Interpersonal relationship problems of college students
Due to the differences of college students' personality factors and social environment, some students have some problems in communication, which has caused obstacles to the formation of harmonious interpersonal relationships. According to the information revealed by the symposium on adolescent psychological problems held by the Ministry of Health last year, 16% to 25.4% of college students have psychological barriers, and more than half of them are confused about interpersonal communication, which has become the biggest psychological problem for college students. Contemporary college students have cognitive, emotional and personality obstacles in communication under the negative influence of some bad interpersonal relationships in current society and the limitations of their own knowledge structure, psychology and cognitive ability. The common problems in college students' interpersonal communication mainly include: difficulty in getting along with others, lack of intimate friends, dull communication with others, bad communication with others and so on. , leading to loneliness, depression, lack of support and care. College students often have all kinds of bad psychology in communication, such as face psychology, impulsive psychology, closed psychology, alienation psychology and so on. Bad psychology and emotions make students fall into communication difficulties. Among them, the closed psychology is more serious. Because in high school, students only pay attention to their studies and seldom communicate, this long-term closed communication psychology makes it difficult for college students to get out of the narrow communication circle. There is an insurmountable inertia in communication. The "three-point-one-line" campus life allows college students to often express their thoughts alone and rarely communicate with others. At present, the communication difficulties of college students are mainly manifested in their inability to live independently and socialize, their inability to communicate well, their inability to understand the skills and principles of communication, their tendency to be autistic, their inability to communicate easily, their willingness to communicate for the sake of communication, and their willingness to go with the flow at the expense of the principle of being a human being are prone to psychological problems. In interpersonal communication, college students are afraid of communication, unwilling to communicate, and not good at communication, all of which belong to psychological barriers to communication. These obstacles belong to cognitive folklore, emotion and personality, which seriously affect the normal interpersonal communication and mental health of college students.
Organize college students to participate in healthy and colorful group activities.
Interpersonal communication is carried out in social relations, and people's social behavior is improved and cultivated in activities with others and groups, thus forming good communication ability. The youth league and student union of the school are collective organizations of students. These organizations should provide healthy and rich collective activities for students, such as holding mental health knowledge contests, speech contests, debate contests and group meetings. Carry out healthy campus cultural activities and cultural and sports activities, let students participate in them and cultivate positive communication psychology. You can also use holidays and teaching practice to go deep into factories and rural areas to carry out social surveys, so that students can get in touch with society extensively. Class is the basic unit of school education, and students spend most of their time in class, which has a profound impact on students. Whether a good class group can be formed affects students' communication and psychological adaptation. The formation of a good class group involves the determination of collective goals, the cultivation of cadres, the establishment of interpersonal relationships, the development of activities, the internalization of behavior norms and the formation of correct public opinion, all of which should be completed in specific activities. Only by organizing various activities, students participating in them and interacting with others can we establish harmonious interpersonal relationships and promote the healthy development of people.
Suggestions for college students to deal with interpersonal relationships
First of all, we should respect others, "Don't do to others what you don't want others to do to you". Only by respecting others will you win their respect for you. Respect others, not despise poor students, poor students and roommates with physical defects. Respect others, you should abide by the rules and regulations of the dormitory, and don't litter, read books and play games at night. To learn to put yourself in others' shoes, you often wonder what you would do if you were someone else. You can't force others to do what you can't do.
Secondly, strive for more communication. There will inevitably be contradictions and misunderstandings under the same roof. Don't give up communication and exchange because everyone has contradictions and misunderstandings, and treat each other as enemies. If you don't make me feel better, I won't make you feel better, which will only intensify contradictions and cause unnecessary harm. In the face of contradictions and misunderstandings, we should actively communicate, exchange and reconcile, and don't let misunderstandings hinder the friendly friendship between students. In addition, you should always participate in everyone's discussions and group activities. Only in this way can we better understand ourselves and others, eliminate misunderstandings between them and strengthen mutual understanding and trust. Finally, praise others from the heart. Learn to appreciate and praise others, such as: "You are great!" " "Your hairstyle is very beautiful!" This kind of praise will bring happiness to the praised person and cause positive emotional reaction. Emotion is contagious, and a good mood is contagious to people around you. Happiness can melt the deadlock of interpersonal relationship and make the dormitory relationship harmonious.
