"The president has no courage to improve himself, and the university has no room for self-improvement."
As a student in it, I have no intention to agree with the depravity of college students. I just want to talk about what is the most important thing in college based on my understanding of college life in the past three years.
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Most of my peers are post-90 s and post-00 s. They don't have the novel, bold, open and eccentric temperament of most post-00 s, and they are a little more sharp than the first generation after 90 s.
To put it simply, we are like a transitional body between tradition and modernity-more or less, we have some foresight and deliberation in the public thought.
This is the best time and the worst time.
We are faced with a more correct choice than before. One foot is moving towards freedom, while the other foot is stained with class differences, wealth differences and indelible traditional factors.
The trend of globalization makes us see the charm of distance, and the factors that we want to be stable in our hearts make us plunge into the hot spring of our family. Eager to show one's skill, it is inevitable to get lost in the high-spirited confusion. If you don't want to settle down in a corner, you must accept the recognition of universal social values. If you want to live, you can't escape the scrutiny of your emotions.
"Contradiction" seems to be the symbol of this generation of young people.
After entering this new world, most of the college students I come into contact with have the following two lifestyles: poetic self-indulgence in youth or excessive paranoia in seeking communication. The mixture of the two is to deal with the upcoming exams continuously, and neither tyrants nor scum are spared. Confusion, loneliness and impetuousness are the normal state of life.
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First of all, let's look for the network type, taking joining clubs and student unions as an example.
When I was a freshman, I don't know why there was a craze for clubs and student unions in the school. I thought it was just because my school was too ordinary. Later, I discovered that our freshmen were surprisingly similar by communicating with some students in 985 colleges and universities.
Every once in a while, time is never enough. Every time I don't want to go to dinner, I have to make up countless reasons to be afraid of offending my seniors. The cost of college is relatively high, so it's always good to know more people.
However, the person who will help you in the stormy life in the future will generally not be your fair-weather brother at the university dinner table. Friendship in real life is far more than that. It is related to the collision of hearts, the exchange of ideas, the equality of personality and the proportionality of status.
As for the benefits of the student union, I always feel inexplicably exaggerated. It seems that if you join the student union, you can get in close contact with the teacher, get all the research, join the party, and your life will be complete. In my college, there are many key students who fail every semester because of their poor grades, which leads to the fact that even party activists have no right to apply.
Similarly, I also know many seniors and sisters who are not in the student union. Their college life is also very colorful, and there are not a few like-minded friends.
Xue Jie Jr. is one of them. She was met by an entrepreneurial team named "College of College Students Development" that I joined in my freshman year. This team is highly compatible with our major. Every week, I organize a flower market visit. At that time, Xiaoruo Xue Jie will introduce all kinds of flowers to us with great interest. I haven't seen her in any other societies or organizations. Leave only one organization that you really like, and you can't chew too much.
When I saw Senior Xiaoruo again, she had successfully applied to the Chinese Academy of Sciences and asked her out to meet in the cafe. Her graceful expression is more beautiful in the thick aroma. I only remember the smile on her face when she said "I'm really super lucky". I can't help but wonder how many people in the university are fighting for this and that, but they just lack a down-to-earth heart and can't do anything in the end.
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Let's take chasing dramas and visiting Taobao as examples to see self-indulgence.
After the freshman escaped from "race against time", most people woke up. In the third year of high school, I felt that the student union was just a paper tiger in sheep's clothing. Therefore, no official is underweight, and all kinds of compulsory activities are gradually decreasing. Sophomore students prefer to spend their days in the dormitory by brushing their mobile phones, in the name of confusion.
Few people don't feel guilty after playing, but they have too much free time to do what they want to do. They must find something to waste so that they won't be so confused.
"Whose youth is not confused" has gradually become an excuse for us to accept mediocrity and natural decadence with peace of mind. Don't comfort yourself with confusion. There are really countless peers in this world who are making unremitting efforts for their dreams. The gap between you all stems from your's youth.
In my sophomore year, I joined a project of Dell Company to recruit interns for college students. I was initially attracted by a group of energetic young people in this project. When I was lying in bed, watching dramas and reading novels, they understood the inclusive and open corporate culture and values of world-class companies, held charity bazaars and seminars in hot summer days, and talked about the new world in the face of Kan Kan.
