College is not like high school anymore. We often walk alone. How can we adjust our mentality and adapt to loneliness?

Share with you a method that is very useful to me:

1. Put on headphones and play a favorite song. When I first started eating alone, I also found it hard to accept. Because I still feel embarrassed to see other people in the canteen in droves.

I will connect the Bluetooth headset, choose a nice song, sit quietly in the corner and have a meal, or choose a TV series or a variety show to have a good meal, so I won't be paranoid!

2. Learn to enjoy loneliness. Finally, one day I realized that eating alone seems lonely on the surface, but it is actually very free.

Maybe I am used to living in groups, so I feel that loneliness is unbearable. Actually, the essence of loneliness is freedom. We should enjoy the feeling of eating alone and attending classes alone, instead of accommodating others, we should only accommodate ourselves.

At first, you will inevitably have some discomfort. You can always get used to eating more. Look at my answer. It feels great!

3. empathy. Imagine if you see someone eating alone and having a class alone. Will you feel embarrassed for him? Or do you know that your friend usually eats alone and attends classes alone?

Of course not! This is not just for a person to eat and attend classes. Whenever you feel particularly embarrassed, you can put yourself in the other's shoes and think about whether you would laugh at that person if you were a bystander.

4. Don't have too much self-awareness. What do you mean, just don't care too much about what others think of you, because others won't care too much about you at all. Each of us is self-centered and will not pay too much attention to or care about other people's affairs.

I used to be a person who cared about other people's opinions. Later, I found many embarrassing things that others didn't know, and I was struggling with myself!

In college, I basically take classes and eat by myself, and roommates often take classes and eat by themselves, because everyone has different time and frequency, so others won't think you are unsociable! We are all relaxed in this way of getting along!

Although I always go to class by myself, my roommate always saves me a place when I need to occupy space.

So don't care about other people's opinions, it's most important to live comfortably! Eating and shopping alone is what you want, and you feel super free!

5. What are the advantages of eating/attending classes alone? First, decide when you want to go to class at will and don't give in to each other. You can eat whatever you want when you eat, and you don't have to indulge yourself in order to live in harmony.

Second, eat as long as you want, and attend classes whenever you want. Don't wait for others to waste your time, let alone let others wait for yourself to waste others' time. Reduce many unnecessary contradictions.

Third, empty yourself when eating, and don't think about what you said or did wrong, a real lunch break.

People who eat and attend classes alone are not alone! Everyone should learn to grow up and adapt to the environment. I hope you can calm down when you eat and attend class alone. When you are confused, when you feel embarrassed, just watch this question and answer! Will definitely give you some strength!