The consolation method of son's lovelorn.
1, just lovelorn, don't force questions.
Most of the reasons for falling in love are because they feel right, but there are thousands of reasons for falling out of love. Only the two of them can understand the details. When I was just lovelorn, people were depressed and immersed in their own emotional world. Forcing him to ask questions will only be counterproductive, forcing him to face the questions raised by his parents, just like rubbing salt on the wound, which is by no means a good way to comfort him. If he needs to talk, he will take the initiative to talk and vent to his peers, so parents should not choose to keep asking because they are afraid that he will keep it in their hearts. At this stage, parents should hold back their inner anxiety and give their sons more freedom and space to digest the lovelorn thing. As an adult, he needs time to heal himself.
2. Distract your son.
If parents have the conditions and time, they can take their son out for a trip at this time. Travel is not a magical and effective medicine to treat lovelorn, and it is impossible to forget the pain of lovelorn because of one or two temporary departures. But going to a strange place can divert his attention, and accepting new things is a kind of empathy. It's much better than leaving him alone in the room, because at least you can attract his attention with strange things, so that he won't think involuntarily for a while. This is not to help him escape from lovelorn love, but to help him not to indulge in bad emotions. It is recommended to go to some places with few people but good scenery, and it is best to have a wide view, such as the seaside and mountains.
Step 3 communicate in time
When the son has successfully passed the stage of just being lovelorn but not fully recovered, as a parent, he can choose to have a sincere communication with him at this time. Don't blame him from the standpoint of the elders, or put the blame on the woman. You should have a long talk with him like a friend and tell him with your parents' life experience over the years that if a relationship wants to last, it must be able to face the wind and rain together and live an ordinary life hand in hand. Since I can't go on, there must be something inappropriate, so accepting the facts and cheering up to face life again is the best choice.
Words of comfort to the lovelorn
Love is a lamp, while friendship is the shadow. When the light goes out, you will find shadows all around you. A friend is someone who can give you strength in the end.
What can be lifted and put down is called weightlifting, and what can be lifted and put down is called load. Unfortunately, most people's love is heavy.
In this world, only truly happy men can bring real happiness to women.
Good love makes you see the whole world through one person, while bad love makes you give up the whole world for one person.
When love leaves, please say a blessing to him. After all, I love him.
If you are lovelorn, just remember that since you are lovelorn, there must be something wrong with one link. No matter whose fault it is, I must remember that I have the right to love her, but she has no obligation to love me.
A lonely picture comes to mind after leaving, but please forget it. A person always has a new beginning. Don't let the past bind you in the hall of sadness.
What is lovelorn? Gently, don't regret when you leave, because as long as you wave your hand, you will find that someone can't wait to secretly hold your hand!
Don't say sad, everyone has his own story. Live not to miss yesterday, but to wait for hope and let everyone see your strength. You can live well without him.
Men's love comes from looking down, while women's love comes from looking up. If love is like a mountain, the more men go up, the more women they can look down on, while the more women go up, the less men they can look up on.
People who give up on themselves are still infatuated, full of beautiful memories and fantasies about the lost love, deceiving others, denying the existence of lovelorn love, falling into the quagmire of unrequited love, and some people will have a special emotional contradiction of love and hate.
Forget those unhappy things! Even God thinks that sorrow and trouble don't belong to you. Try to go out, and you will see that tomorrow's sun is warmer than today! Tomorrow's sky is bluer than today!
In the face of lovelorn, parents should accompany their children.
1, takes time to cure.
Children are lovelorn, and some parents are anxious, constantly doing ideological work for their children, hoping that after listening to their own words, their children will completely change. However, this is only a question of encouraging young plants. The child may act as if nothing had happened in front of you, but in fact he just managed to sew up the external wound, and no one knew about the inflammation and pus inside.
It takes time to recover from any wound. When children are lovelorn, please give them enough time to heal. You know, you will be injured in another hundred days.
2. Growth needs space.
Some parents are very cautious about their lovelorn children, for fear that if they don't pay attention, their children's blx will break into pieces and can't be made up any more. But in fact, this excessive concern is not only not conducive to the child's recovery, but will give the child a wrong hint: I am fragile and I have been greatly hurt.
Children who encounter the crisis of lovelorn love should be given appropriate companionship and attention to let them know that they are loved, but they should also grasp the scale.
3. Pay attention to the words.
After giving children a certain amount of time, it is time for parents to intervene. However, some words can't be said, such as? As long as you become better, the other person will definitely like you. ? Parents think they are encouraging their children to cheer up, but the reality is that no one can guarantee that their children will really win each other's favor after they become excellent.
Parents' words will only make children feel that their parents are fooling themselves, or even deceiving themselves, and the purpose of deceiving themselves is to let their children learn. Children in the rebellious period, once such thoughts appear, will not only not cheer up, but will hate reading and learning, and even give up on themselves, which is contrary to their parents' starting point.
4. Guidance requires skill.
To enlighten children, we must first tell them how we feel and show concern and empathy. At the same time, you can share with them the emotional setbacks suffered by yourself or some successful people, and let the children know that he is not the only victim. Losing love is a test that almost everyone will encounter. Rejection does not mean that they are not good, but that they are not suitable for each other.
Lovelorn is not a failure, but a badge of growth. It is a necessary process to learn to face up to yourself, love yourself and become a complete person.