This may be just the tip of the iceberg, but it brought me back to life.
When you set your eyes on the wider sky, you will not be happy for your youth. At the age of twenty, you should dare to take responsibility. It's certainly gratifying to take photos with a little literary flavor, but at an energetic age, you should calm down and do something that really improves your thinking, instead of limiting your life to superficial fun.
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Finally, talk about the "test pressure" that has been running through it.
Last semester's exam week, a friend left me a message and said with emotion: Every day is like memorizing something, but I still feel nothing. The blank space in my head is overgrown with weeds. What a superficial life.
At that time, I was "cramming" (reciting) with several classmates in the study room, and I deeply felt that these words spoke the hearts of many people. Slag should rush to cope with the exam before the exam, and top student should try to find meaning in intermittent madness. "I really didn't learn anything in college" has increasingly become a true portrayal of self-ridicule.
Gradually realize that university is a way for us to understand the system and seek the coordination between life and the system. This is coordination, not compromise. Undoubtedly, the university has its drawbacks, but in our future life, we will face a "system" that is constantly erupting. We will do many things we don't like, and we will try to find a possibility: how to live the life we want better within the system.
There is peer pressure in American culture, which means peer pressure. Refers to the psychological pressure caused by peer comparison. Peer groups exert influence on individuals, which will prompt individuals to change their attitudes, values or behaviors and make them abide by the group code.
In fact, many contradictions in our lives stem from peer pressure. Similarly, many beautiful things also come from this, because a completely free life is unhappy and unreal.
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University life is fleeting, because there are expectations, so it is inevitable to think about the past and the future.
Sometimes, like an angry young man, he criticizes his different lifestyles and always stands at the moral high ground. And I think the biggest sign of growth is to accept the imperfections around you and accept all kinds of values with an open and inclusive mind.
A few days ago, a friend of mine was imprisoned because of various trivial contradictions with his roommate. When she confided in me, I was immersed in the positive energy of various up. She suddenly woke up when she was listening to my indoctrination about the upcoming postgraduate entrance examination and even countless bright prospects in the future.
The world is so big and there are so many beautiful things, and the ideal life still needs courage to temper. Who has the mind to entangle those trivial emotions, to entangle those trivial quarrels in other people's lives?
She said, "As my mother said, a group of beggars are begging. If you care that others want more than half of your steamed bread every day, you will always be a beggar. "
I smiled. "That's right, haha."
I still remember "Just Classmates and Teenagers", which was in full bloom and full of scholar spirit. It is true youth, steaming and enviable.
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We might as well look at all this dialectically.
As long as there are a group of young people who are positive and unwilling to be mediocre, China University will not be hopelessly decadent.
I prefer to compare us to lost lambs, although temporarily lost, but the original heart remains the same. There is no need for college students to have dinner or skip classes. More importantly, reshape their three views. In college, vision and pattern are really important.
And how to improve your vision and pattern?
Always pay attention to the professional frontier. Don't always stare at the four corners of the sky like a frog in the well, just like a farmer who only guards his own acre and three points, his future is worrying. The open world includes the exquisite Milan Art Exhibition, the tall World Flower and Horticultural Exposition and numerous international competitions, which are all our world.
Don't expect too many results, take every step down to earth. For college students, postgraduate entrance examination or entrepreneurship is just a choice. Efforts have no end and no beginning. Don't let a person choose to kidnap his own life. None of us can be responsible for our own choices, because every decision at this moment only represents my current level of knowledge.
Find true happiness in life. Stay away from the fast-food novels and TV dramas used for entertainment at the age of seventeen or eighteen. Those things that give you short-term pleasure can't bring real comfort to your long-term happiness.
Know that the world is big and beautiful, and learn from excellent people. Always keep a sense of crisis, and don't let ease soak you up. Boiling frogs in warm water is comfortable, but harmful. Enjoy less and make your future life more leisurely.
Lost college students, you can rest assured that you will get what you want in the end. Also remember, don't regret it, because youth is too beautiful, and so is college. No matter how beautiful it is, it still feels too wasteful.