1 Get along as equals and respect others.
The foundation of interpersonal relationship is mutual support and concern among people, and equality is the premise of establishing good interpersonal relationship. In the interpersonal group of college students, there is no distinction between high and low. Only by respecting each other, caring for each other and exchanging feelings with each other can interpersonal relationships be more harmonious.
At the same time, no matter how common the identity of the partner is, how obscene the image is, how weird the words and deeds are, and how unacceptable the hobbies are, you should always respect each other and put him in the same position as yourself. Only by respecting others can we gain their respect.
Don't be stingy with your affirmation and praise, but learn to praise others sincerely.
Praising others is like illuminating others' lives with a torch, and it also illuminates one's own heart, which is helpful to carry forward the virtues of the praised and promote the healthy development of mutual friendship. Sincere praise will bring happiness to each other, and a happy and harmonious atmosphere will make the relationship between people relaxed and harmonious. Everyone likes compliments from others and wants to be recognized and appreciated by others.
Praise can make people feel happy and full of energy, stimulate pride, enhance self-confidence, and help them better understand their strengths and advantages and their survival value. But praise should be targeted, sincere and heartfelt; Praise is never equal to flattery, neither flattery nor flattery.
Praise should not be exaggerated, irrelevant and hypocritical, otherwise, praise will lose its function. We should not imitate others, say good things to their faces, speak ill of others behind their backs, or pass on words of mutual accusation and slander among others, which will lead to contradictions among others.
Learn tolerance and understanding.
People can't be perfect, everyone has advantages and disadvantages. In interpersonal communication, we can't ask others with our own subjective will. Don't just look at other people's shortcomings, think more about their advantages. It is inevitable to meet some unpleasant people and things in the process of interpersonal communication. If you complain about others and haggle over every ounce, it will inevitably lead to estrangement, and interpersonal relationships will only become more and more tense, which will not be good for others or yourself, but will only increase your troubles.
It can be seen that asking others is asking yourself, and tolerating others is tolerating yourself. Learning to forgive others can avoid many unnecessary disputes, and the road will be wider and wider. As the old saying goes, there is no fish when the water is clear, and there is no disciple when people look at it. This is also a fact. If you tolerate others, you can tolerate others. But forgiveness is not unprincipled forbearance, neither good nor bad nor weak.
Be considerate of others and avoid being self-centered and hurting others? Only care about your own interests.
Human beings are selfish animals first. Do you think that child will give his delicious food to others? Therefore, selfishness is human instinct. In interpersonal communication, we all think from our own perspective and safeguard our own interests; But at the same time, we also hate those who sacrifice the interests of others for their own benefit. Therefore, if you want to be popular in interpersonal communication, you must take into account the interests of others while striving for your own interests.
Remember not to do things that harm others or even yourself. Do as you would be done by. Learn to put yourself in others' shoes, and always think about what would happen if you were in others' shoes, so that you can understand others' reactions, and you won't force others to do things that you can't even do yourself.
Abide by the basic rules of the group.
Obeying group rules means respecting and caring for the needs of others. Don't let your words and deeds affect or interfere with the normal life of others in collective life, such as taking the opposite sex to the dormitory in the morning and evening. At the same time, we should pay attention to bear our due responsibilities and obligations, such as actively cleaning public health, sorting out our internal affairs, and taking the initiative to do something for the collective.
Caring and helping others, compassionate and just.
Everyone may encounter difficulties and need help from others. When others encounter difficulties and setbacks and need help, lend a helping hand and give others care, help and support. A person who doesn't want to help others can hardly get help from others.
7 Maintain the quality of independence and modesty.
When dealing with people, you must have your own opinions. Don't listen to others, and don't be complacent and supercilious. Don't always argue with others, no matter whether you are reasonable or not, always try to find a basis to explain how reasonable you are and how unreasonable the other person is, always show your cleverness everywhere and want everything. In the long run, it will be unbearable and bury barriers and dissatisfaction.
Keep smiling and happy.
Smiling helps to enhance communication, shorten distance and ease the atmosphere of tension and conflict. Learn to communicate with people with a sincere smile in daily communication. A true smile is sincere and heartfelt. It can bring warmth and leave a beautiful and deep impression on people. Clever use of humor, because humor is the spice of language, it can make the conversation lively and interesting. But the object of humor should be directed at oneself, not at others. Otherwise, humor will not cause contradictions.
9 keep a positive and optimistic attitude
This society is made up of all kinds of people, and their personalities, hobbies, habits and beliefs will be very different, each with its own charm. Everyone will have their own likes and dislikes, and they will have their own views on people and things. So you can't use your own standards to measure and demand others.
It is necessary to avoid judging a person and jumping to conclusions or guesses based on the first impression or a sentence taken out of context without in-depth communication. In addition, it is easy for us to see the dark side of things or situations, but it is important to tap its positive side.
Listen and give appropriate feedback.
When talking with people, you should concentrate, actively listen to his conversation and give appropriate feedback and questions from time to time. Listening shows respect, understanding and acceptance, and it is a bridge connecting hearts. Listening is also reflected in not interrupting others' conversation at will, and politely changing the topic or ending the topic when others speak aimlessly. When expressing your different opinions, you should first recognize the ideas of the parties concerned, and then put forward your own opinions politely, so as to avoid conflicts and express your opinions without hurting each other's relationship.