Last year, I attended our high school graduation 15 anniversary party. To tell the truth, I instinctively reject this kind of party, because although there was no such big battle before, there were still small parties. At our age, the Party is nothing more than a "grandson". Sun: Cars, houses, employees, wives and children.

How much does it cost a child a year?

At the beginning, I was such a mother. I've been complaining about how much it costs a year. I can't stand it. Most of our circles are working families, and there are also some small bosses, which are not as good as families with a monthly salary of 30 thousand, and they can't afford to raise children during the summer vacation, but they say it costs a lot.

At present, most of children's expenses are concentrated in these aspects: school selection fees, various training courses, interest classes, and tourism are smaller than the first two. Needless to say, I don't want to talk about school selection fees. Anyway, some schools can make you vomit blood as soon as it gets dark. Let's talk about various training courses. In our second-and third-tier capital cities, people who spend 30,000 to 50,000 yuan a year are "poor children", and the most extravagant one reaches six figures a year. I'm talking about primary school, middle school don't know, maybe more.

Do children need money?

This goes back to the old topic. It is said that no matter how poor you are, you can't be poor in education or suffer from children. It is far from simple to make children not suffer now. The goal of parents is the same, that is, they can't let their children lose at the starting line. A few days ago, I wrote an article, "Extracurricular remedial classes are getting more and more popular and have become another form of" plug-in "! That's what I mean.

Now parents spend money on their children, not on pampering them, but on education. Why is this happening? It's still a question of education. Now the school has been reducing the burden, but the burden on students has not decreased, because students should consider getting into a good school and finding a good job in the future. It's definitely impossible not to put pressure on yourself.

Therefore, the smaller the burden on children from school, the greater the burden on children from family and society, which is inversely proportional. But if you don't expect school, what can you expect? Isn't it just by throwing money? Not everyone's children are effective in throwing money, but the chances of being eliminated if they don't throw money are higher, that's for sure.

A while ago, top scholars in Beijing also said the same thing. It is difficult to win the top prize in a cold door, which is determined by reality. Similar to playing games, everyone works hard and spends more money than nothing.

Therefore, today's families are not so much looking forward to their children's success as just seeking peace of mind, so as to avoid complaining that they have not provided him with good conditions and environment in the future.

Does throwing money necessarily work?

Speaking of which, I think of the movie "The King of Stars" by Master Xing. Li Zexing was chased to pieces and sent to the hospital to rebuild his body, but it cost him 30 million yuan. Ng Man Tat, the pop star, said, I don't have 3,000 yuan. Can I have three thousand yuan? Later, with the help of the professor, I made a "deal".

At the beginning, we all laughed for Master Xing's superb acting skills. Now that I think about it, it's just a deceptive fairy tale. Master Xing is good at playing the story of little people's counterattack, but in reality, if there is a gap of tens of millions, what is the possibility of your counterattack? I'm afraid it's only one in 30 million

Maybe a little pessimistic, but I believe most parents think so. No one is sure that their children will be their attackers. So what we have to do now is to keep throwing money at them, at least not to be dragged further and further by others.

What are you doing during the summer vacation?

The rich have a rich way to live, and the poor have a poor way to live. But now, whether you have money or not, summer vacation is a living method.

Let alone how much it cost. How many people didn't travel during the summer vacation and didn't enroll their children?

Some people say that how much children spend in summer vacation is to show off their wealth, while others say that how much children spend in summer vacation is a real complaint. Not long ago, I chatted with my children's classmates' grandmother and said that their grandson had just signed up for an English class, which cost 10 thousand yuan a year. I'm surprised. "Is it necessary to spend so much money on learning English in grade one? Moreover, they will not take English in the college entrance examination in the future. " The child's grandmother only said: "I don't understand, others have reported it. We must report it. Don't delay the child. "

Everything is for the children.

This is the voice of every parent, but have we consulted our children and listened to their voices? Do you remember how we spent our summer holidays when we were young?

We slept in all summer, chased TV plays and played games with friends, didn't we? Of course, there are annoying summer homework, but that is almost all of our summer homework. The most important thing is that our summer vacation costs nothing.

We had an exchange with our children about not enrolling in English classes. After this year's "torture", the children learned well. No matter how scared and tempted we were, we stopped registering. Even if we moved out of other people's children to persuade him, he wouldn't listen. In his words, "if you think they are obedient, treat him as a son. I don't have much time to play now."

Of course, we compromised. In fact, we were reluctant to give our children so many lessons, not because we were afraid of spending money, but because we didn't want to put too much pressure on our children.

But every time I see someone else's parents, I feel hesitant. I watched other children go to cram school, then watched my own children, slept in at home, and woke up to play the glory of the king. I suddenly feel that I am doing it now.

It used to be a habit to spend money on children. Now, if you don't spend money on education and enroll him in cram schools, are you used to using children?

How long can we last?

On this issue, I also talked with several teachers. It can be said that in private, no teacher supports giving children such money, such money, such investment, and even their own children are unwilling to do so. But when it comes, there will always be a saying, "It's better to learn something, or the child will be ruined."

It turns out that teachers are also contradictory.

One of the teachers spoke more sincerely. He said, I have to face dozens of classmates alone. If most children sign up for various classes, I can only follow their progress in teaching. I can't stop everyone waiting for you just because your child didn't learn this well. To say the least, even if I stop, other classes will not stop. At that time, my parents wouldn't support me, and I didn't get any grades at school. what can I do?

Besides, it's okay not to apply now. It is said that the third grade of primary school is a turning point. At that time, will you apply or not?

Yes, whether to report it is really a problem.

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