According to common sense, if you marry and have children, people under pressure will be more motivated and their lives will gradually get better. My brother is just the opposite. The cause is high-alcohol liquor, and the high-alcohol liquor I'm talking about here is not Wuliangye or Maotai. My brother has no money. The wine he drinks is the kind of corn wine brewed and sold by the local wine merchants in our town. A few dollars a catty. At present, our local good corn wine is only a catty in 30 yuan. My brother was destroyed on this.
There are thousands of people drinking in the world, but my brother is the most typical one in ten miles and eight townships. My father is old, so I can't do anything about him. I can only call back once in a while and promise me "OK, OK, OK ..." Every time I hang up. As usual, drink whatever you want. His wife and children suffered with him.
Over time, the villagers said that this person was stimulated by alcohol and has been abolished. In my opinion, it is completely caused by lack of self-discipline. The farther back, the more surrounded the family. I come home late every year, almost a few days before my 30th birthday. My sister-in-law was unhappy when I had to transfer the money back in advance to buy new year's goods for her. Because it's not my man's money.
20 16 on the third day of September, I was in my small home in Guangzhou, and I had a girlfriend at that time. It's not unusual to get a call from my niece. My nephew's daughter often calls me, "Dad, dad took his medicine."
I was stunned.
Ask me what medicine I took and tell me it was paraquat. Fortunately, I had never heard of this pesticide at that time, probably because I didn't farm at home for many years. I don't know the power of paraquat, so I'm not so nervous and anxious. However, I quickly contacted the young people in the village: I rushed to the hospital. From our town hospital and county hospital to Kunming. I called along the way and asked: How is the person? They told me that I had a gastric lavage in the county hospital, and my mental state was fine. That's good. In my limited concept, such as drinking dichlorvos, an hour or two is not enough. Therefore, the gold rescue period is particularly critical. But they told me it's okay. I thought: it's too late It is urgent. I bought paraquat. Then I burst into tears when I was still in Guangzhou. Sure enough, after they sent people to Kunming, two hospitals refused to accept them. A bed without excuses. I said I wanted to talk to the doctor on the phone, and the doctor told me straight away. He said your brother had a high mortality rate. To get me ready, he said they really didn't have a bed. I don't want to talk to him.
Looking for the third one, my young people were so anxious that they helped me find the third one and finally got it. I also flew back to Kunming overnight. I saw my brother lying in the hospital bed, weak but awake. I said some light words to him. I wanted to find a hotel for the teenagers, but they were too busy to bring their ID cards, so they stayed with me until dawn, and the attending doctor took me aside at work. He said, are you mentally prepared? I said I already knew the result. He said that you should take him back as soon as possible. Once he dies in the hospital, he must be sent to the crematorium. Our hometown is usually buried.
If there is a chance to save my brother, even if I lose everything, I am willing to save my brother back. But there's nothing I can do.
In this way, I tossed and turned, called an ambulance outside the hospital at a high price, and left my hometown with my brother. At 9: 35 that night, I came home. My brother has completed 44 years of life journey.
A few years before my brother left, he drank and beat his wife or children. I gave him a conclusion: he should either work hard or drink all his life. And two children.
The reason for taking medicine is that he let 12 year old nephew go to school. If he doesn't fight, fight or not. Besides, he's drunk. Something happened.
Whenever talking to friends, will children feel guilty in the future? I said I can only try my best to raise children. As long as people have the ability, all problems are not problems. Now I teach my nephew this: your father has been a loser all his life Are you still worthless?
Both children are obedient. My niece has graduated from a college of traditional Chinese medicine in Kunming, and now she has gone to work in Wuhan. My nephew doesn't read much. He went to the construction site to get a high salary, but I wouldn't let him. Now he has found a hot pot restaurant as a waiter in Zhejiang. Every time I contact him, I call him a student; Learn more from the leaders at work. It is obvious that he is making progress, which is very gratifying.
My sister-in-law remarried, and she wants to run her own life. Someone asked: Why don't you marry your sister-in-law? Jokes. Others asked: don't you hate your sister-in-law for leaving her two children? I don't hate it. Like my brother, she came to give birth to two children for the Lins. It's too late for me to thank her.
