But I also have to help the subject refute my parents, because I also feel that what my parents said is not all right. (treat me like a little liar)
Parents' main foothold is that love in college is useless, because it is useless if it is not achieved and there is no result in parents' eyes. The second is to waste money, energy and time and delay learning. This is what your parents really want.
So how do we convince them?
My suggestion is this: two generations think in different directions, and parents want fruitful love. In fact, in this era, everyone may get married several times, fall in love at first sight, and few people get married once in their lives, let alone talk about love for a long time.
Although it may be a fruitless love, you have changed and learned something in the process. There may be a little pain and sorrow, but it is these pains and sorrows that make you grow.
Then there is the core issue. Falling in love will delay study. If your major is awesome, you can build atomic bombs and develop national projects after you become a monk, then it doesn't matter if you study hard in college, but if not, why delay your study?
University is not a place for pure study. Is it difficult for a child to get ahead just by studying and then taking a good postgraduate exam? Is it hard to be a glorious ancestor to be a "child of others' family"? Children are nothing more than new life, all adults, not parents' trumpets and remote controls. 2 1 century, they also want to bind their children with the words of their parents' life matchmakers.
If you really meet someone you like, go after them bravely. Don't leave any regrets for yourself. Then clap your thighs, "Oh, damn, I really regret that I didn't ...", as long as you don't violate the principle and lose your mind, you can do whatever you want.