Hideyoshi Kumasawa's son, Ichiro Hideyoshi, is middle-aged, unemployed and dependent on his parents.
In addition to playing games, the old neets spend the rest of their time squandering their parents' hard-earned money.
Because of staying at home for a long time, Ichiro has a very serious tendency to violence.
In his Twitter, he even took pride in beating his mother in junior high school.
As a senior neet, he left such shocking remarks on social media.
"Why was I born? Since I was born on my own initiative, I will be responsible for me until the last second before I die. "
Obviously, Nate's sense of superiority was gnawed away by him.
When one party takes endlessly, while the other party tries its best to give, the intensification of contradictions becomes inevitable.
Such a deformed parent-child relationship is itself a deadly poison.
Then, tragedy happened.
When asked about the motive for killing his son, the 76-year-old man only said:
"I thought of the deaths and injuries of 20 primary school students in Kawasaki City at that time. I thought he might hurt others, and I didn't want to cause trouble to society. "
Son's laziness and bereavement, coupled with parents' unrestrained tolerance, have become the fuse. Behind being forced to kill his son is the family shackles of despair.
In fact, Japan's "gnawing at the old" has a long history and has almost become a hidden disease in society.
Just some time ago, a hot search appeared on Weibo, called # Millions of Japanese stay at home #.
A survey by the Japanese government shows that the total number of people "squatting at home" in Japan may have exceeded one million.
Professor of the Department of Medicine at the University of Tsukuba even warned that,
Without proper countermeasures, in a few years, the number of "otaku" in Japan will exceed100000!
According to the definition of the Japanese Ministry of Health, Labor and Welfare, staying indoors for at least 6 months will be defined as "squatting at home".
Of course, this social problem from neighboring countries will completely uncover the fig leaf of China's "gnawing at the old" problem.
Last year, data released by the China Research Center on Aging showed that,
In China, more than 65% families feel safe, and about 30% adults still rely on their parents to support themselves.
On social media, as long as you search with the keyword "NEET", you can see a lot of incredible news.
"Occupy parents' real estate to earn rent, and the old people drive their father and daughter out of the house to drain their elderly parents. "The 40-year-old neet punched and kicked his 80-year-old mother, and the police detained him seven times." Needy women killed their mothers with mercury after demanding money. "
These seemingly absurd titles are real social phenomena, all of which repeatedly emphasize a bloody problem. 59660.68868688686
When did you become so confident?
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"Nite is the reincarnation of Buddha.
Backed by blessings. "
In China, NEET is a huge group and has become an embarrassing social phenomenon.
There is a notorious "gnawing at the old". Have you ever heard of it?
Inside, there are a group of magical species who call themselves crouchers.
As long as you just become a post, you will be decadent.
I was 40 when my parents died. Inherited the inheritance, should be able to chew for more than ten years. After you inherit, get a job for a few years, and you can get a pension at the age of 65! "Flow, everywhere.
This group of people is called Contemporary Ah Q. With the help of the online world, they have built a new world outlook of "Long live the old times" and reported to the group for warmth.
In order to flaunt their innocence, squatters are better at self-hypnosis, and even come up with many incredible theories.
What "Needy people are reincarnated Buddhas, and in their previous lives they had blessings, blessings and support";
And "I admire the neet. Nowadays, the world is too dirty. The actions of these sages to avoid the world are actually national youth. "
Wait a minute.
It is such a group of squatters who, while squeezing the surplus value of their parents, preach "I am old with capital. What do you want to do?"
They are more like moths to the fire, wasting their lives and eating them to death.
After reading such a report,
Qing Xu, 29, is a typical neet.
After graduation, because I couldn't eat at work, I stayed at home to eat and drink, and even brought a female netizen home to live with him.
When his parents advised him to find a job to support himself, he plausibly said that "parents have the obligation to support themselves".
Even later, Qing Xu had a conflict with his parents, who kindly advised him.
His parents have no choice but to take their son to court.
And the giant baby who went to court with the defendant, the only thing he could think of threatening his parents was one sentence.
"If you don't give me money, you won't have children."
This kind of person is insane and uses his family background as a bargaining chip to blackmail his parents.
Qing Xu's unbridled, that is, to hold his parents "unfilial for three, no future is big" three inches, and then run amok.
This is obviously another spoiled giant baby.
There is a saying in Guangzhou dialect that "it is better to have barbecued pork than to have you."
This is probably the kind of person you said.
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Those vampires
Persecuted parents
In China, the concept of raising children to prevent old age has always existed, so in the end, it has evolved into an infinite loop.
My parents worked hard for most of their lives, saved a sum of money and bought a house. Why? Raise a child.
