If the first love leaves a scar full of scars in our life, it will cause irreversible changes to our future love view, even to our own personality and emotions, and seriously it may never leave the shadow left by the first love. But first love is as sweet and comfortable as cocoa in summer, so love in future life will not appear pessimistic and negative.
Many people also started their first love in college. In order not to lose the beauty that our first love imagined in our hearts, and not to leave the regret that "life is only like first sight", then we must carefully choose these two different types of people for our first love.
1. Dependent type
Dependent personality, also known as "weak personality", is a morbid personality.
Features: Depend on others in everything, live by others, let others dominate, and have strong dependence on partners; Dominant and possessive, treating each other as the only one in life.
In the process of falling in love, the dependent puts love first, and depends on his partner all the time in his life. His partner's every move is always in his eyes. If you do something, such as having a little contact with other people at work, being busy and ignoring him for a long time, your details will be cranky in his mind, and his possessiveness and control will make him anxious. In the end, it will only be endless cold war and arguments.
They will quarrel with you, but you are absolutely not allowed to break up with him and leave him He may use all kinds of extreme means you can't imagine to force you not to leave him. Falling in love with such a first love is like being trapped in a dark cage. You can't struggle out and slowly consume your spiritual world. I have a friend around me, and so does the object. The girl can't stand his controlling love and likes someone else, but she has been afraid to tell him. Later, the boy found the girl unusual and forced her to make sure that the girl fell in love with someone else. The boy was very angry. Why is it that his world is full of her? But he just kept begging the girl who insisted on leaving him, and her nose and tears came together. He even said, you want me dead so you won't go to such extreme words? The girl was afraid and had to stay with him. Is this caged love what you want?
2. Brainwashing the opposite sex and Pick-up Artist.
PUA, also known as the master of picking up girls, is a process from simple picking up girls to sexual intercourse. After systematic study and practice, it packages itself as cheating each other's feelings, having sex with each other, cheating money and so on.
Features: Pick simple heartless girls, with many love routines and perfect appearance packaging.
PUA has a charming appearance. The average girl will think that such a handsome guy will look good when she sees it. They dare not even think about the idea of being together, because their looks are so ordinary that they won't recognize them when they get together in the crowd. I don't know how to dress up, and I am comfortable to wear it. I often wear aunt's clothes to buy food in the market and appear in various places in the school. Love is not high in mind. But it is these girls who often fall into the whirlpool of love, do not distinguish right from wrong, and become the perfect goal of PUA. Like a blooming flower, it is cultivated in toxic greenhouse gases and slowly loses its vitality.
If the dependent personality is partner-centered, then PUA wants you to take him as the center for reverse control. You can't help but think about his needs, cooperate with him carefully, and dare not do things he doesn't like. When he ignores you, you will blame yourself, reflect on yourself and apologize to him.
Cheat you into spending all the money for him with all the sweet words. Even if you are ordinary, he will praise you with his systematically trained "professional" language, flatter you into what you like, and make you lose yourself in happiness and think that he is the only one in that life. So whatever he wants, you will spend all your pocket money to satisfy it. In the end, you will be rejected by him because you have no money, and he will slowly show his true colors and leave you, just like turning into air, leaving you with a mental breakdown and money.
There are many such things on campus. In my university, there is a girl who just entered the university from a small county. She said that she didn't expect such a handsome senior to like her and become boyfriend and girlfriend. She was warmed by her senior's intimate behavior every day and had an intimate relationship with him without warning. Because the senior said that he was in the stage of starting a business, the girl gave him all kinds of daily money and some things he liked without thinking too much. Finally, the senior suddenly disappeared and could not be contacted.
Personally, I think that neither of the above two kinds of people can be candidates for first love in college. First love is the most unforgettable feeling in life, so how to choose a good first love is particularly important. After reading this article, don't worry about being surrounded by such people. After all, such people are only a few. Don't be afraid if you meet them. You should take them out in time, because some mistakes are inevitable in our life. Correcting them in time is the greatest wealth we know. I hope everyone can meet your beautiful first love in college.