First, self-control and frustration tolerance are weak.
When college students fall in love, especially when they are madly in love, they are often not good at controlling their emotions, let their emotions indulge at will, lack rational control ability, rely too much on the object of love, and feel uncomfortable at a slight turning point. Once you are frustrated in love, or quarrel, you will lose control of your emotions and be unable to extricate yourself, which will seriously affect your study and health.
Second, immature and unstable.
College students are younger in love, and the number is gradually increasing. Falling in love in the first grade is not an isolated phenomenon. Some students even fall in love as soon as they step into the university gate. These junior students, because of their lack of experience and simple thoughts, have no clear concept of their life goals and needs, which leads to their simple, naive and immature attitude towards love. In terms of mate selection criteria, appearance is often emphasized, while internal factors are ignored. In the way of love, the form is often emphasized and the content is ignored; In love behavior, the process is often emphasized and the result is ignored; Value pleasure over responsibility. Immature love, coupled with financial independence during school, changeable feelings and ideas in the process of love, and lack of ability to properly handle emotional entanglements in love, can easily lead to periodic interruption of love, or vacillation in the choice of love objects, and the success rate of love is very low.
So how can we avoid this situation? I have the following suggestions, hoping to help you.
First, be good at controlling emotions and acting rationally.
On the one hand, we should pay attention to restraint and standardization, on the other hand, we should pay attention to transfer and sublimation, participate in various recreational activities, talk more about study and work with lovers, limit love behavior within social norms, and let love develop along a healthy road. There is love in your heart. After rational analysis, you should dare to express it and be good at expressing it. This is a kind of love ability.
Second, we should treat each other as equals and respect each other. Don't compare each other's shortcomings with your own advantages, so as to show off and raise yourself and tease and belittle each other. It is also inappropriate to try to test each other or put on airs, which may dampen each other's self-esteem and affect their feelings.
Third, develop healthy love behavior.
Be sincere and honest in love, don't pose, don't be rude, get to know each other, and be generous in love behavior. In the face of others' love, one can judge love in time and accurately, and make the choice of accepting, rejecting or re-observing, which is also a kind of love ability. If college students want to have the ability to meet love, they must know what love is, have a healthy view of love, and know what they like, need and suit. You should be sensitive and enthusiastic about yourself, others and everything, and you should take the initiative to care for and love others. When others express their love to you, you can timely and accurately judge the information of love and make a choice calmly. Can bear the psychological troubles caused by refusing to woo or refusing to woo.