However, there are not many people who can really quit color successfully.

The most fundamental reason for the failure of fading is that it can't grasp the core, which leads to no effect and finally gives up.

It can be seen that grasping the core is actually the foundation of success in abstinence.

So, what is the core of abstinence?

In fact, personally, the core of abstinence is to improve self-control.

Why do you say that?

We will continue to explore from the following seven aspects-why the core of abstinence is to put forward self-control ability, namely:

First, refrain from being tempted.

We know that the biggest problem of people is actually the problem of mind.

Abstinence from color is no exception-it can even be said that the reason why people need to abstain from color is actually that there is something wrong with their minds.

The key to healing the mind is to improve self-control.

The implication is that if a person can improve his self-control ability and stop thinking, then many problems will be solved.

It can be seen that improving self-control ability is actually the core of abstinence.

Second, adjust and maintain a good attitude.

In real life, many people are in deep trouble and cannot extricate themselves. In the final analysis, it is actually a matter of mentality.

Furthermore, when a person can adjust and maintain a good attitude, then many things will naturally be solved.

The same is true of abstinence from color.

To adjust and maintain a good attitude, the most important thing is to improve self-control.

Third, think and explore your real needs.

Some people say that their need is to live a good life.

The premise of a good life is to earn enough money.

However, when I made a lot of money desperately, I found that I couldn't stop, so I continued to fall into new difficulties. This is because I don't know my real needs.

Therefore, only by improving self-control, knowing yourself, and recognizing yourself, can we successfully quit color.

Fourth, meditation.

As the old saying goes, each other is born in the heart.

Wang Yangming of the Ming Dynasty also said, "When you don't see this flower, it dies with your heart. When you come to see this flower, the color of this flower suddenly becomes clear", to the effect that all human problems stem from the creation of the heart.

If abstinence fails, in the final analysis, it is because you can't control your thoughts.

Therefore, it is necessary to meditate. Meditation is essentially to improve self-control.

Fifth, recuperate the body.

The fundamental reason why a person needs to abstain from color is that his behavior and mind have deviated from the normal track, which has a great influence on his body and mind.

Therefore, conditioning the body is actually one of the prerequisites for quitting color.

And conditioning the body, in fact, needs to start from improving self-control ability.

Six, not abstinence

Some people say that abstinence means not approaching women or having sex, or even abstinence.

But this is of course a deep misunderstanding.

Because abstinence is not abstinence, but teaching people to control their desires within a reasonable range.

The implication is that people who are successful in abstinence talk about their girlfriends when they are old, and get married when they should get married. There is no need to deliberately escape.

So from this perspective, the core of color abstinence is to improve self-control ability.

Seven, return to normal life

Let's talk about the purpose of abstinence-returning to normal life, not anything else.

In other words, abstinence from color is not to get anything, let alone to practice a certain behavior, but to teach people to return to a normal state from an abnormal life state.

The premise of returning to normal state is to improve self-control ability.

So to sum up, these contents are actually the core of why we talk about abstinence from color, which is actually the real reason for improving self-control ability.

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The materials in this paper are mainly quoted from The Analects of Confucius, Zhuangzi, Tanjing, Tao Te Ching, Sit for a while, A Dream of Red Mansions, Jin Ping Mei, The Abandoned Capital, Walking Alone, Life Philosophy, Plato Says So, Historical Records, Wang Yangming's Complete Works, and Wang Yangming's Works.