In 1980s, the math teacher led us two students to the county to take part in the math competition. Because of the cold weather, there are many people in the car and we can't buy seats.
As soon as I got on the bus, I saw a bunch of people around a girl who looked like a middle school student, yelling. Everyone is attacking that girl, which means that a student should have quality and can't take a seat with a bag!
That girl is very just. I bought a ticket for this seat! I bought two tickets!
But the bus is too crowded for people to stand. Until the car started, these guys were still attacking the girl in various languages, not sensible! How did your parents educate you! There is no quality at all! A bag also occupies a seat!
It is this sentence that makes the girl angry! Spicy, next door! Who said that? Who says my parents have no culture! Don't make me impatient, I will scold anyone if I am impatient!
I didn't expect a girl to be so embarrassed to swear, and the carriage immediately quieted down!
There are wronged tears in the girl's eyes: whoever I recruited provoked, you are all aimed at me! Spicy, next door! At home, my uncle looks down on my family, my aunt looks down on my family, even my third aunt looks down on my family! You look down on my family, too! What qualifications do you have!
The girl spilled angry tears, lined up and sat on the seat, trembling with anger: I sat here today to see who kicked me out! Look who's talking about me! I'll rip her mouth off!
The carriage immediately quieted down. There is someone beside the car, and the car is not so crowded. My teacher and I stood a meter away from the girl, looking at the girl with a dark face, like a child studying in the countryside, looking stubbornly out of the window.
At this time, an old lady got off the bus and swayed on crutches. She ran to the girl's seat: Hello, child!
The girl glanced: Someone! Then turned to look out of the window.
Just when the old lady was embarrassed, the girl suddenly turned her head again: sit down! I'll take it!
The old lady thanked her three times. The girl didn't respond, and then looked out the window.
Son, you are very heavy to hold, and grandma will hold you!
The girl looked impatient: no need!
Son, you have a jar in your hand! Who is your family?
My mother! The girl's eyes look cold.
Old lady: Tut tut! Poor boy, where's your father?
My father died the year before last!
The old lady immediately shed tears, took out a handkerchief and wiped it herself: my poor child! My poor child! Tut tut, damn it, where are you going by car? There are no other relatives in your family!
The girl turned her head: My family is dead! Are you satisfied?
The old lady is soft-hearted: tut tut! My baby! Poor boy, you don't have an uncle or aunt or anything!
My family owes my uncle five thousand dollars, and it's still chasing! My aunt disowns me! How many years have my parents been divorced? I have nothing to do with her! My third aunt said I was a burden!
When the girl said this, her eyes were unusually cold and her language was unusually calm and frightening.
The old lady took the child's hand: child, the little hand is cold! I haven't eaten yet! Grandma, here are two eggs. Don't dislike them. Eat them! Then the old lady took out two eggs from the bag, peeled the girl and handed them to her.
The girl looked at two trembling, wobbly, white eggs and said, Grandma, thank you, I don't want it!
Kid! You listen to your grandmother, she cares about you, and you eat it. As she spoke, the old lady twisted the child's face hard and stuck it on her face: child, poor child!
The formal action made the girl's tears brush down, and then she couldn't help crying in her grandmother's arms.
Crying the whole carriage was desolate. The girl cried enough and chewed two eggs in trembling, but she didn't eat them all at once. It seems that she choked and burped in a panic, which made her very happy. She quickly took a canned bottle out of her pocket. I have water here, son. Don't be disgusted, I just poured it from home!
Finally, the girl bowed to the old lady and disappeared in an instant.
My teacher's eyes were red and said, just now, that girl didn't give up her seat, so I almost went up and scolded her.
It turns out that the bag in the girl's hand is her mother's urn! Also, the girl showed her hukou book to her aunt in the car: Grandma, I am alone at home now!
The old lady's tears suddenly came down again: my god! I never suffered from you when I was a child! Then I grabbed the girl and held her in my arms. Holding the jar, the girl hid in her grandmother's arms and trembled again.
I really have such people around me. For so many years, social security has not been paid, and they have been working. They may be financially strapped. Comrade-in-arms parties rarely pay for their own meals, but others pay for them.
