It's been two months since the summer vacation, and school is about to start. Has your child grown up? Can everyone keep their hearts and return to school life? Do you have physiological reactions such as insomnia, lethargy, dizziness, nausea, abdominal pain, urinary incontinence, fatigue, loss of appetite, and psychological manifestations such as memory loss, decreased understanding, weariness of learning, anxiety, distraction in class, and emotional instability? By the way, this is what psychologists call "school-starting syndrome", also called "school-starting phobia". It is common for primary and secondary school students to start school after holidays. You ask what to do, don't worry, let's listen to what teachers and experts say.
How did you do?
I don't know when I am absent-minded in class.
"I was distracted in class and couldn't sit still on the stool. Even staring at the textbook, I don't know what the teacher said. The phenomenon of gossiping in class is biased, and things are exchanged on holidays. " Teacher Jiang of langxi Primary School in Nanning always has a headache at the end of holidays, because there are always a large number of children in the class who don't accept holidays.
Not only a primary school, He Laoshi is a PE teacher in a junior high school in Nanning. He told reporters that physical education class, which started after the festival, was not very active either. Children always seem to be a little lazy and listless. "Running one or two laps on the playground will make you breathless, and some will ask for leave. I feel that I lack exercise during the holidays. "
Many primary and secondary school teachers report that it is particularly difficult to attend classes in the first few days of school. Students are often late and have poor concentration. Some students even doze off, making it difficult to mobilize the classroom atmosphere. Even, some children will suffer from insomnia, lethargy and some unexplained symptoms, such as dizziness, nausea, abdominal pain, urinary incontinence, fatigue and loss of appetite.
Correct it quickly.
Otherwise, it will affect children's study.
If you think "school-starting syndrome" is no big deal, you are wrong. If not corrected, it will still affect children's learning.
Teacher Jiang, who has worked as a class teacher for many years, believes that because holidays may be relaxing at home and parents are not in charge of work, the relaxation period of children after school will be quite harmful if teachers and parents do not deal with it in time. "This will cause the whole class to be sloppy and students will become restless. In addition, the discipline in the class will become more and more chaotic, and teachers will not be able to teach, which will directly reduce the overall performance of the class and the activities will lack unity. "
Qin Yong, the headmaster of the middle section of Minzu Avenue in Nanning, believes that the so-called "holiday syndrome" is actually an unconscious "protest" under the students' helplessness. If you don't pay attention to guidance and let yourself go, it is likely to reduce children's interest and initiative in learning to a certain extent. "The teaching tasks of the school are arranged. If you don't learn before, you won't be able to keep up with the progress, and it will also hurt your child's self-confidence in learning. "
disadvantaged groups
Students who study well are also easily influenced.
So, which children are susceptible to "school-starting syndrome"?
First, students with low psychological quality and poor adaptability, such as young children, children who leave early and leave early; Second, students who are often criticized by teachers at school and students with poor academic performance; Third, students who can't adapt to the new environment quickly, such as some children who transfer halfway.
Not only children who are playful and have poor self-discipline are prone to "school-starting syndrome", but some excellent students who are too eager for perfect studies are also susceptible groups. For example, some "three good students" usually have high demands on themselves and parents' expectations, so they are under great pressure.
"On the one hand, it is related to students' young age, immature psychological development, poor adaptability and conversion ability. The more important reason is the lack of social education, school education and family education. Teacher Peng Jitong, a lecturer of Nanning Industrial and Commercial Bureau and a senior phenomenon psychologist, said that most of the students she contacted who were prone to "school-starting syndrome" had experienced setbacks in their studies or other activities.
Actively guide
Ask the children to accept their hearts before the holiday is over.
Of course, all primary and secondary schools in Nanning will have their own countermeasures for the "school-starting syndrome" at the beginning of school, but parents can't leave all this work to schools and teachers.
