Teenagers are the hope and future of a nation. In recent years, juvenile delinquency has become one of the hot spots in the world.
Let's look at two cases first. On April 7, 2007, Korean student Zhao shot and killed 33 people at Virginia Tech, which shocked the world. Finally, surrounded by the police, Zhao shot himself; On July 15, 20 1 1, Peking University student Wu brutally killed his mother. He was under 2 1 year old when he committed the crime. 2065438+In April 2009, Wu, who had absconded for four years, was finally arrested by the police. For a time, a new round of discussion about juvenile delinquency has been set off in China. Zhao and Wu are both children of prestigious schools. Why do they become cruel criminals while receiving higher education? This phenomenon is worth pondering.
The Swedish novel The Punishment of Quicksand is a novel about juvenile delinquency. Sebastian, the hero of the novel, is a high school student. He has both the criminal characteristics of Zhao and Wu. On the one hand, he killed his father in cold blood. On the other hand, he also created a shocking school shooting.
Why does a high school student end up a murderer? This novel deeply analyzes the causes of juvenile delinquency from the psychological point of view. On 20 17, the novel won the "Glass Key Award" of Nordic Literature Award and the best book of Amazon in the United States. The TV series "Quicksand" adapted from it quickly became popular after it was broadcast in Sweden in April this year. Everyone who has read this novel says that it can light up the light of hope for everyone in a chaotic state.
How to educate children is a profound knowledge, and it is also the most concerned issue for every parent. This book will give parents a lot of inspiration on how to educate their children.
0 1 What are the symptoms of juvenile delinquency?
The story takes place in the richest suburb of Stockholm, Sweden. The heroine of the novel is Maya, a high school girl. There was a shooting in Maya High School, which killed four people and seriously injured 1 person. The police suspected Maya had something to do with the shooting and arrested her.
After Maya was taken to the police car, she suddenly fainted because of excessive tension. After waking up, she lost her memory and couldn't remember the whole process of the case.
At this time, the author of the novel turned the time back to a few months ago. At that time, Maya was an ordinary middle school student. Her boyfriend Sebastian is from Gao Fushuai. His family is rich, powerful and handsome.
Having been in contact with Sebastian for a long time, Maya found his private life extremely luxurious. He not only spends money like water, but also drinks and takes drugs. In order to seek more excitement, Sebastian and Maya went hunting together. Sebastian knew Maya didn't have a gun license, but forced her to shoot her prey. After Maya pulled the trigger, he excitedly asked Maya if she was exciting.
Sebastian's alternative lifestyle made Maya feel fresh at first, but after a long time, Maya felt very tired and came up with an idea: break up with Sebastian.
Just as Maya was about to break up with Bastianti, Sebastian was taken to the hospital for attempted suicide. After hearing the news, Maya hurried to the hospital. In the hospital bed, the scars of Sebastian's suicide by cutting his wrist are clearly visible. Seeing this, Maya immediately relented and made up with Sebastian. During Sebastian's hospitalization, no relatives came to visit him, only Maya took good care of him.
After his recovery, Sebastian resumed his luxurious life. One night, Sebastian called a group of boys and girls home. While everyone was partying, Sebastian's father suddenly went home. Seeing his son so worthless, he was so angry that he punched and kicked his son.
In the middle of the night, Sebastian woke up from his sleep. He knows that no matter what he does, he can't get his father's respect and love. So he picked up a knife, sneaked into his father's bedroom and stabbed his sleeping father nine times in a row. In an instant, the bedroom turned into a sea of blood.
Subsequently, Sebastian, who killed his red eye, took a shotgun and dragged Maya to school. Sebastian shot at the campus like a madman. Finally, under the siege of the police, Sebastian was shot and killed. This is the story at the beginning of the school shooting.
Adolescence is the golden age of a person's life. During this period, people's body and mind are changing rapidly, and their body and mind are not yet mature, and they may have serious conflicts with others or even violate the law at any time.
In the novel, Sebastian is tired of studying, drinking, taking drugs and making trouble. In the end, he embarked on the road of no return. And his behavior is completely consistent with the signs of juvenile delinquency. Legal experts have found that, generally speaking, there are five signs of juvenile delinquency:
First, behavior: not interested in learning, often late, leave early, truant, hate school life;
Second, psychologically: pursuing excitement, abnormal behavior, trance and anxiety;
Third, moral aspects: love to lie, love to talk big, rude to people, like to show off;
Fourth, communication: Love gangs, make trouble, and fight when things happen, lest the world be chaotic;
Fifth, consumption habits: vanity, excessive pursuit of material enjoyment, such as the pursuit of famous brands.
Legal experts remind that once teenagers have three of the above symptoms, they are likely to embark on the road of crime.
