"The farmer saw a frozen poisonous snake. Unfortunately, the snake held it in his arms to keep warm, but when the snake warmed up, it killed the farmer." I believe everyone knows the story of the farmer and the snake, and many people have been bitten back, so not all people are worthy of pity. Some people will please you when they need help. Once they stop giving it to him, this man will become a jackal in the mountains.
Just like Degang Guo said a joke, when you see a beggar, you give him 5 yuan money when you pass by every day. After a long time, you just need to stop or reduce this charity, and beggars will start to hate you. Because he regards your love as dependence and occasional assistance, people will appreciate it, but some people will take this "love" for granted day after day, so that once this "love" is fixed, he will start.
Sun Li experienced this situation first hand. In 2002, at that time, she had just gained a little fame in the entertainment circle. In a program "Hope in the Mountains", she learned that a child in a poor mountainous area named Christina had a touching desire and pursuit for learning in a particularly difficult environment, so Sun Li and her mother decided to lend a helping hand to this student and let him finish his studies and fulfill his fantasy.
Then in May 2002 of the same year, Sun Li and her mother contacted Christina, a child from this poor area, and gave him the first grant. They also promised to help him finish his studies. Later, they not only gave him sponsorship money in his study and life, but also often called Christina to say hello. Sun Li even wrote directly to the children every once in a while to encourage them, so that Christina wouldn't feel inferior and wouldn't have any psychological burden. I thought it would be a wonderful story, but it was marked from Sun Li.
After Hai Qing was admitted to the university, Sun Li and his mother came to see me off, only to find that it was a big star who kept sponsoring me, and then Christina's psychological attack changed greatly. He thought he was on his lap, and his living expenses became bigger and bigger after he went to college. 500 yuan's living expenses funded by Sun Li's mother and daughter were once unable to meet Christina's daily expenses. You know, in 2005, the living expenses of 500 yuan were simply uniforms.
From then on, Christina began to spend a lot of money. During school, she made a girlfriend and went to bars and played games all day. After spending 500 yuan's living expenses, she began to look for various excuses to ask Sun Li's mother and daughter for money. In just over ten days, Christina asked Sun Li's mother and daughter for several thousand yuan, and then asked to buy a mobile phone. After Sun Li's mother transferred the money, Christina looked at the transferred money and could only buy an ordinary mobile phone, which was far from my psychological expectation. She began to hate Sun Li's mother and daughter.
The expenses are getting bigger and bigger. Without telling Sun Li's mother and daughter, I applied for a grant from Haiqing and started a part-time job in 300 yuan every month at school. In fact, the money is enough for Christina's living expenses, but I have been telling Christina Sun Li and her daughter about grants and part-time jobs, so as to get more money to meet my high consumption.
Later, Sun Li's mother and daughter learned about it. They felt that Christina was dishonest and could make money for themselves, so they decided not to subsidize Christina's life, which made them very anxious. They began to "bite the hand that feeds them" and wrote to Christina, saying that Sun Li's mother and daughter sponsored me only to win the audience's favor in the name of sympathy, to make me stand tall in the audience's mind, and to denigrate Sun Li's mother and daughter and hurt his self-esteem.
Subsequently, Sun Li suffered a credibility crisis. Many viewers believed Christina's words and began to boycott Sun Li. The final investigation found that Sun Li's sponsorship was complete according to the previous agreement. It was found in the survey that Christina began to be vain after he knew that he was sponsored by a star. Without saying anything, he spent a lot of money and boasted in a high-profile way. After the truth came out, Christina was basically unable to lift his head at school and had to go through the formalities of suspension.
Today, Christina has graduated. When he was looking for a job, he was directly rejected by the company many times. He also tried to enter the civil service, but he was not accepted. The studio was repeatedly banned. Christina chose not to live in a big city, and went to a small city to find a low-paying job to make ends meet.
So don't be such a treacherous person. Heaven has a good cycle, and heaven forgives people. How to treat the baiwenhang who refused to donate too little from Sun Li and turned around?