Can the love we promised continue? Those who are suffering from it, why did you finally choose to give up?

You once agreed to go hand in hand to the end, didn't you give up your expectation and trust for each other because you were separated for the first time?

So can love in college come to the end?

Breaking up after graduation is nothing more than a couple's lack of confidence in the future. Take a friend around me as an example. The girl is from Guangxi and the boy is from Harbin. The girl wants to go back to her hometown after graduating from college. One reason is her parents' request, and the other reason is that she likes her hometown and wants to live there. The boy was ambitious and wanted to make a living in Shanghai, so they separated. After the separation, girls quickly returned to Guangxi to get married and have children, and boys quickly found their other half again, but I still feel a little sorry.

Then if we go back to college before graduation, let's analyze whether there is any way to keep two people from being separated.

A big fuse for two people to separate is a different place. Girls want to go to Guangxi, boys want to go to Shanghai, and both sides are so young. Can't the two sides discuss going to a place that is good for each other? There are many places to struggle now, except Shanghai, Shenzhen and Chengdu, which are all rapidly developing cities. Why do you have to go to Shanghai? I have seen many young people go to Shanghai very much, and then they all left in disgrace. There are many places in Shanghai that are not suitable for young people. You need to know.

Similarly, it is important for girls to return to Guangxi, but girls can also indirectly meet their parents' expectations with wisdom. You can promise your parents to return to their parents after five years and give yourself a grace period. These are all negotiable places. Maybe you can find a better solution.

Of course, I can understand that we can't solve problems more gently when we are young, and we can understand that many times we treat problems in a one-size-fits-all way, so we might as well look at ourselves from a longer-term perspective.

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People's pursuit is generally divided into three levels, material level, spiritual level and love level.

Needless to say, the material level is the guarantee of life and the foundation of spiritual level and love level. We must ensure the material level. Without material richness, the latter two will be poor. Don't laugh at those who bargain for ten dollars. They know that it is not easy to make money, and they also know the importance of material things. Material satisfaction can save us a lot of troubles in life, and I regard it as the foundation of survival.

The spiritual level is difficult to define. Some people can only seek happiness between mountains and rivers, while others can only seek pleasure in games. Everyone's mental perception is different. However, the definition of spiritual level will change with the passage of time, and people's hearts are constantly pursuing this spiritual level demand. I regard it as the foundation of happiness.

Then I will carry out the love level alone as a pursuit of human beings. Whether you are before marriage or after marriage, people will pursue the taste of love all their lives. Before marriage, we pursue the sweetness of love, after marriage, we pursue the freshness of love. Love is an independent wasteland in life. Some people will plant flowers on it, while others will regenerate.

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Therefore, if we look at love from the perspective of life, we still have material and spiritual things to pursue together. After we have multiple life goals, we will find that the short-term difficulties in love actually have little effect. With the material and spiritual foundation, love will go up a storey still higher. Looking back at that time, we will find that some persistence is full of meaning. And the pursuit of love will also make persistence itself more noble.

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