The main reason of juvenile delinquency: lack of family warmth.
In the process of getting along with Sebastian, Maya gradually understood the contradiction between him and his father. Sebastian's mother was born in Miss Blind Date and her father looked down on her. Because of this, Sebastian has never been favored by his father. On weekdays, my father often taunts and scolds Sebastian, which makes Sebastian very hurt.
Maya realized that Sebastian was a seriously loveless boy, so her love for Sebastian deepened a lot. Yan Luowang thought she could influence Sebastian with love, but in fact, Sebastian became more and more cruel. Maya loved Sebastian so much that she didn't realize that Sebastian had changed from a human to a demon.
Maya lost her memory after the shooting. As Sebastian's companion, Maya also became a suspect. Fortunately, through the unremitting efforts of defense lawyers, Maya was finally acquitted in court. At the end of the story, Maya regained her memory. A new life is opening up to her.
The causes of juvenile delinquency are complex, involving many factors such as family, school and society. Professor Li Meijin, a criminal psychologist, believes that all crimes can find their psychological roots in childhood. Children's psychological problems are mostly between 12 years old and 18 years old. Almost all psychological problems stem from parents' parenting style. If the family relationship of teenagers is not harmonious, children can't form a good attachment relationship with their parents in their early years, and their parents lack correct parenting styles. In this case, after the child enters adolescence, he is very lonely and indifferent, and it is easy to commit crimes.
In the novel, Sebastian's father wants his son to have a bright future, but his way of education is ridicule and abuse. This way coincides with China's view that "a dutiful son is born under a stick". However, Yin Jianli, an expert in children's education, believes that "a dutiful son is born under a stick" is the biggest misunderstanding in family education. This sentence is a folk saying, not a truth. This barbaric and rude upbringing will not only lead to the extreme personality of children, but also aggravate their rebellious psychology, and will also set parents and children against each other and create greater family conflicts. Teenagers who grow up in this kind of family are psychologically depressed. Once they encounter conflict or adversity, they will solve the problem through violence, which is more likely to lead to criminal behavior. Teacher Yin Jianli believes that beating and scolding education will destroy children's self-esteem, make them feel inferior more and more, and then lose their sense of self-worth. In the end, such a child has only two endings: either he becomes a doormat or he becomes a criminal.
Psychology believes that the lack of a warm family is more likely to lead to juvenile delinquency. Just like Sebastian in the novel, he lacked family care since childhood, and his father either scolded him or laughed at him, which led to his distorted personality. In the end, while hurting others, he also took his own life, which is embarrassing.
To prevent juvenile delinquency, we must start from parents themselves.
The novel Punishment of Quicksand makes a profound analysis of juvenile delinquency. According to relevant data, juvenile delinquency accounts for 50% of criminal cases in China. Among them, 15 to 18 is the peak age of juvenile delinquency. To prevent juvenile delinquency, we need to start from three aspects: family, school and society. Among them, family education is the most important.
A study shows that children who have been traumatized in World War II have no problem in intelligence after being sent to boarding schools and raised by the state, but their personalities are generally poor and they all have emotional obstacles to varying degrees. This shows that the lack of family education has a great influence on a child.
Family is the first school for children, and children are copies of their parents. What kind of parents and children. Psychologists advocate that parents and teenagers should respect, understand, trust and appreciate each other in the family. When children encounter adversity, parents should unconditionally support their children and give them confidence and courage.
In a family, as long as parents respect each other, care for each other and live in harmony, it is impossible for children's physical and mental development to have too many problems. Psychologists remind us that in order to completely prevent juvenile delinquency, parents need to do the following three things.
First of all, parents should constantly improve their self-cultivation and set a good example for their children. Guide children imperceptibly and be their guiding light.
Secondly, parents should strive to create a harmonious and warm family environment. Family is a safe haven for children. Parents give their children more encouragement and support, and their children will be more optimistic, confident and self-reliant.
Finally, parents need to educate their children in a scientific and reasonable way. Whether parents' education methods are appropriate or not is related to whether children can form a correct outlook on life, values and world outlook. Therefore, parents must pass on the truth of being a man to their children through words and deeds, instead of preaching blindly.
Juvenile delinquency will not only destroy families, but also make the whole nation lose hope. Every child is a treasure when he is born. Over time, whether a child becomes a "dragon" or a "mouse" actually depends mainly on the way of upbringing. From the psychological point of view, quicksand punishment shows a high school student's criminal mentality. Sebastian's experience is a negative textbook of family education, which deserves parents' careful reading and reflection.
Teacher Yin Jianli said: "In family education, trust and appreciation are the greatest support and the most sincere love!" I hope that every parent can lead by example and cultivate their children into healthy and happy people. May the tragedy of juvenile delinquency never happen again.
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