So, why raise children? anti-ageing
In the end, the money saved by parents becomes the parasitic capital of children who don't deserve it.
So in some social news columns, we often see such an incredible scene.
80-year-old mother, exposed to the wind and the sun, collects waste products outside to earn a little money;
As soon as the camera turned, the 40-year-old son with healthy limbs at home just finished playing mahjong and turned to sweep his mother's hard-earned money.
This situation makes the sentence "providing for the aged" particularly ironic.
I have seen a similar interview, and my heart is sour.
In an interview, a reporter met an uncle who was working under the scorching sun and asked him:
"You are so old, why are you still working?"
The old man explained, "Impossible. The child is unemployed and has no source of income. I must support him. If I don't give him more money, I'm afraid he will starve to death after I die. "
There was a sigh from the barrage.
Scholar Zhang Ming once talked about blood-sucking and "gnawing at the old".
"Our generation of parents, when they were young, mostly experienced the hardship of not being able to eat and wear and helping the family work early. We only know that such a life is a painful torture for children, but we don't know that pampering in a rich living environment is actually a kind of killing.
Spoiled children can easily see their parents make money when they grow up. When it was their turn, nothing went well, and it couldn't be lower. What can be ground out is not bad, and what can't be ground out is basically scrapped. As a person, I have been to this world once, and I ended up living in vain. "
China people are used to the affection that blood is thicker than water, and the affection of blood is greater than wealth.
This indirectly leads to a phenomenon. Parents with certain abilities are unwilling to let their children suffer, and always give them everything, which also makes children mistakenly think that money is easy to come by and ask their parents for it when they have no money.
When children grow up and make a living by themselves, there will be a sense of gap.
Therefore, they habitually ask their parents for money to fill this gap.
Zhu once said that fools don't know, and greedy people are not satisfied.
Behind this blood-sucking bite, it is more like parents shooting themselves in the foot.
Psychologist Wu Zhihong said: The collective psychological age of China people is less than one year old, and they are still in the erotic period.
These elderly adults, their actual psychological age, are just babies.
Gather thousands of pets to raise a child, and finally raise an "adult but not independent" waste.
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Parents give you money,
Not raising a giant baby.
The host Tu Lei once heard a father defend his children in the program.
What do we earn money for, just for our children, not for their consumption? Shall we take it to the coffin?
It is understandable that parents and children are afraid of hardship, but don't mistake this love for granted and lose their judgment.
Sylvia, a British psychologist, said, "The truly successful love of parents is to let their children leave your life as independent individuals as soon as possible. The sooner this separation happens, the more successful you will be. "
The sorrow of China's parents is that they don't know how to let go, so that they are raised.
However, there are also practical problems. A large number of post-90s or even post-80s who have worked hard in the workplace are also facing the dilemma of "not eating old bones".
Listening to friends around me complaining that social life is stressful now, how can I live?
Indeed, after graduating from the post-90s generation, as soon as I left school, I waited for the high rent and living expenses of "three buys one".
This situation is actually different. Instead of paying attention to flowers, credit cards and even online loans, it is better to ask your parents for help first.
One parent can borrow money to help the child first, then let the child write an iou, and then pay back the money regularly after the life is stable.
I read such a story in Zhihu.
A sheng worked hard in Shenzhen and had some savings, but after all, the house in Shenzhen was too expensive.
So, he asked his parents for alimony and paid a down payment, but the name of the house was written by his parents, and the rest of the loan was repaid by A Sheng at 6,500 yuan per month.
As a result, A Sheng has enough real estate income, but the real estate license is his parents' name and he has no right to trade.
Although parents provided part of the down payment, a few years later, the monthly payment exceeded the down payment at that time.
This story does not encourage old age, but emphasizes that old age is not the most terrible thing, but the terrible thing is old age.
Parents are willing to be chewed to set a high standard for their children.
In essence, it is to speed up children's independence, not to encourage children to let life slip away and lose their belief in independence.
A professor from Chongqing University of Posts and Telecommunications once put forward a viewpoint on the problem of "gnawing at the old" in China.
"China's parents are generally workaholics. They have worked hard to raise their children without asking for anything in return. "
Then, why are there so many neets who still rely on their parents even when they are adults?
The reason is simple, parents are not cruel enough.
Everyone knows the truth of loving deeply and being responsible, but in the eyes of parents, their baby will never grow up.
Overindulgent parents create a hotbed for their children to eat comfortably and then die.
After all, giant babies can't be formed in a day or two.
The most important thing for the neet people to be independent is that their parents can settle down.
It is better to teach people to fish than to teach them to fish.
At the very least, don't wait until you are 40 years old and feel at ease under the protection of your parents.
This is the scariest thing.