"Some parents find that their children don't accept their hearts. Some parents will take measures to guide and discipline or cooperate with teachers after discovering it, but they are unable to do so because of their busy work; Some parents simply don't care and give this task to the teacher. " Teacher Jiang was a little helpless when he said this.
In fact, the relationship between parents and children is the closest. "Parents need to guide their children to open their hearts." Teacher Peng and Teacher Tong suggested that parents should not worry once they find that their children have not attended classes. It is best to increase learning activities in the first half of the holiday, and sleep time should be synchronized with school time as much as possible. "If you haven't done this job before, it's not too late to do it now. If you find that your child is not attentive in class, don't be impatient, don't hit the child, it is best to discuss with the child. "
In addition, teachers Peng and Tong also pointed out that older children have better self-control, mainly guidance, while children need their parents to accompany them.
Do a test.
Does your child have "school-starting syndrome"?
1. Children don't want to meet new classmates because they haven't had enough fun in the summer vacation.
2. Let the children be quiet in the summer vacation.
You can't get back after playing "crazy".
4. The biological clock is out of order and I feel sleepy every day.
Learn to learn.
Opening the school "accepting the heart Dafa"
1. Guide children to make a study plan for the new semester, especially pointing out that the content of the plan should be achieved by children through hard work, and the expectations should not be too high, so that children will automatically give up before implementation.
2. Parents should guide their children to change their roles, teaching by example is more important than teaching by words, and parents should pay attention to the guidance of entertaining. Parents should also guide their children into new roles.
3. Replenish the necessary stationery to arouse the enthusiasm of going to school. Parents can talk to their children more about their classmates and teachers at school, help them relax and say some words of appreciation and encouragement. At the same time, give children some necessary stationery to make them feel happy at school and look forward to starting school.
4. Talk more about school topics and help children remember happy things, such as good friends and favorite teachers; You can also ask your child to call a good friend, have a heart-to-heart talk and talk about the plans for the new school year.
5. Make a study plan for the new semester. Don't set your goals too high, but be within your child's power.
At the beginning of the school season, 14-year-old Xiao Yuhe has already entered the university campus when her peers are about to enter the third grade. Yesterday, Fudan University welcomed this year's freshmen. 200 1 The Beijing boy was young and was sandwiched between his big brother and big sister who came to report together. The reporter learned from Fudan University that there are more than 3,000 freshmen this year, including 3 "post-00" freshmen. These three "post-00" freshmen have reached the local admission score of Fudan University, which belongs to the normal admission of the college entrance examination.
Yesterday, the reporter followed Xiao and his parents and felt the first day of college of this 14-year-old boy.
School equipment:
There are more refills in the pencil case than in the pen container.
Xiao Yuhe was born in 200 1 and just turned 1 month ago 14 years old. In the fourth grade of primary school, he was admitted to the juvenile class of Beijing No.8 Middle School. It took him four years to complete the eight-year course from grade five in primary school to grade three in high school. This year, I was admitted to the School of Mathematical Sciences of Fudan University with a total score of 692 (full marks in mathematics).
Yesterday morning, the reporter went to a dormitory on the third floor of Fudan Zhide College and met Xiao. He wore long sweatpants and a short T-shirt (it was later learned that it was his middle school uniform), shaved a short inch, revealing pimples all over his forehead and wearing steel braces in his mouth. At first glance, he looks like a "standard" junior high school student.
In the bedroom, Xiao Yuhe began to tidy things with the help of her mother, and put books, stationery and clothes neatly in the cupboard. Someone saw a large volume of Oxford Advanced Learner's English-Chinese Dictionary on his bookcase and jokingly said, "It's really top student." Xiao Yuhe smiled and responded: "Look at this big brother classmate next to me. He has many books."
The reporter found that there were only two or three ballpoint pens in Xiao Yuhe's pencil box, but more than ten refills were changed: "The refills are cheaper and easier to change."
I didn't bring too many clothes, only about five sets, three of which are middle school uniforms. "The school uniform was also given to him by a big middle school senior, because his own school uniform is now small." Xiao's father told reporters that children's awareness of thrift was consciously cultivated from a small family.
