After making achievements, children leave their hometown to develop in other places and rarely go home to visit.
Zhou Ke told a story around him. Zhou Ke's aunt is a rural woman. She has two children, a boy and a girl. These two children are both excellent, and their academic performance has been very strong since childhood. They are often rated as three excellent students during their school days. Became the children of other people's families in a village. The wall at home was covered with all kinds of awards from study, and then the college entrance examination was finished. Both children have been admitted to good prestigious universities.
The eldest son was admitted to "985" and completed his studies with a student loan. He worked during college and after school, and never asked his family for money during college. The second daughter also went to study abroad. Facing the opportunity given by the big city, the second daughter has been trying to grasp it. Because of my excellent grades, I won a scholarship from the school. I started a small business with a scholarship and made my first pot of gold.
After graduating from college, the eldest son went to work in a foreign company. He often travels abroad because of the need of work. With the development of his career, his business expanded abroad and he was also in charge of foreign business. He needs to keep in touch with outsiders and often runs around. I seldom go back to my hometown to visit my mother.
After graduation, my daughter stayed in the city where she studied and found a good job with considerable income. Later, after working for a while, my daughter resigned and started a business, and the business was in full swing. She paid the down payment with the money she earned, bought a house and settled in a big city. Later, I met my lover and got married, so I will only go back to my hometown when I have a long vacation.
The "empty nester" admits that the better the child is raised, the farther you are from him.
In the face of the development of the two children, others say that the mother of the child will educate and make the child so promising and have her own career, but the mother has her own sigh. She always looks sad when she talks about the child with others. Although the child looks promising, she has unspeakable distress that the child can't be with her. Because the two children are so excellent, the old man is farther away from the children and lives an "empty nester" life.
Now mother and wife live the life of "empty nesters" and begin to regret raising their children too well, which leads to the distance between them and their children getting farther and farther. In fact, in real life, there are many such examples. Now more and more old people don't want their children to be too good. They just want their children to be with them.
Why do more and more old people want their children not to be too good? The reason is too painful.
The first reason: I hope my children can spend more time with me.
There is an old saying: if your parents are here, you should travel well without traveling far. When parents get old, their greatest hope is to let their children wait on them and be filial. For some parents, it is a very painful thing that children who have made great achievements cannot accompany their parents because they are busy with work all day. In their later years, parents began to become clingy and selfish, hoping that their children would not be too promising and had better stay with them. My parents' love is unrequited love They brought us up with great pains. People's time is limited, and they want to work hard to have their own career. When parents are young, they can fill their lives with work. Only two wives are at home after retirement, and it will be very lonely.
The second reason: children can take good care of their families only if they have no ambition.
The ancients said: loyalty and filial piety can't be satisfactory. If children are promising, they will be more capable at work, so work and family cannot be well balanced, because people's energy is limited.
Promising children have their own careers and companies, either company executives or successful careers with hundreds of employees. In life, they can't accompany their parents well, let alone take care of their families. This will easily lead to contradictory and discordant voices at home, and the elderly will be more worried. I hope the children can enjoy a happy family.
Ms. Zhang's children are people who have returned from studying abroad. She is very demanding about finding someone, hoping to go hand in hand with herself. So she went further and further on the road of blind date, but she still couldn't find the right person. She either feels that the other person is not worthy of herself, or that the other person looks down on herself. So that they are nearly forty years old and still single.
Ms. Zhang has no idea about children. She said distressfully, "Why do you study so well and have such a high vision?" Wouldn't it be nice to find someone with a good personality to live a good life? "But the child didn't say so:" This is because I didn't find the right person, so there is no way. "
So old people don't want their children to have a good future.