First, choose the front seat.
Have you noticed how the seats in the back are filled first in various parties in churches or classrooms? Most people who occupy the back seat hope that they will not be "too conspicuous", and the reason why he is afraid of being noticed is lack of self-confidence.
Sitting in the front can build confidence. Try to make it a rule to sit as forward as possible from now on. Of course, sitting in the front will be more conspicuous, but remember that everything that succeeds is conspicuous.
Second, practice facing others.
A person's eyes can reveal a lot about him. When someone doesn't look you in the eye, you will intuitively ask yourself, "What is he trying to hide? What is he afraid of? Will he be bad to me? "
Not looking directly at others usually means: I feel inferior around you; I feel inferior to you; I am afraid of you. Avoiding other people's eyes means: I feel inferior beside you; I feel inferior to you; I am afraid of you. Avoiding other people's eyes means: I feel guilty; What have I done or thought of that I don't want you to know? I'm afraid that once I touch your eyes, you will see through me. This is all bad information.
Looking into other people's eyes means telling them that I am honest and aboveboard. I believe what I told you is true. I have no conscience.
Making your eyes work for you means focusing your eyes on others, which will not only give you confidence, but also win the trust of others for you.
Third, speed up your walking by 25%
When David Schwartz was a teenager, it was very interesting to go to the town center. After getting on the bus after all the errands, my mother often says, "David, let's sit for a while and look at passers-by."
Mother is a great observer. She would say, "Look at that guy. What do you think is bothering him? " Or "What do you think the lady over there will do?" Or "Look at that man, he seems a little lost."
It's a pleasure to watch people walk. This is much cheaper and more enlightening than watching movies.
Many psychologists associate lazy posture and slow pace with unpleasant feelings about themselves, work and others. But psychologists also tell us that we can change our mental state by changing posture and speed. If you observe carefully, you will find that the movement of the body is the result of mental activity. Those who are hit and rejected are dragging their feet and have no self-confidence.
Ordinary people walk like "ordinary people" and make a confession that "I'm not very proud of myself".
Another kind of person shows extraordinary self-confidence, walks faster than the average person and likes running. Their pace tells the world: "I want to go to an important place and do very important things." More importantly, I will succeed in 15 minutes. "
Use this "25% faster" technology, strut faster, and you will feel your self-confidence growing.
Fourth, practice public speaking.
Napoleon Hill pointed out that there are many people with sharp thinking and high talent, but they can't give full play to their strengths to participate in the discussion. It's not that they don't want to participate, just because they lack self-confidence.
The taciturn people in the meeting thought, "My opinion may be worthless. If I say it, others may feel silly. I'd better say nothing. Moreover, others may know more than me, and I don't want them to know that I am so ignorant. "
These people often make a vague promise to themselves: "Wait until next time." But they know very well that they can't keep this promise.
Every time these taciturn people don't talk, he is poisoned by lack of self-confidence again, and he will lose self-confidence more and more.
On the positive side, if you try your best to speak, you will increase your confidence and it will be easier to speak next time. So talk more, this is the "vitamin" of self-confidence.
No matter what kind of meeting you attend, take the initiative to speak, comment, suggest or ask questions every time, without exception. Besides, don't speak last. To be an icebreaker, you must be the first to break the silence.
Don't worry, you'll look stupid. I won't. Because someone will always agree with you. So don't say to yourself, "I doubt if I dare to say it."
Try to attract the attention of the chairman of the meeting, so that you can have a chance to speak.
Five, column mouth laugh.
Most people know that laughter can give themselves a practical motivation and is a good medicine to cure lack of self-confidence. But there are still many people who don't believe this, because they never try to smile when they are afraid.
Real laughter can not only cure one's bad mood, but also immediately dissolve the hostility of others. If you smile at an Zhan Yan person sincerely, he won't be angry with you. Napoleon Hill told a personal experience: "One day, my car stopped at a red light at an intersection and suddenly" bang ". It turned out that the driver of the car behind me slipped on the brakes and his car hit the bumper behind me. I saw him get off in the rearview mirror and followed him, ready to give him a good scolding. Fortunately, before my attack, he came over and smiled at me and said to me in the most sincere tone,' Friend, I really didn't mean to.' His smile and the truest explanation melted me. I had to whisper, "it doesn't matter, it happens all the time." In a blink of an eye, my hostility turned into friendliness. "
Grind it and you will feel that the good times are coming again. But if you want to laugh "big", it's useless to laugh halfway without laughing. You have to grin to see the effect.
We often hear: "Yes, but when I am afraid or angry, I just don't want to laugh." Of course, at this time, no one can laugh. The trick is to force yourself to say, "I'm going to start laughing." Then, laugh.
The ability to control and use laughter.
_ _ _ _ from "China Family Education Network" (omitted)