However, the criteria for college students to judge whether they are gregarious are also extreme, because they are all young people around the age of 20. They were admitted to the university at an early age, and then took the exam after entering the university. They have never been in contact with society and have never had too complicated interpersonal communication, so they will always judge what kind of students are gregarious and what kind of students are unsociable based on their little experience. If you are gregarious, you are a good student who is cheerful, kind, positive, optimistic and upright in the eyes of other students. If you don't fit in, you will be labeled as withdrawn, indifferent, arrogant and selfish by other students. This is a one-sided and extreme judgment, but it does affect the behavior and feelings of college students in the group.
When I was in college, the students around me had many criteria to judge whether a student was gregarious or not. Of course, I don't agree with their standards, but this is indeed the treatment and situation that all college students have to accept. It urges students to study and do things according to established standards in order to get the judgment of "gregarious".
In the eyes of many students, if a person does not join various clubs in the university, it is obviously unsociable. An optimistic and gregarious student should at least join a student club, no matter what kind of club, street dance club, guitar club, go club ... joining a club means that you recognize the students around you and integrate into school life.
The gregarious students are going to run for the positions of class cadres and student union. This behavior sends a message to the outside world-I am a good student with ambition and ability, so college students have more or less admiration and admiration for students who dare to participate in various elections. They feel that this is not only gregarious, but also the embodiment of leadership.
Students who are gregarious must attend classes with their classmates and sit together. They can't sit alone in the corner or monopolize a row, which is the embodiment of unsociable. When I was in college, I liked to sit by the door alone, so my classmates agreed that I was unsociable and had nothing in common with them. In fact, I just don't like talking to them in class and don't want to be disturbed.
The gregarious students should eat with other students in the dormitory, whether in the school cafeteria or the off-campus restaurant. Only eating together is a witness of friendship. This is an unwritten hidden rule in the university campus.
There are many criteria for students to judge whether a person is gregarious or not, but I think these criteria are one-sided and extreme. A person they call unsociable may just like quiet, or he may have his own warm and considerate side. In fact, it is very ignorant for college students to deliberately do something against their own mood in order to gain the recognition of others. Just be happy, why care about other people's comments?