As the saying goes, if there is communication, there will be different views and ideas. Because of different viewpoints and ideas, contradictions will inevitably arise in life and study. Different people will have different solutions, and some people will laugh it off. Some people may take a series of measures. If the method is proper, it will have good results. If the method is not appropriate, it will produce bad things. Fighting will happen, such as the news that shocked China and poisoning the dormitory.
Now let's think about this problem. Did the teacher teach us to fight and kill when we were in primary school? What about the teachers in junior high school? I don't think high school teachers will. They just want everyone to study hard and get into college. So why is this happening in universities? In fact, there is what we call contradiction here.
Things are full of contradictions. What we need to do is to minimize the contradiction. Why are there contradictions among college students? Let me analyze it for you here.
One? Personal differences? Some people are naturally fond of playing games, while others just don't. Therefore, when people who like playing games joke with those who don't, it may be common for their joking classmates, but students who are not good at playing games may not accept it, thus sowing the seeds of contradictions. If this happens, the most direct solution is that students who like to play games must make jokes properly. Not all people like joking, so we should speak according to everyone's characteristics and hobbies to avoid conflicts. Because people who don't like joking are not good at words, I hope they will say: XXX, don't joke with me, I don't like joking, it's almost difficult, so I hope people who like joking will look at this kind of thing. When joking with someone, if the other person is disgusted, don't joke next time to avoid conflicts. Mainly to learn skills for people who like to play games, because according to their own experience and classmates' experience, people who are not good at words will not tell others that they don't like to play games, and they are afraid of losing face.
[If! Support lists] 2 [endif] Regional differences Have you found that it is very convenient for people in the same region to communicate, because even if they are not in the same city and in the same region, their dialects and habits are basically the same? Why is India and Pakistan full of contradictions and territory a problem? In fact, living habits and beliefs also have a lot to do. People don't eat beef, but you say you like it. Little things. "The tone of the south and the north is very different. Northerners love face. If you say it in another tone, people may misunderstand you and look down on him, so the speaker doesn't know what's going on. There may be contradictions between the two of them, so in the face of this situation, we must pay attention to our words and deeds. As the saying goes, disaster comes from the mouth. If you don't talk when you should, don't talk. This is also a kind of wisdom. At the same time, as friends, we should understand each other, so as to really solve the contradiction.
[If! Three [endif] differences in moral level The same thing will have different treatment results for different people, so their moral level and literacy are different. Therefore, in the face of the same thing, there may be no right or wrong, but there will be right or wrong in their hearts. For example, some people will think that xxx is right to do this, and even those who think it is wrong are sick, so some people will think it is wrong. In fact, it may be that there is no right or wrong in this matter itself, just a personal opinion. Two people will have conflicts because of this matter, so when this happens, the correct way is to seek common ground while reserving differences, because everyone's moral concept and ideological level are different, so seeking common ground while reserving differences can resolve conflicts.
[If! The difference between the four [endif] family backgrounds is that this difference can be simply understood as the difference in economic strength. Some families are relatively rich, while others are not particularly good. The last dormitory incident was largely due to economic problems, so in fact, in this case, we must know that people are not poor. Of course, I am also a rural child, and my family is not particularly rich, but I know that a gentleman loves money. Down-to-earth step by step, so as to achieve the ideal goal. So what this piece says is that there are differences between people and their own mentality. Some people will know that I am poor. They say that eating is just showing off, which makes them disgusted. This is a very irrational feeling, so some things can't be changed, but what we need is hard work, hard work, rather than others saying that eating this and that will lead to new resentment and bad things.
[If! SupportLists] Five [endif] differences in ideology Many people will wonder why xxx changed when he went to college. In fact, this is the consciousness of thought. Some people may meet people in their lives. I met my tutor in high school, so I was admitted to the university. Now think about it. Maybe I can't even go to college without her. So everyone's ideological consciousness is different. We don't need to force this thing. You are going to make money in college by yourself, and you have to ask others to do it with you. Why? Isn't this the reason for the conflict between the two? A friend can put up with you once, twice and then three times, right? If you don't want conflict between them, then don't ask others to do anything you do.
[If! [support lists] 6 [endif] Some details are contradictory. Some people like to take a mid-afternoon nap, but you just make a phone call and listen to music. Isn't that disgusting? If people don't smoke, you smoke in the dormitory, and you don't pay attention to personal hygiene at all. In view of this matter, I mainly want to tell freshmen, remember, remember, the dormitory rules will be made immediately after the dormitory is divided, and don't feel indifferent. Few people can really restrain themselves and make the rules of the dormitory beneficial to everyone. That's all that matters. If you don't believe me, you will find that you are waiting for an argument to break out one day, unless you are clean people who don't smoke or drink and have high moral quality.
The above are the causes and solutions of college students' contradictions. We must observe them carefully. No one likes to quarrel from the beginning, and many times contradictions are accumulating. So what we need is to find contradictions, avoid contradictions, or minimize contradictions and make everyone happy.