Do you still remember the "Peking University student's mother-killing case" that shocked the whole country a few years ago? The suspect, Wu, the son of the deceased Xie, was finally arrested.

It is reported that Wu was arrested at Chongqing Jiangbei Airport on April 2 1. At that time, he was still carrying more than 30 ID cards and had been active in China for three years.

As soon as the news came out, it immediately searched in Weibo, attracting the attention and hot discussion of countless people.

Wu, a child of "other people's family" who has been shrouded in aura, has been called a "genius" teenager since he was a child.

In that year, the senior high school entrance examination was only 1.5 points worse than the top scholar in the city, and the college entrance examination was accepted by Peking University in advance, ranking among the best in the country.

After entering Peking University, he also won many scholarships because of his excellent grades. His English GRE score is as high as the top 5% in the world, and he plays basketball very well. He is called "rebounding master" by his classmates.

It is such a perfect and excellent talent, but he did something unimaginable and immoral for ordinary people, and personally killed his mother who lived alone.

Mother's body was wrapped in a dozen layers of plastic film and covered with activated carbon and pesticides to prevent the body from rotting. Cameras and infrared rays are also installed in the house to monitor everything in the room at any time.

Then he used his mother's contact information to borrow 6.5438+0.4 million yuan from relatives and friends on the grounds of going abroad, and imitated his mother's font and wrote a resignation letter to his mother's middle school.

It was not until half a year later that the mother's body was found at home. He ran away.

Many people find it hard to understand how such an excellent child could do such a cruel thing. People who know him say that Wu was very sensible, self-disciplined and studied well since he was a child, which has always made his mother proud.

My mother, Xie, is a traditional middle school teacher. She never wore skirts when she was a teacher, and always liked to wear dark colors.

She is kind and taciturn, but she is competitive and self-disciplined. When her husband died of cancer, many relatives and friends offered her a helping hand, but she declined them all.

It is these mothers' personalities that deeply influence Wu. Excellence has become a habit in him, but his nature has been virtually killed.

A person who is too strict with himself always shows his excellent and sensible side, and his heart is lonely, and he will not hate his parents.

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Wu once told his friends that college life made him feel very depressed. Then he met a sex worker, who was obsessed with her and made a lot of sex videos.

High flyers of Peking University should fall in love with such a woman. I have to say that his concept of mate selection and love has great problems.

But on the other hand, it reflects that his behavior is a kind of release and rebellion.

Long-term honor and aura may overwhelm him. Only by breaking everything and going to extremes can we completely release ourselves.

However, he killed his mother regardless of his feelings. From preparation to implementation, to layout, camouflage, and then to escape, every step is so meticulous and calm.

In addition to everyone's shock, we also saw his personality defects, lack of respect and awe for life, and lack of a grateful heart.

These are all due to his mother's early education, which only pays attention to learning, ignores the child's inner thoughts and fails to develop a sound personality.

Wang Meng (a pseudonym), a Ph.D. student who also came from Peking University and later studied in the United States, 1 1 did not go home once a year, blacked out his parents for six years, completely separated from them, and wrote a "crime" accusing them of separating their parents with a letter of ten thousand words.

He claims to be an "introverted, sensitive and unsociable person" because his parents attacked and manipulated him when he was a child.

He mentioned many times in his letter that his parents care too much about him and don't feel any affection at all. His Excellence has become the capital that his parents show off everywhere. Once his performance is not as good as their original intention, he will be hit by many merciless blows.

He was depressed and self-abased, and his work was not smooth after graduation. Therefore, he deliberately went to do psychological counseling. The doctor said that he had "all the symptoms of traumatic stress disorder", but his parents disagreed.

He finally chose to escape and study psychology. Only in this way can he get rid of the shackles of his family and achieve self-healing.

Every parent wants his child to be a child with high IQ and excellent grades, but he can't suppress the child's real thoughts in this way and let him grow into what his parents want, not what he wants.

Only those who get respect and understanding from their parents and release their nature can create a wonderful life of their own.

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In the process of educating children, parents must not ask their children in their own way, but teach them to be masters of their own affairs and be responsible for them.

Allow children to release their nature and don't deliberately suppress their emotions.

Yi Nengjing did a good job in educating his son, the little prince.

The little prince is very talented in painting, but sometimes he feels tired and wants to give up.

At this time, Yi Nengjing didn't force him to continue painting, but told him that he was responsible for his own life.

"God gave everyone the same gift. Some people are willing to pay 100% and are grateful. Some people are only willing to work 20%, and they are still very tired. The person who takes back this gift will never be God, but yourself. "

The little prince heard the encouragement from this sentence and understood that only persistence can realize the life he wants.

The next day, he wrote a note to his mother: God gave you seeds, but it is up to you to blossom and bear fruit.

Yi Nengjing believes that every child has his own special skills, so he should teach students in accordance with their aptitude. Instead of forcing children to do things they don't like, he should pay attention to cultivating children to become independent people and live a life they like.

Zhou said to:

The only important thing is to do what you really like well and conform to your nature. By doing what he likes perfectly, he has an unbreakable home in this world.

For everyone, only by doing what they like can they have the motivation to keep doing it and do it best.

What you don't like, even if you are forced to make certain achievements in a short time, may give up or have uncontrollable results for a long time.

According to a friend, she has a colleague's child who took the college entrance examination last year. She originally wanted to choose her favorite broadcasting major, but she chose the law major under repeated pressure from her parents.

However, before the child finished his freshman year, he said that he really didn't like this major and didn't want to go to school again. His parents regretted it and had a headache. They are looking for someone to see if they can take the college entrance examination again this year.

On the road of children's growth, parents must not interfere too much with their children's choices, which will only make them lose their direction and lose themselves.

What parents should do most is to stimulate their children's inner potential, guide them to find their own strengths and advantages, and strive to play and realize themselves.

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Baidu Encyclopedia said: Nature is a Taoist term, which refers to people's inherent attributes and has a tendency that the outside world cannot change but can guide good and evil.

Nature includes: curiosity, possessiveness, appetite, destructive desire, dependence, fear and so on.

These things are inherent in human beings, and there is no difference between good and bad. Everyone should accept their existence.

If some children, especially boys, cry after being injured, their parents will always say:

"Why are you crying? Like a girl! " "Don't cry! Men bleed without tears. "

However, these casual words have suppressed the children's emotions. In this way, children will really stop crying, learn to bury their emotions in their hearts, and gradually turn their nature into "Excellence" in the eyes of their parents.

But his heart is lonely, and his emotions have not been really released and effectively managed. A "black hole" is thus formed, and it may sink deeper and deeper.

I once saw such a sentence on the Internet: Only when people release their own nature can they know how likely it is.

Those children who have effectively released their nature and grown up in freedom can bravely show their unique talents and be more creative.

But love is not equal to doting, and letting go is not equal to indulgence.

There is a degree problem in this, and parents must grasp it well.

In addition, educating children can't just look at their grades, but cultivating their sound personality is the most important thing.

I hope that every child can get the understanding and respect of his parents, and under the guidance of nature, he can really know himself, improve himself and live the truest and most wonderful life.