Our comrades-in-arms have been soldiers for 40 years now, almost 60 years old. Comrades often get together, but few people pay for meals. Many comrades-in-arms may also know that he is in financial difficulties and will not care too much.
Some things he has done over the years have made some comrades unhappy. Traveling together by comrade-in-arms car, most people know that the expenses are AA system, including travel expenses, gas money, accommodation, meals, tickets and so on. Although there is not much money in a few days, I want you to take the initiative to pay, but this comrade-in-arms is not taking the initiative, but avoiding it. It's hard to say for his comrades, and the driver has to pay for him.
When we go shopping together, we must buy something. He must buy it next to you. He took it and left, and other comrades had to pay. Obviously, he is eating with other comrades-in-arms, and other comrades pay the bill. He wants to pack a book for his family. It is not easy to work every day. Sometimes when there is no job, comrades have to find him a job. Often the quality of the works is not good and the price is high. Comrades are afraid to introduce him to work again.
Some comrades-in-arms also advised that the quality of work should be better, the price should be appropriate, and more work should be done to earn more money, but he did not improve, and he still went his own way, and his comrades-in-arms could not say anything more.
Soldiers can get preferential policies and a policy of not paying social security when they come back from the army. I heard that he paid the preferential piece and left the rest unpaid. Maybe he has no extra money and doesn't know how to live in the future.
Actually, we still worked separately when we came back from the army. As long as the company is a worker, there is at least one piece of land. He has nothing now.
The employee's identity is lost, that is, the social security that the individual should pay has not been paid, and he often complains that he has no money. Comrades are sympathetic except sympathy.
There really is. It's my undergraduate roommate. There are five children in her family. Her parents work in general and life at home is very hard. When we were in college, our other classmates didn't have much money, but our family usually gave us living expenses 1200+, and our basic living needs could be met. But she only has about 600 yuan's living expenses every month, so she is very poor. Count money every day when you eat. You can eat one meat and one vegetable at noon, and you can't eat any good meat and vegetables in the school cafeteria at night.
Eating is still the case, let alone buying clothes or something. In four years, she only added a few new clothes. When her peers eagerly discuss where to go shopping and what skin care products and cosmetics to buy every day, she tells me that it took 15 yuan to eat today, and it was a bit over budget. This is her regret. Every time I hear her say that, I'm really sad.
But this feeling of feeling sorry for her was soon diluted by her actions. When I was an undergraduate, my family didn't give me much money, but I was superstitious about saving money and opening up new sources. Therefore, in addition to studying hard and getting scholarships every semester, I am crazy about doing part-time jobs. A part-time job of 50 yuan a day, even if I am unhappy, I will go; Sixty or seventy farts went.
Once I found a part-time job as a temporary waiter in a restaurant, which cost 80 yuan a day. At that time, the salary was very good for me [covering my face], so I wanted to go, but people wanted two people, hoping that it would be better to have two people and save others trouble. So I think her living expenses are already very low, so she should go. So I begged her to go with me so that I could get 80 yuan a day and take care of two meals. However, no matter how hard I try, she won't go, saying that being a waiter in a restaurant depends on her face. It was such a long distance that she had to take several buses. In short, it is a bunch of reasons. My other roommate couldn't stand it anymore, and said sarcastically, "You can learn to bully yourself. There is plenty of money, and I don't care about the salary of part-time jobs." The two men have never dealt with each other. After listening to my roommates' words, they were ashamed and annoyed and finally agreed to go with me. I'm relieved. After grinding for two hours, someone finally went with me. On the way back from a part-time job that day, she was also very happy. After all, according to her living standard of less than a day 15 yuan, 80 yuan should be able to use it for nearly a week.
However, I begged her for two hours and felt very tired. I'm surprised that she spends so much money every day instead of taking a part-time job. At that time, college students had many part-time jobs, so it was not shameful to earn some pocket money by themselves.
After this incident, she is still the same. She never takes the initiative to find a part-time job, and she hardly goes when others call her, and I no longer ask her to join. For four years, her academic performance was average, and she never won any miscellaneous scholarships. When I was a junior, my sister went to college, and the family was even more difficult. Her original living expenses in 600 yuan were also intermittent. She often tells me that she hopes to graduate as soon as possible so that she can go out to work and earn money. I didn't respond to her, thinking silently, you have plenty of opportunities to go out and earn some money now, and you don't have to live so hard at all, but I know it's no use talking, so I didn't speak.
