Of course, different age groups have different life priorities. In preschool, playing is a person's main life. 18-22 years old, learning is the most important part of life. Even so, learning is still only a part of life, not the whole thing.
After graduating from college, young people began to work to earn money. Work has become the most important part of life, but it is still only a part, not the whole. Deviating from the basics, life is hard to succeed, harder to succeed, and harder to be happy. So, please remember the word "fate".
This is a big topic about what to learn. We can talk about things other than study first. There are many things that should be done in universities.
18-22 years old is the best time in life. If you are immersed in the classroom, library and dormitory, it is a pity to fall in love at this time, which is good for your life. Two of a kind, a man and a woman, will be partners for life until they commit themselves to each other. This is the arrangement of the creator for us.
People in China love to say "knowing the destiny", so love is a part of fate. It is not even determined by our thoughts, but by our genes.
College is the best age and opportunity to fall in love. Being loved once and enjoying being loved at the same time is an indispensable experience in life. If you miss the future, you may not have it. Without the future, life is incomplete.
Although Mr. Wu Jun urged young people to fall in love and find an object as soon as possible, he never urged parents to introduce objects or participate in any blind date activities. Blind date or introducing boyfriend and girlfriend is not afraid of trouble, but it destroys the beauty of men and women together.
In my opinion, the most romantic and beautiful experiences in life should be those wonderful encounters. When you walk down the stairs of the library, you meet a girl (boy) who is in a hurry to study or return books. Inadvertently, they looked at each other and smiled at each other.
(Maybe phenylethylamine starts to secrete a lot at the same time), and then start a relationship. This kind of beauty is hard to understand at any other stage of life, and of course it is also the happiness that no blind date can get.
Love can make people excited, tireless, full of confidence and courage. People in love will feel that the world suddenly becomes beautiful, and of course people will become irrational. It would be a pity not to experience such joy and excitement (probably the result of dopamine secretion).
More importantly, in college, you don't need how rich your material wealth is, how smart your brain is, or how beautiful (handsome) people are to enjoy this wonderful life, but it is almost impossible to get out of college.
Love makes people mature. Only when you really love someone can you love life. Few people fall in love from high school until they get married and have children. Many people envy this situation, but in real life, it is very few.
It is gratifying to fall in love in college, but it doesn't matter if you fail, because young people always have the capital to start over. Anyone should know that any attempt may fail, so falling in love is inevitable. This is precisely the time to test the wisdom of young people.
Anyone who walks through the hurdle of lovelorn once begins to take a step towards maturity. In China, our parents care too much about their children's failure and always protect them from failure, so that they will never grow up.
However, in love, parents really can't help their children. If it fails, it is inevitable. This may be the most important opportunity for children to become social people.
Another advantage of falling in love in college is that young people's motives are relatively simple. Blind date activities, or introductions from elders, are a bit like shopping in the market. The two sides make a list and exchange it equally. For example, the man is talented and the woman is young and beautiful, which is recognized as a good object.
Of course, we don't deny that we are suitable for each other, or even agree, but that's for marriage. After all, love and marriage are somewhat different. Marriage needs to be practical and love needs to be simple. Simple love is the easiest to find in college.
Falling in love once in college should be one of the four-year goals of college students. No matter girls or boys, once they leave school, they don't have much opportunity and time to find people who want to devote themselves to interest. Many children who go to the best universities in America enter the best companies after graduation. They found that once you miss the opportunity to find a lover in college, it will actually be more difficult to go to work, because there are far fewer people you can talk to than in college.
Therefore, many enlightened parents will tell girls to try to find a rich husband in college, and even many girls will try to get into famous universities in order to have more opportunities to choose a spouse.
No matter in China or the United States, some girls will dress up in colleges and universities around famous universities and go to famous universities to catch rich people. At Harvard and MIT, you can often meet girls who run away from Wesleyan Girls' School or Boston University.
When a boy meets a beautifully dressed girl, the first thing he will ask is, are you from Wesley (or Boston University)? It used to be the same on the Tsinghua campus last weekend. Why does Mr. Wu Jun encourage this seemingly serious study? Because the word "fate" is the core of life.
Besides love, the second advice in college is. You should make some intimate friends in college, friends for everyone's life. First of all, it is easy to find out whether a person can be your best friend in college, which can't be done in ten years' work. Young people live and study together for four years, and treat each other honestly. They have every opportunity to know every detail of each other's heart and personality, but those who have been in contact with each other for a long time at work may not be able to do this. Therefore, it is a pity to miss the opportunity of college.
College students are usually not too utilitarian. Occasionally copying homework or helping each other is not a big deal, and you won't feel indebted to each other. But once out of school, most people have a clear distinction between "yours" and "mine". You need someone to help you when the boss arranges tasks. Even if the other person helps you a little, you will owe someone a favor and thank him politely. He will do the same next time.
In such a polite environment, it is difficult for people to make deep friends. Another advantage of making friends in college is that students in the same class are equal when studying in the same class, no matter how different their family circumstances and other conditions are, or they are from relatively equal. Only on the basis of equality can we have fresh communication.
The third suggestion is that in college, every student should take part in some activities unrelated to study and scientific research as much as possible, which is the only way for young people to grow up from "parents' children" to social people. It is often heard that many people are starting a business for someone who is graduating from college in his twenties or even thirties. "Young people have no experience." .
In fact, when a person leaves college, he is responsible for all his actions 100%. You should learn what to do and what not to do in college. People inevitably make mistakes when they leave school, but legally speaking, if they make mistakes, they must bear their own responsibilities and compensate for the harm they have caused. If you want to be a responsible social person when you leave school, you need to complete this process in college.
Parents in China always emphasize that their children can't lose at the starting line, and they are very concerned about their children's education before the age of 18. However, education is a lifelong matter, and most parents in China don't care whether their children will grow into social people in college. If a young man is not mature enough to meet all kinds of challenges in his future work before leaving school, his future career development is worrying.
Maybe everyone has a question, how long does it take to do these things? Isn't this a delay in learning? It does take up some study time, but Mr. Wu Jun doesn't think it is a "waste of time".
Because "life" is the subject and the core, these things are part of life.