You must be an introverted person, active in thinking, but limited in mood and not good at expressing.

If you want to talk to them, 1, what they say, if you are interested, you can express your own views, enhance friendship and get familiar with them during the discussion.

2. If you want to turn passive into active, you can use your spare time to summarize what they say every day, collect some interesting topics, attract their attention, and let them discuss your topic through TV and newspapers. In this way, you gradually become the central task, because you are ready to talk, of course, they are not as tall as you, and they admire you from the heart.