feelings of others, and only care about themselves, they will often find it difficult to communicate because they can't get the approval of their roommates, which will affect the unity of the dormitory.
Second, cultivate female college students' self-regulation ability. Guide female dormitory members to learn to be good at confirming their different roles according to different objects and different degrees of relationship, and master different communication discretion. Only by cultivating students' self-adjustment ability, establishing a healthy concept of communication, learning to cooperate with others, learning to communicate with others, and mastering the methods and skills of communicating with others can we establish good interpersonal relationships in the dormitory.
Third, provide group counseling for girls' dormitories with poor interpersonal relationships. The mental health problems of female college students can be effectively solved by organizing class psychological counseling and grade psychological counseling. It is suggested to organize various interpersonal training and games in the dormitory so that members can communicate and exercise in the activities. In the interpersonal communication simulation game, corresponding game situations are created according to the characteristics of dormitory members, so that students can gain the experience of interpersonal communication in the game atmosphere, realize the significance of interpersonal communication and recognize the value of other members.
In a word, college students, especially female college students, have interpersonal problems in dormitories, which need to be paid enough attention to. At present, it will affect the harmonious construction of campus and the social life of female college students in the long run. Female college students should improve their self-cultivation, cultivate and improve good interpersonal skills, and establish friendly relations of mutual trust and common progress; Schools and society should also strengthen the training and cultivation of female college students' interpersonal skills and work together to build a harmonious campus!