In the real world, the growing experience of Lu Linxi, a girl from Zhejiang, well proves a point: there are no stupid children in the world, only bad methods.
The rebellious "scum" of the Kochi family
From 65438 to 0995 in Zhejiang, thanks to the open social atmosphere, almost all people engaged in big wave business activities. Lu Linxi was born in this year. Suppose she was born in a family where her parents do business. Maybe because her parents don't have time to take care of her, she will have problems such as rebellious personality with her age.
Don't doubt this situation, because parents are too busy, which leads to children becoming extremely rebellious. Similar families abound in our country. Although the family has money, the growth and education of children have been delayed.
When lin xi the deer was born, you didn't have to worry about this situation at all. The family where she was born is a typical Kochi family. Both parents work in Zhejiang University. Compared with other families, the atmosphere and ideas at home are totally different. Growing up in this family atmosphere, Lu Linxi received a lot of excellent education since childhood.
Even if parents do nothing, but under the subtle influence, Lu Linxi's growth will be different from that of other peers. Plus, she is a girl, so in the eyes of the outside world, the daughter of this senior intellectual family must be the kind of woman who is knowledgeable and elegant and quiet at an early age.
However, the reality is just the opposite. As she grew up day by day, lin xi the deer gradually became a boy. She likes to play noisy, instead of playing some quiet games like girls, she fights with some little boys all day. Everyone else's eyes are anxious, but her parents don't think so. After all, this is the nature of children, and we can't interfere too much.
In this way, Lu Linxi spent a carefree childhood. After entering primary school, her personality not only did not converge at all, but even extended this situation to the field of learning. Her academic performance is very poor, and she even ranks last in the school. Once others say that she is the daughter of someone, she will cry and think that her parents have not fulfilled their responsibilities at all.
Gradually, parents can't stand it. They also found an opportunity to talk to their daughter and ask her about her attitude towards learning. However, Lu Linxi was still careless and didn't show any special enthusiasm. At that time, everyone thought that this girl was a black sheep and would not achieve much when she grew up.
From school scum to school bully
After entering middle school, Lu Linxi still went her own way for a long time. Parents sometimes ask her about her study, but Lu Linxi shows that she doesn't like this atmosphere, but it doesn't mean that she is really not interested in learning. This incident makes parents feel that their daughter's growth or study needs another way to promote.
But at least in the whole junior high school and senior one, no one saw where the turning point of Lu Linxi was. Although she is beautiful, she is not popular in key schools with strong learning atmosphere because of her poor grades. Even her appearance failed to attract the attention of a boy in the class at that time. This made Lu Linxi feel very uncomfortable.
She doesn't need to prove anything to others, but feels that a person's external evaluation can't follow an inherent model, especially for people, and should not be measured by a single dimension. It is under this psychological impetus that Lu Linxi decided to show the students another dimension.
Everyone has similar talents. She originally lived in a family with a strong knowledge atmosphere, which gave her a unique opportunity. She began to pay attention to her study as much as possible, but it turned out that she was not really good at English. Soon, she went from the bottom of the class to the top of the class.
In others' eyes, this is a model from school scum to school bully. But in Lu Linxi's view, letting others see the other side of themselves can block the long crowd. And from now on, she will be herself again, and will not easily make changes against her will because of outside judgment. Even in the face of such a major life choice as choosing a university.
Give up Tsinghua Peking University and go to Harvard.
In the third year of high school, Lu Linxi ushered in an important crossroads in his life. Because of her excellent academic performance, Peking University and Tsinghua decided to make an exception and admit her.
If other students, facing two key universities, throw olive branches to themselves, they will definitely be unable to control themselves and choose one of them. However, as her own Lu Linxi, she made a decision that surprised everyone. She didn't choose Tsinghua or Peking University, but decided to study abroad according to her ability.
This is Lu Linxi's own choice, and others are hard to shake. After all, in Lu Linxi's view, the road of life is your own, not for others to see.
So after graduating from high school, she successfully entered Harvard University on her own. She majored in psychology. Lu Linxi drew a perfect ending for his life before high school with his own practical actions.
This rebellious little girl, from the initial obedience to her own mind to gradually having her own opinion, has not been too much interfered by her parents on the road of life, especially at the stage of being considered to be abolished, and her parents have not taken the so-called "rescue" by pressure.
This fully shows that it is actually very important to let children develop naturally according to their own natural laws. After all, in China, most families always put pressure on their children, and even evaluate them with a negative attitude, which eventually leads to the complete death of many students at different stages. However, after all the difficulties, Lu Linxi will finally have his best college time.
A doctoral student who graduated with a child in her arms.
When he came to Harvard to study, Lu Linxi really saw his own kind. In the university, the learning atmosphere here is free and unrestrained, she can fully discuss various issues, her unrestrained personality can finally be completely released, and her academic performance is always at the best level. This virtuous cycle of learning atmosphere even inspired Lu Linxi's self-confidence.
Like all college students, Lu Linxi met love in college. A Korean boy completely attracted Lu Linxi's attention, and the attraction of the two people was the same, and they soon came together. This feeling is wonderful for Lu Linxi, and love in a foreign land seems to be more emotional.
But what she didn't expect was that she was pregnant soon. It seems that for the first time in her life, her parents are against her, hoping that she can abort the child. After all, her main task now is to study, and if she has a baby, she will definitely be distracted.
Lu Linxi has her own decision, and she intends to give birth to the child. In this way, a girl in her early twenties took her children to study abroad. Although the pressure of life suddenly increased, Lu Linxi felt that his choice was correct. She is not distracted from her studies, and everything is going well.
At the final graduation ceremony, Lu Linxi got her doctor's degree with her child in her arms. This atmosphere seems to be connected with the overall environment of the United States. And the choice of life situation, the key is to find the growth path that suits you, and finally complete your thoughts and wishes.
As a master's degree in psychology and a doctoral student in education at Harvard University, she participated in "I am an orator" and won the runner-up of the year. She also participated in TV programs such as "One Stop to the End" and "Thinking about New Year's Eve". Moreover, in this professional online open class, some of her views and opinions have also been recognized by many young people, causing a lot of voices.
A rebellious girl who came out of Kochi's family finally found her own life path with her growth. Lu Linxi tells the world with his own life experience that children's growth lies not in the power against their will, but in adjusting their ways and strategies to stimulate their potential. Find your own breakthrough, and everyone can get the life they want.