University arrangement:
There is nothing special about the dormitory, so roommates should help more.
As a freshman, Xiao Yuhe's roommate Zhou Tong, aged 18, was friendly to this "younger brother and classmate": "I will definitely help him if he has any difficulties in life. And his learning ability is definitely good, I hope he can help me. "
The seniors and sisters also welcome this "post-00" junior. Xiaolin, a junior girl from Fudan School of Mathematical Sciences, said, "I know there is a youth class in Beijing. I didn't expect to see my junior today. I really admire him. However,/kloc-going to college at the age of 0/4 is really small, and it may take an adaptation period at first. "
Liu Xiaoman, a senior boy from Fudan College of Mathematical Sciences, is an assistant counselor. He told reporters that he knew something new before Xiao Yuhe. "There is nothing special in the dormitory, it is arranged casually, but we will also remind his roommate to help him more."
Before entering the university campus, Xiao Yuhe was a day student, which was the first time he left his parents and entered a brand-new environment. In this regard, Xiao's father is also a little nervous. "After all, he is a few years younger than other children. If others stew slowly, the growth of our children will inevitably be bumpy in some aspects. " Therefore, this summer vacation, I didn't travel. Under the guidance of her parents, Xiao Yuhe learned to wash clothes, open the quilt and teach herself college mathematics.
Parents repeatedly told Yu He that he must learn more from his brothers and sisters, be tolerant, and strive to integrate into this group as soon as possible.
After going to college, emotional problems may be inevitable. Xiao's father said that he had talked with his children about emotional problems. "My brothers and sisters may fall in love, but you are still young. Let's focus on our study first. We'll talk about feelings later. You still have a long way to go, and everything has to wait until it comes naturally. "
[Conversation with Small]
"My mother intrigued me when I was very young."
Q: When will Mom and Dad go back? Will you be reluctant?
They will leave tomorrow. They will leave anyway.
Q: Can you tell me the secret of your study after being admitted to the university in such a short time?
A: When I was very young, my mother aroused my interest, but I forgot the specific method. I remember buying me a set of books on "Horror Science", in which I especially like the math part. I began to learn Olympic mathematics in the second day of junior high school, and I was very interested until I entered the juvenile class.
In the fourth grade, I entered the junior class of Beijing No.8 Middle School. This class recruits one class every year, with 30 students in each class, which is selected through initial examination, second examination and physical examination. The content of the exam includes mathematics, English and thinking.
Q: How did all the students in your class do this time?
A: There are 4 universities in Tsinghua, 3 universities in Peking University, 65,438+0 Fudan University, 65,438+0 Chinese University of Science and Technology, as well as Beijing Normal University and Beijing Institute of Technology. There are also those who are out of order and intend to repeat.
Q: Your college classmates are older than you. How are you going to get along with them?
I want to learn from my brother and sister. I am not afraid of life myself. I hope I can get along well with you.
Q: What is your ideal?
I haven't decided. However, I want to learn the basics well in these four years. After graduating from college, I plan to study abroad and study applied subjects related to mathematics, such as computer or economics.
[Parenting Classics]
"We are taking the road of low-cost training"
"We are taking the road of low-cost training." The younger father is engaged in science and engineering, and his mother is a doctor of mathematics. She works in finance and her family income is not bad. However, Xiao's father believes that frugality is not directly related to family quality. In the process of training children, we have always followed the principle of "low cost" training.
Dad Xiao introduced that his son's primary school is an ordinary primary school at home. "At that time, he did not deliberately choose a school, but in the second grade, according to the characteristics of his favorite mathematics, he signed up for an outside Olympics class."