Yes, our company has one. She is from Henan. She just came to work, and everyone felt sorry for her. What she did later was of her own making.
Her hometown is Henan, a family of four. Ben is also happy and loving, his wife is virtuous and his son is filial, her husband works at the construction site, and she takes care of the children at home. The weather is unpredictable. My husband had an accident at the construction site and broke his leg. At first, he couldn't stand on his own feet. Exercise slowly and make do with cooking and going to the toilet. I didn't go to school as a sophomore at that time. She came to our factory with boss Wang (a worker), and she came a year later. Speaking of her experience, everyone sympathized with her and thought she was not easy. She is also willing to endure hardships and be frugal. Her mother is also more than 100 thousand a year for two years, and the day is coming soon.
Who knows, the next year, she hooked up with the doorman and went to see him at midnight every day, but the rumors in the factory pulled her down. After a few days of stability, she was restless again. Regardless of her son's eyes, she ran away with a man directly during the Chinese New Year. Unexpectedly, she was caught by the foreman halfway, which made a fool of herself. People don't care. They just ran for the New Year in their hometown and didn't go back to the factory. A year later, they gave birth to another son. She doesn't want to take care of the children or hire a nanny. She went back to work in the factory and earned only enough money to be a nanny. She didn't know what to do.
Besides, she is older. Her mother ran away with someone and her son was afraid to come back. She spent money to buy a Yunnan daughter-in-law in her hometown. After two months of marriage, my daughter-in-law ran away and my son went to Yunnan to find it. Somehow, she said that she was jailed for drug trafficking and sentenced to 20 years. Alas, his mother also regretted it, but what can be done?
His mother is also fifty this year. Poor people must have something hateful. They should pursue a better life and not violate social morality. True story, let's talk about whether this person did it right.
An old lady in the village is really hateful, but very pitiful. The old lady is over seventy, almost eighty. When she walks, her upper body and lower body are at right angles. She is not hunchbacked, but has severe lumbar spondylosis. Many years ago, when she walked, her waist could not stand straight. And walking slowly, the village is more than one kilometer away from the town, and others walk there in half an hour. The old lady had to walk slowly on crutches for more than an hour. Although she is like this now, she was one of the most important people in the village when she was young. When the old lady was young, her husband couldn't control her. She and a married man in the village have proper relationship. Every time I meet my wife on the road, she never feels ashamed and insists on fighting with her. Later, another wife died of a heart attack, but she broke up with that man. It turns out that the woman can get 200 yuan's pension every month before her death (because she was married before, her husband died in a mine accident, and I will take the children to marry the man later, and this pension is often taken out by her man to Xiaosan. After the woman died, the pension and children were taken away by her uncle, so the old lady had nothing to do with the man. The old lady gave birth to three daughters and a son. Her son is now in his forties. Because her husband died early and her family was poor, her son never got a wife. Later, her son worked outside and brought back a woman who could smoke and could not have children. The old lady drove her away. Later, someone introduced her son to a divorced woman who was several years older than her son. Suffering from gestational diabetes, I went to a third-class first-class hospital in the provincial capital when I gave birth. The old lady scolds at home every day: "other people have children, and they are not as delicate as her." Will she have a prince? " When the son and daughter-in-law came back, the old lady's face grew long when she heard that she had a daughter. Daughter-in-law confinement, scold at home, and don't want to think about how dangerous it is for others to give birth to his son in their forties. Moreover, when the son is in his forties, how lucky someone is to have a daughter. Her granddaughter, she never hugs or watches, and her daughter-in-law cooks for her, which is not to her taste. She overturned the table and worked hard every day. Now that my little granddaughter is over two years old, she has always disliked being a grandson and completely ignored it. So, there must be something hateful about the poor? It's true!
