Parents are opposed to their jobs when faced with major career choices. Based on their own experience, they gave us suggestions on choosing a job and a company. Although we are obviously concerned, it is due to the difference of mutual understanding and the dislocation of expectations. What we often feel is disapproval, disapproval and even strong opposition.

Under such circumstances, is there any way to improve our parents' "no support"? Here are a few steps for your reference:

1. Clear up your emotions

First of all, let yourself ease the intense emotions, put the focus of attention back on your feelings, and sort out the reasons for your distress. Distressed, because you can't get the understanding of your parents? Or is it because your parents' attitude and way of expressing their opinions hurt your self-esteem? Or is it the ambiguity of each other's views on the profession itself, or even the subsequent conflict? Or is there something wrong with the interaction between parents and children? Only by finding the source that triggers your emotions can you solve the problem completely.

Put yourself in the parents' shoes and listen to their feelings and thoughts.

Understanding each other's thoughts and feelings from each other's standpoint and listening to their parents' real thoughts without presupposition will convey an acceptable attitude to their parents. Parents can naturally lay down their weapons and authority, and their true feelings will be more natural. I believe that when we let our parents feel our goodwill and respect for them and our willingness to listen, relatively speaking, they will be able to listen to our views on their careers and future calmly. Thinking from each other's point of view and listening actively will produce respect and understanding for each other.

3. Express your reasons for persistence in time.

When parents can really listen to our opinions, we have to seize this opportunity to convey our views in time. In order to express ourselves properly, we must do some homework in advance-collect and sort out information about the profession, understand it extensively and deeply, and explain to our parents why we like and stick to it in a more concrete and understandable way. Although parents may not be able to change their opinions at once, they will have a more objective and in-depth understanding of you and your choices. At this point, we have taken the most important step towards our goal.

4. Getting parents' understanding is the goal of parent-child communication.

When we firmly adhere to our opinions, we should naturally be able to understand the stubbornness of our parents. Everyone's impression and understanding of industry, enterprise and occupation is based on their own experience, and "experience" is the accumulation of long-term interaction between people and their environment, so it is not easy for us and our parents to make great adjustments in a short time. Therefore, it is not easy to get the full approval of parents for all the choices or decisions in life, nor is it easy. However, we can strive for parents' understanding of our choices.

Therefore, when parents have great opinions about our chosen career, we can try our best to let them know more about our decision-making process, various considerations in the selection process and future planning when they feel that their opinions are valued by us. This will help strengthen parents' trust in us. I believe that parents are also happy to see their children and can really make good decisions, because this is the real responsibility for their children.