James said, "I don't want to give advice, because every experience is your teacher." You can learn, you can have excellent parents and mentors, but experience can't be taught, you have to experience. "
This weekend, the first week of school is over. Lao Yang asked me to talk about my life experience, which was a very cunning move. After all, being a life mentor for young people is like advising people not to buy a house now, and the probability of being hated is very high. For example, James is a chicken thief on this issue.
But perhaps the elderly marginal writers still need to embark on this road after all. After all, it is always better to teach people to make money than to make money by themselves. The income of pimps is often much more than that of people who go into the sea themselves, which is even reasonable. Even if you roll over one day, you can still pose bravely. For example, an emotional expert divorced, he can finally get rid of my friends, my classmates and my relatives, talk about his personal experience and create an open-minded life sentiment. After all, the experience he sells is like Mikami Yua's cosplay, which can provide all kinds of touches and enrich every lonely night.
So you don't have to worry that this article will become another variant of CCTV's "The First Lesson of School". My first advice is not to trust any advice. After all, it is not easy to survive. It's a bit heavy to suddenly come to a media platform to chat and be educated. So I will tell you a short story about my college experience. Of course, you can choose not to believe a word of a middle-aged man's short story, especially if it is bragging at first glance.
The first is the benefits of going to college. For a long time, the way for China people to change their destiny is reading. If this change is long enough to grind people, there will be a crazy golden model. However, in today's society, the university is far from the end of the imperial examination, and its benefits have begun to become somewhat vague. J.A. Smith, who teaches philosophy at Oxford University, told freshmen, "The main purpose of education is that you may increase your ability to discover other people's nonsense." What he means is that college won't let you know right from wrong, but at least it can make you avoid believing the short message that Mr. Liu sent last night to raise money for whoring. This is an IQ-based education.
However, Mr. Smith has been a professor for more than one hundred years. At that time, there were no Baidu medical and self-media life instructors in the world. Judging from a large number of painful cases, going to college has not improved our ability to distinguish cheating, which may be related to more scammers and bad guys going to college.
In my opinion, the only advantage of contemporary universities for ordinary people is that if you study hard enough, you won't become a person who has no skills and can only distinguish right from wrong. This is the most basic, because you can spend four years learning a skill around you. After you leave college, you will understand that time is the biggest cost of your study.
In these four years, houses, tickets, tits, children and old ladies are just symbols like urban legends, just "others" stories on forums and Weibo. When you are a college student, your imagination of this society may still stay at the level of red and white machines. As long as you master the skills and ABAB, you can go through customs. In fact, when you really step into the society, you will find that Hidetaka Miyazaki's plot is real, and every thug can kill you.
It is not that if you study well in college, you will be invincible if you enter the society, but at least you can have a sharp knife, which is the survival criterion applicable to most people. After all, not everyone leaves school and drives tanks by family business. But for more students, few people can see the significance of sharpening knives before they really need to cut wood.
Therefore, I have no intention of discouraging students. Frankly speaking, my GPA in college was also very sensitive, and I didn't really realize the benefits of having a skill in the end, which made me suffer a lot after I entered the society, but I knew I was just suffering from ordinary hardships, far from suffering much. One day after graduation, I went back to my alma mater and saw an A4 paper on the wall downstairs of my dormitory. There are two lines on it, one is "Wang XX looking for his brother" and the other is a series of telephone numbers.
In the third year of high school, one of my classmates played games with me in the Internet cafe all night. At that time, he had been studying for two years, and he had an old face that was extremely inconsistent with his age, and this Wang XX was his sister.
Therefore, if a life tutor teaches you that college is to be coquettish and dry, you must never trust him.
When talking with Lao Yang about this topic, he eagerly asked me, "How many girlfriends have I called?" . This exposes his nature, but I am a pragmatic person. I didn't master the input method, making a big fuss. Instead, I honestly blew a cow force and said a number that made Lao Yang gasp in admiration.
It doesn't matter how much this number is, it just provides us with the benefits of the university on another level. Some people even say that this is an open plan: do you think that the state sets up universities to let you study hard? In fact, universities only provide an open and fair communication platform. Ordinary people can also think freely about mating, and the country does not have to worry about the source of the next generation of labor.
Actually, I don't believe in this kind of conspiracy. I believe that most students in engineering colleges will not believe that this deliberate arrangement of anti-intelligence really exists. Isn't this a strong man's broken wrist?
However, if there is an opportunity, we should still be prepared for great love after school starts. It's not that you won't meet any pure love when you talk about society-do you think you can meet any real love at school? The main reason is simple: you should do the right thing at the right age.
