"I feel that I am not a person who does great things, and I don't like doing great things." When the president of New Oriental started his speech with this sentence on the platform of the activity center of China Geo University, the young students who were full were obviously taken aback.
"My college entrance examination for three years, 78, 79, 80. My dream at that time was not to go to Peking University. I come from Jiangsu and want to be admitted to Jiangsu Normal University. It's a junior college in Changshu. That's my dream place. "
Seeing that all the students in the audience laughed, Yu also smiled. However, he immediately confirmed very seriously: "It is really like this!" "In the third year, I worked hard and finally got the first place in our foreign language cram school, only to remember that I might apply for a famous university. As a result, I was accidentally admitted to Peking University! " (Laughter)
"For college students, everyone's growth process is different, but growth is always painful. I came to Peking University from the countryside with two sacks on my back, and I have no idea about college life. On the first day I entered the dormitory, I encountered a particularly painful thing. " More than 20 years later, Yu still remembers this story vividly. "I was in the dormitory with a classmate-of course I didn't know him at that time. I am lying in bed reading The Rise and Fall of the Third Reich. I felt very strange and asked him in ugly and terrible Mandarin:' Hey, do you still want to read this kind of book when you go to college?' That classmate looked up at me with black and white eyes. This glance left a deep impression on my life and almost changed my college life. It brought me two consequences. The first consequence: after four years of college, I feel extremely inferior. Finally, I was afraid of everything. Secondly, it lets me know that one must read a lot of books. "
"During my four years in Peking University, I read all kinds of literature, philosophy, social sciences and other natural science works I can read every day. When I graduated in four years, I read a lot of books, but English books became the second thing. So during my four years in Peking University, I learned English badly. When I graduated, I couldn't stand English novels like Gone with the Wind. "
"At the same time, I also formed another habit, that is, I am not good at dealing with people. First of all, I come from the countryside and can't speak Mandarin well. Secondly, there is inferiority complex. Therefore, I don't know anyone except a few people in the dormitory of Peking University. My biggest loss in college is that I didn't take part in any college activities. Later, I deeply realized that the activities of college students are actually very important. It is very important for a student to exercise his thinking, cheerful personality and ability to communicate with others. But I haven't learned this thing. Therefore, during my four years in Peking University, I had a rather miserable life. "
"I am extremely inferior in college, to what extent? I have never been in love in college. In principle, this is a bit abnormal-of course it is normal, because I am normal now. But the problem is, it's not that I don't want to fall in love. I have a crush on every girl in our class! " (Laughter, applause) "Then why are you afraid to pursue a girl when you meet her? This is self-measurement. Some people put themselves up. I found that some boys in our class are brave and often succeed. But I found that I belittled myself. For example, my ability is 10, and I often degrade myself to 5. I still feel this way, and of course I won't fall to 5 again. This is a process of self-intimidation, which has both advantages and disadvantages. The advantage is to make you more modest, but it may also make you lose what should belong to you. " This sentence, he was deeply touched. "But then I found that if a person has never felt inferior, but has always been arrogant, this person must be very shallow. The statistics of teaching research in the world show that at any time, the final success rate of students who have attended classes from/kloc-0 to 5 is far lower than that of students from/kloc-0 to 20. It is not a good thing to have a smooth sailing since childhood, because the world is not designed for such people. If you can't tolerate setbacks, failures and backwardness, you can't turn suffering into wisdom. "