In fact, small education and training are more realized in the family. "Since he was a child, we have paid attention to cultivating good habits, both in life and in study," Xiao's father said. In the process of raising, he found that his son was very interested in mathematics, and he and his lover consciously guided him, such as finding him various books on mathematics. "Basically, they follow his interests. For example, he loves telling stories and keeps telling him stories; He loves playing chess and plays all kinds of chess with him. "
The phenomenon of "exotic flowers" in daily life is also a vivid teaching material. "When I was a child, I took him to peel beans together and found that some pods only had 1 bean, and some had 3 or more. Why? Also, how to cross the subway? How to ventilate the subway car? ..... we will look through the books together to find the answer. "
In addition to guiding learning, Xiao Yuhe's parents will also cultivate their children's hard-working spirit and ability to adapt to the environment from an early age. "I went to military training last year. I forgot to bring my packed daily necessities when I went out. He came back from military training for a few days, and I asked him how to solve it. He said, if you have nothing, you can do nothing. "
Dad Xiao introduced that his son's self-control ability is also quite strong. "A few years ago, I was fascinated with playing games for a while, which later affected my study. I talked to him once, and then he can control the time of playing games very well. "
Near the start of school, some senior three students are still immersed in the summer vacation; I am worried that my child can't adapt to the accommodation life, and my mother, who is a university teacher, is anxious ... These are all manifestations of "school-starting syndrome". The reporter's investigation found that many college students also had psychological fluctuations before the start of school. Psychologists say that parents should encourage their children and students themselves should divert their attention.
Senior three students are "afraid" to start the college entrance examination.
School is just around the corner, but Wang Liang (a pseudonym), a senior three student, is unwilling to start school because of the pressure of the college entrance examination. He thinks he hasn't come out of the summer vacation yet.
Senior three is a very important year. Parents remind Wang Liang from time to time to work harder and harder this year, so that he can easily get into college. However, Wang Liang was depressed. He suddenly felt a lot of pressure at the thought that the next semester was only a few months old and the college entrance examination was not far away.
The family looked anxious and tried to take Wang Liang out for fun, but the effect was not obvious.
Worried about the children going to stay, the mother was in a hurry.
Zhang Shuai (a pseudonym), who started school in Grade One, is curious about her new school and new classmates. She looks forward to starting school every day, but her mother, a university teacher, is anxious, unable to eat or sleep well.
When I was in kindergarten and elementary school, my mother usually picked up Zhang Shuai, including making up lessons at weekends, and she never left. Zhang Shuai will soon enter a boarding middle school in Shenyang and come back once a week. Zhang Shuai's mother is very worried about this, worrying about whether her children can get along well with their new classmates and study well. ...
Although Zhang Shuai readily promised to reassure her mother, as the school started, her mother's performance became more and more intense, and she couldn't sleep or eat. ...
Many college students have "school-starting syndrome"
The reporter randomly surveyed 10 college students, 6 of whom thought they had "school-starting syndrome" and had psychological fluctuations when they started school. Four of them said that they would deliberately "reverse the time difference" and adjust their schedules because of the start of school. Pony, a sophomore, said that the summer vacation was easier, the biological clock was also disrupted, and school was about to start. "I suddenly became nervous. I began to adjust the school schedule a week ago to prepare for the new semester."
Hou Yaozong, a college student living abroad, said, "I'm about to start school, but I still don't want to leave home. I feel that the summer vacation is not over yet. I think there are many courses this semester, and I have to prepare for the postgraduate entrance examination. Somehow, the pressure is great. "
Expert: Parents should trust their children's abilities.
In this regard, Zhou, executive deputy secretary-general of Liaoning Youth Research Association, said that parents are worried that it is necessary for junior high school children to attend boarding schools. But parents had better divert their attention from strict school management. In fact, children can learn a lot in such schools, get to know more classmates and feel the collective life.
Regarding the reluctance of senior three students to start school, Zhou said, "Parents can tell their children that he is not fighting alone, and many seniors and sisters came at that time. After going through the college entrance examination, I will feel very relaxed when I encounter similar things in the future, which will greatly help me to enter the society in the future. "