Young people around the age of 20, if they don't try hard to fall in love, are violating human relations. Senior Zhu Wen made it very clear when he wrote "I Love Dollars" on 1996, "They are young, like just blooming buds ... plump grapes are always on the market, and there are many varieties, some are expensive and some are cheap. There are no fresh grapes to sell in winter, so let's eat raisins. "
The seasonality of love is so important that the only thing you need to do is to keep the same fresh body and soul, as well as enough family planning supplies. The only thing I don't like about free love is that some students still don't know where to buy these family planning supplies. What age is this? The platform selling condoms can even broadcast the NBA live, and you don't know how to spend money on it. This can only be explained as an IQ problem.
Another advantage of college life is that it provides a gap. Before this gap, most people lived a life with clear criteria in 12. In this 12 year, the criteria for judging you as a student are quite uniform. There is always a standard for a test paper, and there is always a teacher for a composition. It is undeniable that scores and rankings are there.
As a student, whether you are good or bad, positive or negative, teachers and grades will always give you a relatively certain evaluation. This kind of evaluation or feedback usually appears immediately, and the road to positive feedback is usually clear. As long as you do A, you can get B, and Huanggang has brushed enough papers, so you can always be familiar with some questions.
But after entering the society, if you do something, the feedback may not come immediately, and you don't know whether what you did is right or wrong, and where the result will go. This is why the market for life mentors is always endless. Inertial thinking will make you need someone to point out a methodology that can lead to so-called success, just like when you were still at school, there was always a unique answer to a topic.
Unfortunately, there is no standard answer in life. At this time, if you have religious beliefs, it may be better. A man who gnashes his teeth and only God can judge me may help you through many difficult times. For those who have no faith in their hearts, they can only chant "Don't forget your initiative" with others. However, what you need to ask yourself is: what is the initial heart?
When it comes to this question, many people will be confused. Readers who are familiar with me know that my favorite sentence is "If there is tomorrow". It is a question for me whether I will continue to write basketball tomorrow. That is the reality. The reality is that boilers are warmer than basketball, and burning boilers is more profitable than writing basketball. Times have given us ordinary writers the opportunity to make money by writing, but talent, hard work and time are the biggest dream killers. Behind all the glamorous careers, love, teachers and fans, what I know is the current situation of those writers who work 9 hours a day for 60 yuan, which is our cramped lifestyle.
In the grass-roots ball writing career, I have seen too many people leave and too many people enter. They all write very well. Maybe they will catch up with half of me in ten years.
Yi Jian teacher Huan Chunqiu said that among ordinary writers in the special writing industry, they often fight for endurance instead of talent, and what they fight for is endurance. There are too many geniuses in writing, but many people may leave after publishing a book because there are too many temptations and too few temptations. In recent years, since I started working in the media, I have been out of the excitement of "promoting (spreading) fame (reaching) and establishing (thousands) of people", and it is hard to be tempted by the promise of "making screenwriters live decently". I gradually understood the most realistic sentence in The Great Gatsby: "She is smart enough not to walk with a long forgotten dream year after year.
Yes, you don't need to remember too many famous sayings, only one or two sentences are useful. Fitzgerald's sentence is very useful, so I will quote it again and again until more people see it and agree with it.
Therefore, four years of college life is just in a gap between affirmation and wait-and-see. In college, certainty and uncertainty coexist, and teachers and grades are still under pressure, but in primary and secondary schools, it is not as clear as before, and parents are often away. The evaluation system you are in is changing quietly, which is a transition zone where a person is "smart enough".
Before graduating from college, a close friend went to ASUS Bolian to study and invited everyone to dinner. My buddy is a heavy drinker and drunk. I'm carrying 120 Jin of him like a felton, and he wants to play the coquetry and say that he wants to learn to sing "What a shame".
So that beautiful autumn night, there was another guy in the world who could sing Zhang Chu out of tune. "They are against life and boredom ..." He shouted in a few words. It looks as if he is breathing the air of Edith.
Many years later, I learned from the recent photos that he finally really has the figure of felton, and we haven't had a substantive conversation for a long time. Only Baidu Encyclopedia can find his name, his career is booming, and his wife and two children are very happy. I guess he has forgotten that he once opposed life and boredom, just as I accidentally opened my old CD package and found that I bought Nininchnails mouthparts.
Wang Xiaobo wrote a novel called A Night Tour in Tea, which is very interesting. Every college student should pick it up and read it. He said that on the way to "being respected" and "showing dignity in various occasions", everyone can't help but strive to become an elite in society.
Therefore, before you become a real "person", you should still be grateful for college life, or try to stand two meters behind the three-point line like Curry and make a few three-pointers. You should also really "experience" it like James said, because this may be the last time you are not dignified but no one makes a fuss.