I used to have a female friend (former colleague) who didn't know me very well. I introduced my rich second generation friend to her, and repeatedly warned her that girls must respect themselves and not grasp the scale too casually! Also warned the rich second generation not to hurt their feelings and not to worry me! I heard that they broke up more than a month ago, so I asked her to go skiing together, because she always joked with my ski master and pretended to be drunk in other people's arms, which made my master Chun Qing seriously … I thought my master was honest and good together! As a result, she called and said that she knew a rich second generation chasing her, and the other party opened an alpha to pick her up [tears] and asked me to keep it a secret!
When skiing, the master suddenly asked me, "What kind of car is Alpha?" I said, "I drive that thing and I'm the driver." I was angry at that time ... Later, I found the girl and said to her, "You have nothing to ask for, but you don't even have the basic goodness to be a human being. Then you are useless! You always think you are emotionally weak and unbalanced, but why do you want to impose the same unfair pain on others? My host really has no money, but you are not interested in people. Why do those ambiguous things? Let me show my secret to my master? He hasn't been very calm recently. Your behavior can completely change a person's values and distort his views and understanding of many things! "
She is irrefutable. I never talked to her again ... when a person needs to sacrifice other people's feelings to establish his self-esteem and self-confidence and prove his charm, he is hopeless, especially when she makes others experience his own pain, and he has no conscience at all! Because she had no content, was bored and fake, and Alpha finally died!
Most importantly, she violated my most taboo. I have always told her that friends are friends, and there can be no ambiguous and emotional connection, so that friendship and circles can develop steadily and in the long run, and there can be no cigar smoke!
My rich second generation friend who has been hiding from me for more than a month invited me to dinner. I asked him why. He said, "That was when we went to the desert. I came out of the bathroom and found her sitting in a chair in the dining room in a bold posture, which I had never seen before. I was very sad! It doesn't matter if you know it at first, but you are usually very skilled and decent! " The second time we met, the girl took him home!
So people's misfortunes are all caused by their own actions ... If you don't realize your mistakes and correct them, you will only sink in the same cycle for the rest of your life! Self-esteem, self-love, bottom line and principle, truth and frankness ... What you pay is what you get! Girls must see the world more [cover their faces] and don't let material things affect their minds!
Yes, when my mother-in-law was young, she didn't take care of the children or do housework. She has her own salary and we also have living expenses. Now I'm old, I can't even turn on the TV. I curled up on the sofa and looked at her. It was pitiful and hateful.
There is a young girl who looks very strange; To put it simply: I can't stand any "grievances"; These include some "false grievances", which she thinks are "grievances"; For example, the work to be done, the materials to be handed in, and the tasks to be completed are either delayed or not done well, and often need to be reworked. When you are urged and corrected, you feel "wronged" and "bullied"; It is easy to lose your temper and complain. Don't fight for what you shouldn't; Everything that shouldn't be argued is washed away. Everything is someone else's fault; Often quarrel and rub with colleagues and leaders, "quit!" It has become a spoken word, and I don't know who I'm threatening. She also spent a lot of energy, such as opening an online shop, taking out her mobile phone at work, and often keen on selling goods to colleagues. Her mind is not at work. Who wants to accept her sales promotion? Often talk about one of her classmates and friends, how much money she earned and what luxury car she drove; Wait a minute.
Everyone's personality is different, so is his family and growing experience. When dealing with people, their ideas, attitudes and ideas are different; Society is a big school; A lot of things,
It is necessary to reflect.
Neighbors, drinking "as a meal", don't work, beat and scold their wives, and their wives can't bear to take their children away. What he did later was particularly hateful and pitiful.
Before the neighbors got married, they saw wine like "mosquitoes see blood". Wine is more important to him than rice and water. It's hard to scratch your ears if you don't drink it three times a day.
Finally, I coaxed into marrying my wife. I feel carefree, my love for wine has reached a higher level, and I have drunk too much. Sometimes in the morning and at noon, I sleep after drinking too much.
Most of the work in the field is done by my wife, and some heavy work women can't do. After a long time, his wife advised him to drink less and do some work. What he said to his wife went in one ear and took risks in the other.
