Wang Erdong is a psychological counselor and once served as secretary of the Youth League Committee of Suzhou University. Experienced, he came into contact with some embarrassing cases: some counselors and teachers found that students had psychological problems and dragged them to the office to do ideological work regardless of the willy-nilly.
Is this practice effective?
? According to psychological theory, this will not work. The reason of psychological problems is that there are problems in the subconscious level. Simple preaching is only oral reasoning, and the effect only stays at the other party's consciousness level. This method is undoubtedly scratching boots. ? As a psychologist, Wang Erdong pointed out the disadvantages of simply inculcating and preaching students in universities at present.
? In this era, there is no shortage of truth. In the current WeChat circle of friends, there are various articles about chicken soup for the soul every day. Reading these articles does not mean that psychological problems can be solved. These are two different things. ? 13 Wang Erdong, who worked in the Youth League Committee of colleges and universities, knows the students' mentality very well and makes no secret of his worries. If we just use simple preaching to deal with students' psychological problems, many students will be obedient on the surface, but they are not convinced inside, because the teacher has not helped them solve the problems. This way will only arouse students' antipathy, and the effect is also counterproductive? .
Behind every psychological problem, there is a root that needs to be understood slowly. If no students with psychological problems are found, it will be of no help for the teacher to reason with the students gently. It's a pity that some teachers feel good about themselves and are complacent after telling the students the truth. Do they have so-called feelings? Ideological work? Very effective.
Wang Erdong said,? This is very worrying! Some students do psychological counseling at school, and the psychological counseling teacher didn't give them the answers they wanted. These students are very clever. They will be polite and seemingly cooperative, but they will find any reason and never ask for help again? .
In Wang Erdong's view, a qualified college counselor or student ideological worker should first learn to treat students equally.
Wang Erdong gave the criteria for qualified counselors. This standard seems simple, but it is not easy to achieve. On the one hand, counselors should have basic psychological knowledge, and once students have psychological problems, they should find, identify and deal with them in time. On the other hand, the requirements for teachers are higher, and the counselors' own anxiety should be very low, so as to treat students peacefully. This requires teachers to have a perfect personality? .
Wang Erdong has his own experience on how to identify students with psychological problems.
? Now many colleges and universities will issue questionnaires to freshmen for psychological evaluation. However, many students with psychological problems eventually become? Fish that slipped through the net? Can't be screened out by questionnaire. The reason is very simple, many students have it? Confrontation? The ability of questionnaire. A student once told me that anyone so stupid would choose extreme options. ? Wang Erdong said with a smile.
The secret of Wang Erdong's finding out whether students have psychological problems is playing games. ? When I was a counselor, I organized my classmates to play games. When I play games, everyone is very happy. Once I play, I will show my true feelings, which is defenseless. For example, during the game, if students are found to be listless or have nothing to say with others, we should pay attention to whether they have psychological problems at this time. So the screening is much more accurate? .
Wang Erdong suggested that once students with suspected psychological problems are encountered, teachers can find opportunities to talk with them. It must be noted that the counselor should be a quiet listener and understand the students' problems in the process.
? Recently, some college students committed suicide. These students are like inflated balloons. Depressed emotions have been inflating balloons. If they reach the limit, the balloons will explode. ? Wang Erdong gestured like a balloon with his hand. If the counselor can listen at this time, its function is equivalent to deflating the balloon and not letting them get too depressed. In a flash, a counselor may be able to stop the tragedy? .
Professional people do professional things.
Wang Erdong suggested that listening can be used as an emergency means to find and deal with psychological problems. Then, the counselor might as well let the school psychological teacher intervene in time and exclude the students' psychology in a professional way. Time bomb? .
? Some students are also under great pressure, but they haven't seen their psychological collapse yet. Under the same pressure, some students react differently, indicating that everyone's resilience is different. Therefore, I suggest that in the process of psychological investigation, schools should not only? Sprinkle pepper noodles? Note that we also need to concentrate on helping students in need. ? Wang Erdong said.
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