Sometimes, you have to admit that your fate was sealed at the moment you were born. Born in the countryside, your parents are farmers with their backs on the loess. They don't have much culture, but they may have suffered a lot and attach great importance to my education. Whenever I don't study hard, they always say to me, "Hey, you should study hard. Nothing is as good as reading. " At that time, I was still young and didn't understand the meaning of reading. I only know that if I study hard, my parents will be very happy. If I get high marks, I can find a good job in a good university, and I can change the fate of myself, my parents and even the whole family. Regarding the function of reading, my parents conveyed to me that it can change my destiny, even the destiny of my family.
However, how difficult it is for a rural child to go out through reading. I believe that every college student who comes out of the countryside can realize this difficulty. I remember when I was in primary school, the school didn't have good software and hardware conditions, no teaching building, only a few simple rooms for classrooms, no sports facilities, no good tables and chairs, and no good teachers in software. Most teachers are private teachers without status, and they have to take several subjects concurrently. For example, the teacher who teaches us Chinese also teaches us music, art and physical education. The math teacher and the science teacher are the same person. It is such a primary school, and it is still the best primary school in several surrounding villages. Many children from other villages have to walk a long way to go to the primary school in our village. Fortunately, my father graduated from junior high school and my mother went to junior high school. So when I was a child, my parents helped me with my homework, even though their Chinese pinyin was not standard. But some of my classmates are not so lucky. They live in remote rural areas or on dirt roads (our village is close to provincial roads, with relatively convenient transportation and better conditions in all aspects). They have to walk a long way to get to school every day, and they have lunch brought from home in the morning. In winter, the food is already cold and hard, so you can only eat it with hot water. In summer, food goes bad easily. Many students' parents go out to work early because they can't earn money by farming, leaving their children to their grandparents to take care of. Their grandparents can only guarantee them three meals a day, and they can only guarantee that they will not go swimming by the river or lake in summer. As for the homework, they know nothing.
Therefore, the education of most children in rural areas depends on the weather. If you have some talents in your studies and good grades, you will be trained and cared for by your teachers. If your academic performance is average, then the teacher will not care about you, as long as you don't make trouble. In our primary school, there are very few students who can finally be admitted to key middle schools and universities, and the number of students admitted every year is a palm. This can't blame the rural people for not paying attention to education. In fact, people here attach great importance to education, but the emphasis on education is only superficial and verbal. They know the importance of learning and education, but they have no ability and don't know how to educate their children or grandchildren. They will only say, "You should study hard and get a good job in a good university in the future." But when you ask him how to do the problem, he doesn't know anything. This is the paradox of rural education. People know the importance of education, but they can't provide good and high quality education.
When I was in primary school and junior high school, the tuition fee for going to school was not low. At that time, nine-year compulsory education had not been popularized in China, and the registration fee for each semester was several hundred dollars. At that time, rural families could only earn a little by farming. Although many families have planted more than ten acres of land, they can only solve their food and clothing by scraping food from the ground, and there is no savings at home. Think about it, the registration fee for a child will account for half of the annual family income. Not every family can afford this kind of tuition. Many families with two children have a heavier burden. Many girls drop out of primary school and go out to learn skills and work.
In junior and senior high schools, the tuition fees of junior and senior high schools are much higher than those of primary schools, and the living expenses, materials and make-up fees are various. Living expenses and other expenses are above 800 yuan every month, so I can feel the pressure from my parents. At that time, my family planted more than ten acres of land. During the slack season, my father went to the construction site to do odd jobs, and my mother fed five pigs at home, including a sow and dozens of chickens and ducks. Piglets laid by sows and eggs laid by chickens and ducks are also important sources of income for the family. At that time, there were at most forty or fifty eggs or duck eggs at home every day, but parents were reluctant to eat one egg or duck egg. Except for frying eggs for me every time I go home, all the other eggs and duck eggs are sold. In order to raise these five pigs well and save some rice bran money and feed money, my mother gets up early every day and goes to the surrounding wasteland and places with many weeds and wild vegetables to find wild vegetables for pigs. Especially in the month when sows give birth, my mother will go outside to cut a lot of wild vegetables, go to the river to collect a lot of fish and shrimp, and then put wild vegetables, fish and shrimp and broken rice together to cook pig food. In this way, sows will have more milk and pigs will grow better and better.