One day after lunch, my wife saw that the weather was bad, like a thunderstorm. He said to his husband who was still drinking, "Stop drinking, eat some rice quickly and follow me to collect the dried wheat." It's going to rain soon, so I'll go first. "
Walking to the gate, I vaguely heard the sound of thunder in the distance, so I raised my voice and said, "Stop drinking and eat quickly! Let's go, it's really raining. "
This time, the neighbor agreed happily and said, "You go first, and then you will arrive." Seeing his wife out of the door, he picked up the bottle on the table, looked at it and drank less than half a catty.
Then I poured half a cup and looked at the bottle again to make sure there was only half a catty left. Then I put the lid on and put it aside. You must drink half a catty at noon every day, not less.
After a while, there were more and more dark clouds in the sky and more and more thunder. His wife swept the wheat into piles by herself and put it in the bag. Sweat soaked my clothes and I was out of breath.
She looked up from time to time to see if her husband had come. At this time, a big lightning just passed, followed by more thunder, followed by a downpour. In an instant, water dripped on the ground, and several piles of wheat were confiscated and washed away by the rain.
His wife was alone, and nearly 20 generations of wheat were packed together in the rain and covered with plastic sheets. After returning home, people seem to be wearing clothes and have just climbed out of the reservoir.
A look at her husband still lying on the kang, fast asleep. My wife was so angry that her root ached and didn't call him. After the rain stopped, she packed her things and went back to her parents' house. She thought that she must not forgive him this time and must divorce.
It turned out that twice last year, neighbors fell asleep after drinking, regardless of life or death. The wife said it was light and didn't listen. If it was heavy, she called names and even hit her.
Wife, watching the poor jingle at home, he took a few dollars to drink, lost hope and lost confidence in life. I took my child back to my parents' home and stayed for 1 more than a month.
The neighbors waited and waited, but their wives didn't come home. I asked the brigade cadres to come forward as guarantors. When the neighbor wrote a letter of guarantee to his wife, he stopped drinking and knelt down.
His wife forgave him, this time it was only half a year since the last time. A few days later, the neighbor tried to call his wife back in the same way as last time. But this time, the cadres of the brigade are unwilling to go. People say that neighbors are not trustworthy, which is not what men should do.
Later divorced, the child was awarded to his wife. In this way, neighbors can drink freely from morning till night. Drink it the next day. Grass in the field grows better than wheat.
The next year, I contracted 800 yuan to others and spent a few days partying. A few days later, when the money was spent, he went to credit. Later, the shop in the village refused to give him credit because he never paid back the money.
Sometimes it's getting harder and harder to eat only one meal a day. A man in his forties can eat, drink and not work, and still have money. Everyone in the village said he was hateful and pitiful.
My neighbor's brother, who used to be an officer, moved to a big city and never came home for many years. Going home during the Spring Festival, I saw my brother's predicament and coaxed him:
"Brother, it is important to drink less wine in the future. My parents have already left, and I can't take care of you. Can I rest assured that you drink like this every day and don't work? "
Neighbors quickly swore: "Don't worry, brother, I will drink less in the future." I keep everything you said in mind. "
My brother bought him eight sheep, including four ewes, and let him go out to raise them every day.
In this way, there will be income every year, and a person's life is more than enough. When his brother left, he left him some money. When he left, he repeatedly told him to feed the sheep well and life would be better.
A few days later, I forgot all about my brother's instructions. Money in hand, drinking and smoking, and buying barbecue every day. I didn't go out to feed the sheep for several days, and I cried the sheep very sadly, so I reluctantly went out and cut some grass for the sheep to eat.
A few days later, when my money ran out, I began to think about sheep. Only one was sold today and only one was sold the day after tomorrow. In three years, only sheep manure was left in the sheepfold, and it was sold out.
Then one day, my neighbor's wine was friendly and I didn't see my neighbor for a few days. I hurried to his house, the door was open, and the neighbor had not got up when I went in. Lying on the kang motionless, I don't promise to call.
I was shocked when I pushed it with my hand. I was cold and hard, and I didn't know when I left. I am 48 years old this year.
Neighbor brother went home to take care of his own affairs. Neighbors told him about their behavior after he left. If you have money, you drink to death, but you are still killed by wine. It's really pathetic.
His brother said regretfully, "What a hateful poor brother! How can I tell my parents in the future? " ! I often tell you that drinking is bad for your health. Why don't you listen? "