2。 In 2002, we airdropped 1. 43 million college graduates to the society. They want to find jobs, they want to eat, and they want to accumulate material capital for falling in love, starting a family and having children. They are full of confusion in the process of completing these choices. Because I have attended many job fairs for college graduates, hundreds of young people passed by me, and too many young people were confused in their eyes. Many people don't package themselves, which shows that they are vague and unprepared for self-evaluation. Many of them have excellent academic performance, but it is difficult to put forward their personal career aspirations and value standards besides their studies. Through the eyes of graduates, I asked again and again with sigh and sympathy: How do these young people plan and spend their college time? There is a famous saying that a sail without direction is always against the wind.
A college student who just joined the work this year described his college life to me: he worked too hard in high school, so he wanted to relax when he was admitted to college. In high school, he ran every day. When he was in college, everyone slept in. Nobody cares about you anyway. There was no class in the morning, so he got up late. When there is no class, everyone plays ball games, goes shopping or stays in the dormitory to play poker. Students in love go out to play in pairs. The university status above is not bad. What I saw with my own eyes and reported in the newspaper is that there are still so many college students struggling academically, concentrating on chatting, playing games and gambling in Internet cafes, and some going to social entertainment places to have a youthful meal and pay attention to enjoyment. In short, there are always some colors that waste youth that have not been carefully planned.
Taiwan Province Province conducted a psychological survey about college students' sense of self-worth 20 years ago, and found that many college students are facing the confusion of "self-integration". For sex, future and choice, it is difficult for most college students to give themselves a complete and coordinated interpretation system and value standards. However, the proportion of older college students participating in social or community activities is relatively high. Therefore, psychologists in Taiwan Province Province believe that one of the most important functions of universities is to help.
Our living standard is similar to that of Taiwan Province Province 10 years ago. Our only-child college students are also facing the same psychological integration difficulties. The performance of many visible and sensible college students also proves to some extent that they lack self-discipline, because there is no guidance, and their behavior is out of order, because of the confusion of internal values.
How to plan carefully and let life draw a beautiful route?
3。 University Planning: Be a Sharp Arrow
By understanding the human resources in the United States, you can easily understand why the United States is a world power. More than 60% of the population in this country has a university degree. Can this country be uncivilized, advanced and arrogant? In contrast, the enrollment rate of colleges and universities in China in the mid-1990s was still 45% of that of peers, and the enrollment expansion of colleges and universities only started in recent years. In this way, the population with university education in China accounts for less than 10% of the total population. This is the national conditions: vast territory, not rich in resources, and people's quality is not high. Based on such concerns, we have the urgent expectation of improving the quality of life of the population, the thinking of career planning, and the examination at the university level.
There should be a sense of "cost" in manpower planning during college. The youngest and most energetic years in life are all on the university campus, and tens of thousands of hard-earned money from parents are given to the school. Many innocent friendships in high school are separated and alienated by going to school. These are the "costs" of going to college, and you have paid such a big cost. You should consider how much "return" you want. Rewards include: your freedom and satisfaction in work in exchange for your ability to enter the society in the future, your ability to make money in society, your ability to develop actively and sustainably emotionally (family, friends and colleagues), your foundation and confidence in realizing your wishes, and so on.
With the awareness of cost return, college students have a standard for the use of a lot of disposable time. How can chatting and playing online games help? How much does it cost? It's up to you, and others will leave you alone. Is it okay to fall in love, live with the opposite sex and be intimate? Nobody taught you a lesson. Whether to invest or not, whether to invest enough, or whether to live in love for a long time, all depend on yourself. Only when college students learn to arrange their life reasonably according to their own development needs and make their college life regular, planned and balanced can they arrange their future social life well.
It is not enough to have a sense of "cost". You should plan your college life reasonably and have the consciousness of "pushing back". That is, when I am a freshman, I will go to the autumn talent exchange meeting to see how high the employers demand talents, how thick college graduates are looking for jobs, and how many units do not want female graduates. That is the reality. When you first see this, you won't "go back to campus".
