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I 14 years old. I found a photo of my mother and her leader. Did she cheat? What should we do?
First of all, don't judge that your mother is cheating just because she has intimate photos with the leader. This cannot be accurately judged in the eyes of a child of 14 years old. Of course, our question is based on how to solve the problem of her mother's infidelity. Compared with children, the world of adults is very complicated. Parents will try their best to show a harmonious and friendly family in front of you, but this does not mean that what you see in your eyes is the normal relationship between parents. In fact, cheating is not a rare thing for today's society. I believe you should be able to learn from TV or around. If one of the spouses is found to be cheating, it is nothing more than divorce or forgiveness. However, when this matter was discovered by his own children, it was still quite embarrassing and unacceptable to children. On the one hand, if you tell your father about it, it is very likely that this family will break up, so you don't want your father to know about it and make you a single-parent family. But from your father's point of view, you are a little selfish. You should understand how humiliating it is for a man to have an affair with his wife. If you tell this story, it is not only your mother who is sorry for your father, but also yourself. Besides, as an adult, your father has the right to know that there are problems in his marriage and to deal with his love life. Whether he chooses to divorce or forgive you, he should respect his choice. After all, you don't know how much this has hurt him. Of course, if you want to protect this family, there are other ways, such as having a serious talk with your mother and asking her what she betrayed your father for and whether they can get back together. If your mother is just confused for a moment or has the idea of correcting her mistake, then there is no need to help her hide it this time. Maybe these methods are too difficult for a child, but you have to understand that this family is about to face the crisis of breaking up. As a member of this family, you have this obligation. I believe you must be under a lot of psychological pressure now, but don't put all the pressure on you. What you need to understand is that your parents or your parents still love you even if their feelings are broken and divorced. As a minor, it is irrational to get involved in things between adults, because you can't look at it with their thinking. In your opinion, this may endanger the harmony of the family, but it is also possible that their feelings have gone wrong and they just gave you everything. As children, we certainly hope that our parents are the people who love each other the most in the world, and it is best that there will be no problems for life, but this is unrealistic. They also make mistakes in marriage. Of course, I'm not saying that cheating is inevitable. I don't support cheating, but cheating is just like other mistakes. It is a decision made under many complicated factors, including gender, economy, family and other unexpected reasons, so that as children, we just comment on this mistake.