During my years in high school and college, my parents were busy earning a little hard money almost all year round, farming, growing vegetables, raising pigs, raising chickens and ducks, doing odd jobs and so on. I am especially grateful to my parents, who have been silently supporting me. Although my family is not rich, my parents never let me worry about money, and always prepare the tuition and living expenses I need early. When some of my primary school students went to Guangdong to work without graduating from junior high school, after several years of accumulation, they had some savings in their hands and built two-story and three-story buildings on the homestead of their hometown. Because I spent almost 80% of my family's income in high school and college these years, my family still lives in a bungalow, but my parents have always told me to leave these things alone and not to be half-hearted. Just let me study hard and not be affected. Don't worry about other things. I am very grateful to them. They did their best to create the best conditions for me, which gave me the opportunity to study, go to college and see a wider world in these years. When I was a senior, they heard from somewhere that the employment situation was not good, or that I could have greater development after graduate school, and they always encouraged me to take the postgraduate entrance examination. You see, they are so simple and superstitious, or so afraid of knowledge. However, considering the conditions at home, I really don't want to continue my graduate studies. I don't want my parents in their fifties to have to come all the way for their adult son. I want to come out to work early to reduce the burden on my family and the pressure on my parents. As for graduate school! First, family conditions are not allowed, and second, graduate students don't have to study. Let's study in a bigger school in society.
I have to admit that I didn't go to graduate school because of money. In fact, I wasted a lot of opportunities and possibilities because I had no money. For example, I like accounting and law when I fill in my volunteers after the college entrance examination. Because these two majors are also popular, the tuition is also relatively high, with a tuition fee of 6,000 yuan a year. At that time, in order to save some money, I chose the administrative management major with a tuition fee of only 4,500 yuan, but I didn't expect this major to be more difficult to find employment than the other two majors four years later. During my college years, our school and a school in Brazil were sister schools, and there was a policy of exchange students. In my junior year, there are four indicators for going to Brazil for exchange, but they must be the top four in professional courses, and air tickets and living expenses should be taken care of by themselves. At that time, my professional courses were in the top three, but when I learned that the economy class from Wuhan to Rio actually cost more than 10000 yuan, I calculated the round-trip air ticket and accommodation. I thought about giving up when I was about to spend 60 thousand yuan a semester. In the final exam of that school year, I deliberately did much worse than the previous school year, and then I was naturally isolated by the top four. This is just a foolish act of deceiving yourself. I don't want my classmates to know that I can't go to Brazil because I have no money. Although I regret it now, I don't regret it, because at that time, it was the most suitable choice I made. Even if I were given another chance to choose again, I would still choose to give up, just like I volunteered to choose a major after the college entrance examination. It's not that I don't want to choose something better and more expensive, but my conditions don't allow me to do so. Just like others buy brand-name clothes without blinking, I also want to compare them repeatedly and choose the clothes with the highest cost performance. What others pursue is famous brand, fashion and taste, but I euphemistically pursue cost performance. In fact, it is not because of poverty. I think some famous brands are just "low goods" and "cheap goods" without identity and taste in the eyes of others. Therefore, I have to admit that I really lost many opportunities, many choices and more possibilities because of lack of money and poverty.
When I am about to graduate, I once again see the huge difference between students from rural areas and students from cities. At that time, I was not very confident when I was looking for a job. I didn't know anything about the company and industry, and my vision was not enough. When talking with HR about salary, I don't have enough confidence to ask for too high salary. I am afraid that if I get a high salary, my favorite company will not want me, and I am not so unique and indispensable. And a good job is really a lifesaver for a rural student like me. I can't imagine the scene of Adventure Island, which is unacceptable to me. I can't accept that I am still studying hard after graduating from college, and I can't bear it in my heart.