Finally, the planning content of daily action is: try to make yourself a sharp arrow. "Borrowing an arrow from a straw boat" won Zhuge Aliang a reputation as a wise man, and also won enough "ammunition" to defeat his opponent. Back to modern society, every developed employer wants his employees to be sharp arrows, so that the unit can be in an invincible position.
As future professionals, modern college students should first make themselves "sharp", that is, professional, communicative, good at cooperation, strict with themselves and strong-willed. These all need time to cultivate, seize the opportunity to exercise, and spare energy to reflect. Then, college students should try to find their own "arrows", that is, development direction, physical "vector", direction, length and experience for reference. You can study Buffett. If you are interested in business, you should study economic phenomena with your heart. If you are interested in machines, you should make friends with them. If you are interested in people, you can read novels and study psychology. If you are good at speaking, you can listen to Chen Anzhi's speech about success. If you are interested in organizational growth, you can study management and so on. If you are good at something, interested and conscious, college students will study hard and explore their career direction. But as long as you explore, there will be discoveries and breakthroughs, and you will be different. Don't forget, the more advanced the society, the more professional, personalized and distinctive the living space will be.
If it's not sharp enough, go and polish it.
If you don't have an arrow, go and find it.
4。 Looking for a lamp in life
We can see that many people who leave the university are struggling and working in the society. They will always inadvertently find themselves caught in the trouble and confusion between their eyebrows, walking in the fog and drifting in the sea. These philosophical descriptions can quite summarize the realistic mental state of some new and old university graduates.
According to such a backward perspective, we discuss university career planning with young people who are about to enter the university in good faith. A rule worth sharing is that the value of a university lies in helping you find a lamp in life.
First of all, college students should establish the consciousness of openness, tolerance and exploration, and strive to make smarter friends than you. I made two friends in the college public class. One is a student majoring in physics, and won the national physics Olympic medal. This poor friend reminded me that it is a pity to spend too much time on college dating. Less than two years after graduation, this friend was sent to Japan on his own. I became a software engineer in China highly respected by the Japanese. When he called me from Tokyo to greet me, I was moved by a warm and exciting heat flow, and secretly vowed to make achievements in this land of China that my friends praised. A high-level friend is a lamp in your life, inspiring you to never be satisfied.
My other college friend studied economics and was the top liberal arts student in the college entrance examination in Yunnan Province. It was this friend who studied economics who recommended me to learn Chinese and read a number of classic works on economic management, and brought me into Mr. Li Yining's class. Soon, I changed my pen name to Li Lai, because the convincing economist told me that as long as I keep studying, I will always get married. Mr. Li has no postgraduate degree and has never stayed in school. & lt company law> advocate and become a great scholar who changed the economic direction of China.
A high-level friend is a lamp in your life. Under its guidance, you will find many famous teachers who started your life. And a famous teacher is a lamp in your life. Whether they are alive or not, their works and life tracks will guide you to pay attention to yourself, pay attention to people's livelihood and create the future.
College students should look for good media and then choose good information. Good information will activate the deep information in your life, and then help you find the bright light of your professional life. At that time, I often paid attention to> It was this newspaper that made me know about Beijing Economic Broadcasting and heard the hotline consultation of Professor Ye, a psychology professor in Taiwan Province Province. The natural exchange of wisdom finally let me find the bright light of my career. Under the guidance of this lamp, I have trudged persistently and calmly in the fields of social psychology and developmental psychology for ten years, with bright eyes and no regrets.
College is the quietest time. You can stay in the all-night classroom for 24 hours and find the core of life in the silent dialogue with famous teachers. The university stage is the most free. You can open the tentacles of knowledge, absorb friends, media, emotions, wisdom and other resources that belong to your future social struggle, and finally find the bright light of your life.