20 13 graduated from the International Department of Shanghai Middle School and was admitted to the University of Toronto with a scholarship in the same year.
Excellent academic performance, GPA as high as 3.96 (out of 4). He should have graduated in 20 17.
From entering school to March this year, Yang Zhihui * * * won seven university-level and department-level scholarships and honors.
It is such a student with excellent academic performance who suddenly committed suicide on the eve of graduation. Studying abroad means graduating from a prestigious school. How can you be upset about suicide?
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Schoolwork, life, emotion and social pressure; Being in a foreign country, no one to talk may be the reason.
It is understood that the University of Toronto has 8,000 China students. There are not a few cases of international students committing suicide in Canada; The hardships behind studying abroad are hard for those who have never experienced it.
In an interview with the media, the vice president of the Student Union of the University of Toronto said that half of his friends and classmates felt depressed and lonely. Anxiety is common:
About nine months ago, a junior girl tried to commit suicide by taking sleeping pills because she was very tired and lonely. Fortunately, before committing suicide, I sent a WeChat circle of friends to say goodbye to my friends. Someone saw it in time and rushed to her house to save her life.
Many China students come to Canada alone, and the food and culture are not suitable for them, so they feel lonely.
Due to poor English and cultural differences, I don't know how to ask for help when I encounter problems in my study. No one helped them, and they didn't know who to turn to for help. I don't want my parents to worry. I don't want to report good news but worry. I bury my emotions in my heart. Over time, it will lead to various psychological problems.
Most students have problems in the first year of college, some will gradually get better after integrating into the environment, but some will still exist in the third and fourth grades.
Students with good academic performance are more likely to be anxious and depressed, because they have high demands on themselves and put a lot of pressure on themselves. Parents in China often put too much pressure on their children and ignore their emotional needs.
Moreover, there are more girls who have suicidal tendencies, but in fact, there are more boys who commit suicide. Because girls are more likely to ask questions and ask for help; However, it is difficult for boys to express vulnerability and commit suicide easily.
Psychological problems of young students
In addition to college students, many children have been away from their parents to study abroad since childhood. Cultural and linguistic differences can easily lead to mental stress and various psychological problems:
According to the Los Angeles Times, before coming to the United States to attend high school, Yang couldn't wait to get out of life in China, because all he did in China was study.
However, when Yang Yuxin entered Pomona Private Catholic High School, she cried many times in the first few days. She got good grades, but she didn't really learn the American "course" until she went to prison.
She wrote in Pomona California Women's Prison,
Two years ago, Yang and two other China students were arrested for bullying another high school student in China. She was accused of many felonies such as torture, kidnapping and assault.
According to the victim's statement, Yang and others took her to a park in Roland Heights, stripped her naked and burned her with cigarette butts. The cause of the incident was just an unpaid restaurant bill.
Yang Yuxin is now 19 years old, and she still has 9 years in prison. She said she didn't want to make excuses for her behavior. But she said that being alone in the United States put her in a strange mode of thinking.
She felt impulsive and stupid. "I will never do such a thing again."
Globalization and rapid prosperity make more and more families in China choose education and family separation.
Parents generally have a thinking that they can do anything for you and sacrifice everything, even if they want to be separated from their children.
Every year, many China students like Yang come to the United States, dreaming of a future that China can't give them.
Many of them hate the education system in China. There are 9 million students competing for 7 million university places every year in China, so about 6.5438 million students fail to study abroad every year.
In 20 15, 300,000 such students came to the United States. In the past 10 years, the number of international students from China in American high schools rose sharply from 1200 to 52,000.
Among these "parachute children" who are not accompanied by their parents, most foreign students live with acquaintances, friends or unfamiliar American families found online, and pay about $65,438+$0,000 per month.
They gave birth to a huge unregulated guardianship industry, and the safety and health of students mainly depend on the good wishes of host families.
Professor Song, who is engaged in related research, said that these parachuting children become more and more closed, anxious, depressed, more aggressive and some even have suicidal tendencies when they are far away from their familiar homes and cultures.
The professor said that it is difficult for host families and schools to replace the kind of support that children's families can give. Moreover, the host families are so mixed that parents can't recognize them at all.
Xu (Hsu), a 0/7-year-old international student, came to the United States by his own choice. His father is an executive of a communication company, and his father gave him advice on going to America.
So far, his new life in America is only school, basketball and computer games. Someone once shouted to him "Go back to his country".
He is boarding at Mr. Zhou's home now. He is also from China. Mr. Zhou and He are fellow villagers, both from Shenzhen. Mr. Zhou said that after he posted the boarding advertisement before, even the parents of a 6-year-old child called for advice.
You can safely send it abroad at such a young age. . .
Mr. Zhou, who has his own children, expressed great concern that many parents do not fully understand the environment their children will enter. Most families in China choose their children's schools and host families through intermediaries.
He said: "They don't know whether the school is good or not, and they don't know whether the host family is good or not, but if others do it, they will do it. This is really sloppy. "