When I first started looking for a job, I probably lacked self-confidence and had limited resources around me. After several interviews, I feel that my position is too high and my requirements are a bit unrealistic. I have repeatedly lowered my requirements and expectations for the company's work. At that time, I was particularly afraid of not finding a job and had no plans for my future. As long as it is a company that comes to school, no matter what industry, nature and level, I will submit my resume as long as it is a company, hoping to have more interview opportunities and improve the chances of getting an OFFER. In this way, I submitted a lot of resumes and received many interview opportunities, but maybe I put myself too low, and the salary offered by the other party was indeed a bit low. Although I got a few offers, it was not particularly special.
As for the students with good conditions in my family, they either set their goal of studying abroad early or in Hong Kong. The students who are preparing for the postgraduate entrance examination are also aiming at the top universities and research institutes in China, and they will not hesitate to spend tens of thousands of yuan to enroll in various postgraduate entrance examination training courses and IELTS training courses. Some students have already found a good way and relationship for him at home, and there will be a good place after graduation. When you take a resume and take the subway to different schools in the scorching sun to take part in different school moves, they naturally wake up in the dormitory and then play games in the dormitory, without looking for a job or competing with the dark crowd outside. There are other students who have a huge industry at home, and when he graduates from college, he will inherit the family business. These people are all my classmates. Can you imagine this huge gap? Some people say that the gap itself exists, but it is weakened in the university, or it is not obvious in the university, but when you leave the society, the gap will be reflected immediately.
When I either go home to help with farm work or go to a factory in Shenzhen for a summer job in winter and summer vacations, some of my classmates travel all over the country to broaden their horizons and learn more. When I was looking for a house to rent in the streets of Wuhan after graduation, some students' parents had already bought them a house and a car, which you can't compare with. Someone once said: the status and wealth of a family need the efforts of several generations, and it takes a long time to accumulate, not a generation. These outstanding students may have completed the primitive accumulation of capital in the hands of their ancestors and fathers, and accumulated certain wealth and resources for his descendants. Their ancestors and fathers were pioneers, and they began to enjoy the fruits of victory and the legacy left by their ancestors from his generation. What about me? Like their ancestors, I am a pioneer and a pioneer. As the first person to go out of the countryside, I am destined to need not only personal struggle, but also opportunities, opportunities and fate to go further and fly higher.
It was not until the moment I graduated from college that I understood why there were nearly thirty or forty students in two classes in our primary school, and finally seven of them went to undergraduate courses. Except for one, all other schools are very poor, with two books and three books. After all, unless they are really gifted, they are born to learn. If they have average IQ and average grades, it will be a miracle if they really get out of Tsinghua Peking University. It will take several years for our senior high school to train a student from Tsinghua Peking University. This is also in line with a survey: the proportion of rural children in famous schools such as Peking University is getting less and less, and some rural students in famous schools are even less than 20%; The lower the background, the worse the school.
I don't have a prominent background, I don't have extraordinary ability, and no one gives me advice. I make my own decisions from entering a higher school to choosing a major. I have always crossed the river alone, just because I am the first person and a pioneer. I have no experience to learn and no lessons to learn. I have been crossing the river by feeling the stones step by step.
After graduating from college, I chose a stable career and a stable life, because the cost of tossing and turning is too high for me. In other words, the cost of my trial and error is too high. However, I also like my present working and living conditions. In a sense, I changed my destiny. Compared with my childhood friends, at least I went to college, enjoyed higher education and saw a wider world. After graduation. I know I can't compete with others vertically, but I really changed my fate horizontally. Now it has entered an ascending channel. I know that my future road will be wider and wider, and my future life will be better and better!