1. Set the position.

First of all, our parents gave us life. We can't choose our own family, but we can't be ashamed of it. Although parents can't provide us with rich material life, they give us love and teach us sincerity and simplicity. Yes, I am from the countryside, but what's the matter? I'm from the countryside, ready to give up on myself? Do I think I am great because I come from the city? We must face up to the problem of mentality. This is an objective reality. What we have to do is to put our minds right and think about how to change the status quo.

Step 2 be absorbed

Dealing with people is interpersonal communication, so the most intuitive way to know how to treat others is to think about how you want others to treat you. As the saying goes, "Don't do to others what you don't want others to do to you". In other words, in the process of empathy, you should consider other people's behaviors and even moral pursuits, rather than imposing your own behaviors and moral pursuits on others.

I think "don't bother others" is very reasonable, which is actually a good example of empathy. In interpersonal relationships, no one has the obligation to pay for each other regardless of return. Even those who are willing to help others expect corresponding emotional responses. No one likes to take their enthusiasm for granted. To say the least, even if you are such a person with no regrets, you should not expect, demand or even intimidate others to treat you in the same way.

Therefore, being a man is emotional intelligence and needs the support of IQ. Can you rationally analyze the relationship between you? Can you keenly observe other people's situations and feel their emotions? Can you combine these observations and analyze the correct coping style from the other side's standpoint?

On the one hand, improving the ability to deal with people is to improve the sensitivity to social habits in interpersonal communication; On the other hand, especially in difficult circumstances, it will be a double exercise for emotional intelligence and IQ to return to the process of empathy and try to draw appropriate conclusions. Moreover, every time I think about it, I am accumulating subtle positive changes for my future habits and ways of doing things.

3. Be a reliable person

These are all questions about how to get along with people. However, the most important thing to be a good person is not these soft skills, but whether you are a good person or not. After all, the communication between people is based on people themselves. If there are many bad parts in your personality, even if you master these skills well, no one really wants to make friends. In this case, it is empty to talk about how to be a man.

The rhetoric of "good man" is very bad, and its meaning is too wide, but I think the most basic thing is to be reliable. Sincere, trustworthy and reliable. Whether you are funny or serious, witty or taciturn, as long as people around you are willing to entrust you with things and give you corresponding trust in big and small things, as long as everyone thinks you are a "reliable" person. Well, at least on the most basic one, it's done.