Problems needing attention in dealing with college students' interpersonal relationship
First, the gap between the rich and the poor
College students come from different regions, and regional differences may lead to the gap between the rich and the poor. The contradiction caused by this "economic inequality" is also very common among college students. Poor students' inferiority complex caused by the gap between the rich and the poor is also a high-incidence psychological problem on university campuses. If these relationships are not handled well, the psychological harm to college students will often affect their development.
Second, no hygiene.
People often throw things around in the dormitory, never fold quilts, the bed is dirty and messy, socks are not washed after playing football, people often forget to flush when going to the toilet, and the dormitory is never cleaned. On the contrary, they are garbage makers ... these bad habits often make roommates unbearable, especially some students who love cleanliness. Once you realize that you are a "cleaner" in the dormitory, you will feel unhappy. In the long run, there will be conflicts.
Third, the focus.
"Learning darling", "teacher darling" and "love darling" are often the focus of students, but they are also the envy of students. If such students behave inappropriately, it will often lead to conflicts between classmates and even lead to tragedy.
Fourth, be with the opposite sex.
Although colleges and universities have always forbidden the opposite sex to stay in the dormitory, there are still many students who stay in the dormitory with their boyfriends and girlfriends, especially in this era of pursuing openness. The sexual behavior of college students seems to be a banner flaunting freedom and sexual liberation, which is not uncommon in the original pure ivory tower. But this behavior is really a shock to other roommates in the dormitory, especially other "bachelors". It neither respects roommates nor affects their rest. How can you tolerate it?
Verb (abbreviation for verb) intimacy and intimacy
Whether his roommate likes it or not, he will drag his roommate to exercise, go to school, eat, watch movies and so on. Too close communication makes roommates lose the time and space to communicate with others, while narrow interpersonal communication makes roommates feel empty and annoyed at his "friendliness". "Dependent" friends are not uncommon among college girls, and the behavior of taking up others' time too much is called "adult attachment" in psychology. Another form of excessive intimacy is to use other people's things regardless of each other. However, if everything is too "informal", good things will be transformed. For example, it's a matter of good brothers anyway. What is a bag of cakes? Eat them first. If you don't want to buy food and fetch water on rainy days, you can ask your roommate's sister to do it once ... once or twice. In the long run, if we don't rotate the assistance mechanism, no matter how bitter our brothers and sisters are, there will be resentment. Especially because things happen between friends, most students will choose to keep a low profile, but if the gloom in their hearts is not eliminated for a long time, silence will always break out one day.
Hegemonism of intransitive verbs
My point of view is absolutely correct. What I hate most is that every time there is an argument, no matter what the topic is, he always refutes me to pieces before giving up. Some people always like to argue with others to show that they are unconventional, they are right about everything, regardless of its advantages, and they force others to accept their views. This kind of behavior is easy to cause resistance from others. In the same dormitory, no one has a better opinion than others. Therefore, if you find yourself always winning in the "dormitory debate", then the seeds of disharmony in the dormitory may have spread in a small circle.
Seven, abide by the work and rest
It is a very common phenomenon that there are computers in the dormitory of modern college students, and the benefits that computers bring to learning are very obvious. However, if they play games or voice chat at night and refuse to turn off their phones at one or two in the evening, they will make the dormitory fidgety and often wake everyone up from their sleep, which will make the relationship between classmates tense. Reading, chatting and playing games by lighting candles at night should not be forced by ignoring the rights of others, but should abide by the rules and regulations of the dormitory.