Four years in college is the easiest period to get lost. College students must have self-control, make some good friends, learn some good habits, and don't indulge in bad habits (such as online games).

A classmate said: "Compared with high school, the difference is that the university spends a lot more time surfing the Internet and sleeping, and the pressure is much less." The student doesn't understand that "much more time" is the great difference between college and high school. If you have more time, you need to arrange, plan and manage your own time.

Arranging time does not mean making a timetable. The book Seven Habits of Highly Effective People points out that the difference between "important things" and "urgent things" is one of the biggest reasons why people waste time. Because people's inertia is to do the most urgent thing first, but doing so will lead to some important things being abandoned. Therefore, a good way to manage time every day is to determine the urgent and important things to do today in the morning and review them before going to bed to see if the day has achieved a balance between the two.

It is unrealistic to want to do everything best. I suggest you separate what you have to do from what you are trying to do. I suggest you accept those things that you can't change temporarily with a good attitude and broad mind, and pay more attention to those things that you can change.

Lesson 7: Be a man.

In the future, people's ability to get along with others in society and work will become more and more important, even exceeding the work itself. Therefore, college students should seize the opportunity to cultivate their communication awareness and team spirit.

My suggestions on how to improve interpersonal skills during college are:

First, treat others with sincerity, blame yourself with the heart of blaming others, and forgive others with the heart of forgiving yourself. Be sincere and tolerant of others and criticize yourself. Treat people as you treat others, and others will treat you as well. It's like looking in the mirror. Your own expression and attitude can be seen from the expressions and attitudes of others. The most sincere friendship and the most difficult hatred are gradually caused by this "reflection" principle.

Second, cultivate true friendship. If you can do the first point, many college friends will become your lifelong confidants. On the road of studying together and seeking self-development, such friendship is precious. When making friends, don't just make friends with people who are similar to you or who agree with you. There are many kinds of good friends: optimistic friends, wise friends, practical friends, humorous friends, friends who inspire you to make progress, friends who improve your ability, friends who help you understand yourself, friends who tell you the truth, and so on.

Third, learn team spirit and communication skills. The community is a micro-community, and participating in it is the best training before entering the society. In the club, you can cultivate teamwork and leadership skills, and you can also give play to your professional expertise. But more importantly, you should be a sincere server and volunteer, or take the initiative to play the role of a bridge between classmates and teachers when you are a student and exercise your communication skills. Seize the opportunity of learning interpersonal communication in universities, because interpersonal communication in university associations is a kind of learning without "paying tuition fees", and you can start all over again if you make mistakes.

Fourth, learn from the people around you. In classes and clubs, observe more students around you, especially those who feel that their communication skills are particularly strong, and see how they get along with others.

Fifth, improve self-cultivation and personality charm. If you think that the lack of professional knowledge and hobbies may become an obstacle to improving your interpersonal skills, then you can consciously choose and cultivate some hobbies. * * * The same hobbies are also one of the ways to build deep feelings with friends. If you really don't have any hobbies, read more good books to enrich your knowledge and improve your interpersonal skills, because nothing can better reflect a person's personality charm than wisdom and erudition.