What should I do if my husband cheats? What should a smart wife do? When Xiaoling went to college, her first love was her future husband. Although in the past six years, they encountered some twists and turns on the road of love, but they finally made a positive result and started a happy marriage in the next eight years. Recalling the emotional trajectory of this decade, Xiaoling is still full of happiness. Although she didn't get the favor of her husband's parents at first, and although Xiaoling's parents also raised objections to her wedding plan, in the end, their persistence made them establish a love nest in a strange city.
With the birth of her son and the continuous development of her husband's career, Xiaoling's happy life seems to have just begun. However, a strange phone call knocked Xiaoling from the cloud of happiness to the abyss of pain. The strange woman on the phone is her husband's mistress. She mercilessly revealed the fact that her husband cheated on Xiaoling for a year, and the happy sky suddenly collapsed. Xiaoling's example is one of the help-seeking cases that Yuan Dun Emotion, a well-known marriage and love emotional consulting platform under Guangzhou Beinai Education Consulting Co., Ltd., receives every day. Yuan Dun Emotion used Xiaoling's case to tell all the wives who were deeply involved in the marriage crisis how to use their wisdom. Resolve the crisis of husband's derailment;
1. Objectively speaking, cheating is because of men's physiological needs, or because there are problems in marriage. In short, the purpose of divorce is rarely the purpose of the husband's cheating. At this time, the wife should think clearly whether divorce is a better choice for the children. Is it a better choice for yourself? The rich experience of guarding 1.82 million marriage emotions, answering 6.38 million emotional puzzles and triggering more than 300 authoritative reports can tell you that the divorce rate of second marriage is much higher than that of first marriage, and the proportion of divorced women who feel happy is much lower than that of married women.
2. Low-key advice to the third wife not to divorce does not mean that the husband will be addicted to finding a third wife. A smart wife will not force the third wife in a big way, but will only make your marriage a joke to everyone. A smart wife will beat about the bush and give her husband a step to make a rational choice between family and mistress. Men are rational animals. After the passion, they all know which one suits them best. At this time, a smart wife can let Xiaosan retreat and let her husband go home without even coming in person.
3. Re-examine the marriage relationship. Many wives don't understand. It is obvious that the husband made a mistake. Why should the wife reflect? But a smart wife will understand that there are no innocent people in the wrong marriage. The problem in marriage is either the lack of necessary communication between husband and wife or the wife's inability to meet her husband's emotional or physical needs. A smart woman must reflect on the whole marriage, why her husband cheated, and whether she chose to forgive her husband. Why didn't you catch her husband's heart? Why didn't you foresee the problem in advance?
If the wife chooses to save the marriage, this kind of introspection can make her not make mistakes in her later marriage life. If she chooses to divorce, this introspection can also remind her not to make the same mistakes in her next marriage or relationship. The above process is the key to how a wife should rationally treat her husband's infidelity. However, not every woman can be so objective and rational. In fact, a wife who is troubled by her husband's infidelity should choose a third party to help you deal with the problem.