First, the psychological characteristics of college students in love
1, with strong autonomy
On the issue of love, college students have outstanding personality, emotional impulse and are not limited by traditional customs. They generally don't ask their parents' opinions before or even after the relationship is established.
2. The motivation of love is simplified. Many college students don't consider their future marriage in love, and they don't consciously realize that they should choose a lifelong partner. They fall in love only because they need to love and be loved. 3. Self-control and frustration tolerance are weak.
3. Self-control and frustration resistance are weak.
Once in love, college students are not always good at controlling their emotions, letting them indulge at will, lacking rational control ability, relying too much on the object of love, and suffering from a little twists and turns. Once love is frustrated, it will be out of control and unable to extricate itself, which will have a serious impact on learning.
4. Immature and unstable
At present, college students' love is younger and the number is on the rise. People begin to fall in love in the first grade, which is not an isolated phenomenon. Some students even fall in love as soon as they enter school. These junior students, because of their shallow social experience and simple thoughts, many students don't have a clear concept of their life goals and needs, which leads to their simplicity, naivety and immaturity in treating love. In terms of mate selection criteria, appearance is often emphasized, while internal factors are ignored. In the way of love, the form is often emphasized, while the content is ignored. In love behavior, the process is often emphasized and the result is ignored; Value pleasure over responsibility. This kind of immaturity in love, coupled with their economic independence during school, changeable feelings and ideas in the process of love, and lack of ability to properly handle emotional entanglements in love, can easily lead to periodic interruption of love, or uncertain choice of love objects, and the success rate of love is very low.
Second, the problems of college students' love
1, unrequited love and love illusion
Secret love and illusion of love are both cognitive and emotional errors in love psychology. Unrequited love makes some students fall into a painful situation, in emptiness, trouble and even despair. Improper handling will have a negative impact on future love and marriage life. Therefore, college students who fall into unrequited love should stop as soon as possible and choose again. In order to overcome the secret love and illusion of love, it is important to correctly understand the profound meaning of love, and at the same time control emotions with reason, respect each other's choices, and not be emotional.
Therefore, we should also be cautious when falling in love in college.