So, how do you get along with your girlfriend majoring in psychology? Is this a problem? No. Why do you ask? Because the world has a deep misunderstanding of psychology. When some people hear the word "psychology", they will unconsciously associate with psychic detectives and feel that they have the ability to understand everything, including people's hearts.
I remember when I was in college, people asked me what my major was. Every time I answer "applied psychology", the other person will look at me with strange eyes. Then, immediately after, I will face such embarrassment, "Psychology? Awesome! Then look at what I am thinking now? "
Are you so confused about psychology?
But can psychology really know what others are thinking at a glance? The answer isno. If so, will anyone break the law? So what is psychology really about?
Psychology is an independent discipline, a science that studies psychological phenomena and behavior activities, including perception, thinking, cognition, emotion, personality, memory, behavior habits and so on. In addition, there are the identification and diagnosis of neurosis, such as obsessive-compulsive disorder, depression, anxiety, schizophrenia and so on.
Therefore, psychology is not as terrible as you think. So how do you get along with your girlfriend? It's simple. Think of her as an ordinary girl. Of course, don't think that your girlfriend can see through your thoughts at a glance. The most important thing for two people to be together is to be honest and trust each other. This has nothing to do with whether she is a psychiatrist or a rich second generation.
It should be like this:
Be honest in everything, don't be smart.
Because she is "playing" psychologically, don't "play with a big knife in front of Guan Gong" and be herself.
Avoid: duplicity and posturing. Show your true self! Aboveboard.
Once I took a scholarship and secretly gave it to my family, deceiving her that it was borrowed by my classmates. Who knows, she immediately said, "lie again and we'll break up!" " "Later I said," I study psychology, and your cleverness can still be fooled. "I suddenly feel cold in my spine. God, I won't be exhausted in the future!
-strive for this future "small home" and make her feel that you have "hope".
Married life is nothing more than rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar and tea, and everything must have "strength." If you want to get along well, you must strengthen your living ability, improve yourself in all directions, learn more skills, and you can "eat a piece" when you come to society.
In short, all my thoughts and actions are under her control. Only by being honest with each other, being positive and working hard can we get along well and have a full "happy nest".
Loving someone has nothing to do with her major.
How to get along with this problem is actually not just a professional influence.
When you ask this question, you should think of yourself first. Why doesn't your girlfriend know how to get along with psychology?
However, from another perspective, people who study psychology are generally divided into two types. One is considerate. She understands other people's experiences and has the ability to understand others' feelings, so she can understand others' feelings in particular.
Another kind of people: they know a lot of psychological theories and knowledge, but lack the ability to understand. So I've always wanted to support others with my professional knowledge. Just like a group of people who have been coached before, it is easy to bring that set in the course to life. This mode of getting along is uncomfortable, at least it makes me feel uncomfortable.
For example, when you give them feedback on a question, they will ask you: What does this have to do with you? Sometimes even joking, they will ask you: What's the matter with you?
Some people who have studied psychology are also prone to this behavior. They will catch a word from others and always want to test what others are thinking. There is no denying that this mode of getting along is uncomfortable.
We can't predict what others will become. The only thing we can do is to adjust ourselves and live in the present.
Don't make assumptions about things that didn't happen.
The easiest way to get along with people is to be honest with each other and link with your heart. When two people's hearts are deeply connected, you will find that language is useless, and everything they do is comfortable and natural.
A very good question, from which it seems that we can feel some stereotypes about psychology, and it can also represent a small number of people's cognition of psychology-psychology is "mysterious" and "can see through people's hearts" and so on. In fact, psychology is just an ordinary subject, and there is nothing particularly strange. People majoring in psychology may be engaged in various industries, which is not much different from other majors.
Just as you get along with your sales friends, so do you get along with your friends who are doctors. Don't worry too much that a psychology student will "dissect your soul" or "see through you at a glance" at any time. In fact, many people are not talking about psychological things everywhere in their daily lives.
People who have studied psychology may see the motivation behind your behavior, the advantages and disadvantages of your personality, and may predict some of your behaviors by getting along with you. This is called "understanding". If you can really have a relationship, you can understand your usual actions from a deeper level, and communication will naturally be smoother.
I remember a college student asking me a question: "When looking for a job, what should I do if it is a group interview?"
My answer has always been: "behave appropriately and don't deliberately dress up."
Why do you say that? In a group interview, the interviewer usually observes each interviewer. Everyone has their own different personality characteristics, and some people have strong appeal and strong leadership. Some people have strong execution ability and are especially suitable for specific work; Some people are thoughtful and logical, and are very good at planning and allocating resources. The purpose of the interview is actually to let the right person go to the right position.
If you have studied psychology, you will probably know the interviewer's intention. You can dress yourself up to a position that looks more developed, but that position may not be suitable for you, and you will feel uncomfortable after a long time.
Back to the topic, if the other person deliberately dresses up as "like" or something because he has studied psychology, it is actually unnecessary, because dressing up will be tiring, and it will not be like this after a long time, right?
To put it bluntly, no matter what major the other party is studying, the relationship between your and China is still a process of running in with each other and constantly adapting to each other. This is still a process of showing your strengths and improving your weaknesses.
How to get along has nothing to do with whether she studies psychology or not. Do you really think that psychology is so magical that you can understand what you are thinking?
* * * Only by discussing psychology can we reach the state of empathy.