Your idea is understandable. One is afraid of pain, and the other is afraid of being out of shape or physically out of shape. I think most girls have had such worries.

Judging from your writing, I think you are still young. At least you're not ready to have children.

If you don't want to change your mind at present, don't rush to let your boyfriend follow your idea, because having a baby is a big event, not just for the two of you, but for three generations.

Don't take this matter too seriously. I think you should think about it after two years of happiness with your boyfriend. First, strengthen feelings. Second, you may be more comprehensive and mature in these two years.

If you don't have children in China, there will still be resistance from family and society. You must have enough confidence. But the most important thing is to ask yourself whether you have enough ability and responsibility to ensure that your decision is correct. When you know what life is in your forties, are you sure you won't regret it? If you say that you are only in your twenties now, how can you possibly know what will happen after forty, then it means that your life has really just begun and what is the essence of life.

So if you are young, just wait. In addition, buy some books to solve your worries. Maybe all your worries can be solved.

And when you are ready to be a mother, you will do anything for your children, let alone hurt them.

Your mind is still a child, so give yourself some time to grow.