Zhou once said: loneliness comes from love, and people without love will not be lonely. There is a saying in Garcia Marquez's One Hundred Years of Solitude: Loneliness exists in a corner of life like a shadow. And this kind of loneliness only exists in people with delicate feelings.
When I first met Xiao Ya, she was still a lively and cheerful girl. She can bring a fresh energy to people, which comes from her inner vitality. Some people stare at the sea quietly, while Xiao Ya dances even when he looks at the sea alone.
I like Xiao Ya's personality, because when I saw her, I saw the future and hope. The best appearance of a girl is her love for life.
But Xiao Ya in love has changed. I don't know when she became quiet. This silence is particularly lonely.
When you don't love, you live smartly; when you love, you humble yourself to the dust. How does this gap make a person not lonely?
I remember Zhang Ailing once said, "If you like someone, you will humble yourself to the dust and then bloom."
Xiao Ya's love is a lonely flower that blooms in the best years of life. And Zhang Ailing, who said this, may be lonelier than anyone else.
It is well known that Zhang Ailing loves Hu Lancheng. Even though Hu Lancheng couldn't change her former romantic nature, Zhang Ailing insisted on sending him living expenses. She proved her love for Hu Lancheng with her persistence, but this kind of love can't make her happy. It is humble love, humble and silent, lonely.
Love is beautiful, why people feel lonely, probably because of the inequality of love. In unequal love, the person who loves is humble and lonely, and the person who doesn't love will never feel this way.
A friend of mine has a handsome face and is always surrounded by a group of suitors. However, my friend never promised anyone's pursuit. She said that she would rather be proud than lonely. She feels that those people are only interested in her appearance, and what she wants is someone who can be her soul mate and walk into her heart so that she will no longer feel lonely.
Later, my friend and a man much older than her came together. This man is ugly, but in her opinion, he is a man who understands her and can bring her a sense of security.
In love, she completely changed her previous indifference. She is a follower of this man. Wherever she goes, she is like a little follower. No matter how hard she works, she is always willing and has no complaints. Friends often bask in their own happiness, saying that she finally found love, and told us that it won't be long before she will register with him for marriage. Eight or nine of my friend's ten sentences are about that man.
However, while we were waiting for the good news from our friend, she sent a message saying that the man seemed to be cheating because he always talked to another woman on the phone behind her back. She asked who it was. At first, the man just faltered, and then he would impatiently avoid her aggressive eyes.
The friend knew that she had been engaged by that man. The man saw her love and her humility and believed that she would never leave anyway, so his injury was so reckless.
The moment my friend learned the truth, he was flustered and helpless. Before, she didn't love anyone, but she was lonely in appearance and proud in heart. Now she loves someone deeply, but she is lonely in appearance and more humble in heart.
It turns out that love can really make people humble, and proud people can also humble themselves to the dust. In unequal love, when one person loves more than another, then this relationship begins to be unbalanced. The more you love, the more lonely you will be.
That day, when I saw my friend again, she had a little more white hair on her forehead too early. She said she didn't want to leave that person, but a man's feelings are always so uncertain that he won't give them to a particular woman. Friends said that when she confronted him, the man ignored her pain, shook off her arm and left angrily. But even so, she still didn't want to leave him, even if it was just a few of his lovers.
When my friend said these words, he was completely different from the arrogant one before. Love changed her, but what she got was not good. Her big eyes, which once sparkled with stars, were full of helplessness and loneliness after being hurt by love.
If you put down your dignity for love, you will definitely not get love. Maintaining a humble relationship will only make you more and more passive and humble.
Beautiful love must be the interaction between the two sides, giving and returning are equal, and so is loving and being loved. If they are not equal, the more you love, the more you will be hurt. The deeper you love, the more lonely you will be. People who often invest more will end up with more pain than happiness.
All people who feel lonely in love are nothing more than disappointment than hope. Perhaps loneliness comes from deep love. I have seen the beauty of love and experienced the helplessness of love. Helplessness can only bring a person endless loneliness.
The existence of loneliness must have an unequal relationship. In a beautiful love, the relationship between two people is equal, cherish and respect each other. In a lonely love, one must be arrogant and one is wronged. This relationship is not only painful, but also difficult to go further.
Many things in this world can be obtained through our own efforts. Only love can't be forced. If the other person doesn't love, no matter how hard you are, it won't help.
I admire most those women who never pin their hopes on men. They have the ability to live a good life, and even if they lose everything, her life will still be colorful.
Therefore, if you don't want to be lonely in love, the best way is not to give others a chance to hurt yourself, and don't fantasize about getting love from each other, even infinite love. Only if you learn to love yourself first, your love will not be so flustered in the end.
Smart people don't give all their love to others, and in the end they will only gain loneliness, but will leave some love for themselves, so that even if they lose love, they won't feel helpless and lonely.
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Today's topic interaction: When will you feel lonely?