The common debates in college debates are the advantages and disadvantages of college students falling in love. Do you think college should fall in love? How can we not waste time? The following is a sample essay I collected about the advantages and disadvantages of college students' love. Welcome to reading and learning, I hope it will inspire you. Please continue to pay attention to the debate column for more information.
(1) Advantages and disadvantages of college students' love.
Many people think that college students should focus on learning and try not to fall in love, because falling in love is harmful. Yes, college students should focus on learning, increase reading and knowledge reserves, and improve humanistic connotation. Although some students' falling in love affects their studies, some even neglect their studies, and some students have no coordination and control over the allocation of time, the role of falling in love is undeniable.
Although four years of college life is rich and colorful, it is often lonely, and friends who have been to college will understand this. At this time, falling in love can reduce loneliness, enrich life, improve the ability to communicate with others, learn to empathize with others, and master the ability to be responsible for yourself, and these abilities and qualities are exactly what you need at work. It is true that college students should read more books, but it is more important to improve the ability and quality needed for these jobs.
But don't spend too much time with college friends when you are in love. You should know that you are still a student and you have no income. Your tuition is provided by your parents. Your study in college carries great expectations of your parents, and you should turn this expectation into a driving force for progress.
If you spend too much time in love, it is irresponsible, not only for parents, but also for yourself. When you fall in love, you need to pay the price. You have the ability to earn money by yourself, not by your family. If you can do it, I admire you. You are a man. If you still rely on your parents for "relief", I'm sorry, you must take responsibility, be responsible for your parents and be responsible for their expectations.
With the increasingly fierce competition, the employment situation is becoming more and more severe. If college students want to find a job, they must have irreplaceable core competitiveness, and the shaping of this competitiveness is mainly in universities. College students' friends should strive to improve themselves, increase their work skills and increase their chips in getting a good job in the competition, which will inevitably consume college students' time.
Older friends will find that they are willing to learn, but they can't. The author also finds it difficult to concentrate when sitting in the classroom. Too many things in life distract our energy. College students have the best memory at this age, which is also the best time to study. At this time, they don't learn when to study.
To sum up, I think it is ok for college students to fall in love, but don't spend too much time, you should devote your energy and time to study. College students and friends in love should encourage each other and improve together. Only in this way can we not waste our youth and make it more exciting, and only in this way can your's love be guaranteed and sustainable.
(2) Debate the advantages and disadvantages of college students falling in love.
As one of the basic emotions of human beings, love is an old and often new topic, and it is also a hot topic of "sleeping with the party" in college dormitories. A large number of facts have proved that the love that fascinates and fascinates college students most is also the biggest "source of troubles" for college students. How to treat love correctly and how to deal with the relationship between love, life and career is of great significance to the growth and progress of college students and their future family happiness.
First, put the position of love right-love is precious and the cause price is higher. The word sparkling love has opened the hearts of many young men and women throughout the ages and written many beautiful and touching chapters. Beautiful love stories such as butterfly lovers, Romeo and Juliet, Marx and Yan Ni are celebrated by the world. It embodies people's desire for happiness and perfect love and their pursuit of lofty and sacred love. There is no doubt that love is an indispensable part of human social life and occupies an important position in life. For the young college students in Seeds of Love, love is the "poem and sun" of life.
"Which young man doesn't love, which young woman doesn't love spring." College students in their prime must be full of romantic fantasies and longings for love. With the change of people's social concept and lifestyle, the problem of love has penetrated into all aspects of college students' study, life, attitude towards life and ideals. The maturity of adolescent sexual function and the awakening of sexual consciousness have caused subtle psychological changes of college students. In this small society where 65,438+08-23 young people gather, the phenomenon of college students' love has changed from hiding half of their faces behind guitars to openly wandering in love, which has become a real problem on campus.
After college students crowded across the single-plank bridge, their study pressure was relieved, and they had more leisure time after school to face a brand-new and colorful college life. After a short period of novelty and curiosity, a long homesickness will haunt you. In addition, most college students in China are only children, and their ability to live independently is relatively weakened, and they have little experience in collective life. It is difficult to adapt to the double pressures of study and life for a while. Once the purpose of learning is not clear, it will inevitably lead to emptiness and boredom. Look at the seniors around you. Love will attract these empty college students with its unique temptation.
Whether college students' love outweighs the disadvantages or the disadvantages outweigh the advantages has always been a matter of opinion.
People who hold the view of approval say that college students can care for each other in their lives when they fall in love; Promote each other spiritually, comfort each other and relieve homesickness; Encourage each other in their studies, improve together, and promote the self-motivation of both sides. From the sociological point of view, there is no harm in college students falling in love, and allowing college students to fall in love at school can avoid the increase of unmarried older women at high levels in society; From a medical point of view, once a female student who falls in love at school enters the society, it is the physical maturity of women in age, and marriage and childbirth are beneficial to both individuals and society. Those who disagree believe that college students fall in love during school, on the one hand, they enter the world of two people too early, and their energy is too scattered, which is not conducive to the cultivation of self-motivation and will seriously affect their studies; Secondly, it is often difficult for college students to grasp the accuracy and moderation because of many contradictions and great setbacks in the process of love. Although college students are physically mature, their psychological development is unbalanced, their mood fluctuates greatly, and they are easy to get emotional. Once you are lovelorn, if you can't get reasonable emotional counseling, the consequences will be unimaginable. Thirdly, college students in love have a strong tendency in interpersonal communication, and often alienate their original partners or even the collective, which leads to the estrangement between classmates and affects unity. The sense of responsibility for the collective is also replaced by the affair between men and women, which is not conducive to the shaping and growth of individual roles, nor to the development of the collective; The employment trend is also a sensitive issue that has been bothering college students in love. Although it is said verbally that "I only care about what I once had, but I don't care about eternity", is it "bye bye" for an old Yan to fly from west to east after graduation?
Expand dating skills
1 Go forward
Many girls are more or less wary of friends of the opposite sex. They are always worried that they will get lost because of carelessness and sentimentality, so that they will regret it for a lifetime. In fact, this is artificially narrowing their social circle. After setbacks and vicissitudes, many people have lamented that there are still many good people in the world. With your life experience, I believe you can still tell the pros and cons of people around you quickly. If you want to get friends of the opposite sex, don't be too defensive and make a mountain out of a molehill. You must first open your closed heart. The ancients once reminded us: "When you see fire, you will prevent fire, and when you see people, you will guard against theft." Some people have deduced from this old saying that "seeing the opposite sex prevents hooligans." With this scary thought in your heart, you will timidly think, "I can't be with him …", so you won't have friends of the opposite sex. Didn't the ancients also have a famous saying "Nothing ventured, nothing gained" to persuade people to go forward bravely?
2 semi-suggestion method
The feature of the "half-veil method" is that although the suitor does not explicitly say "I love you", the courtship information is clearer than the "hint method" and requires the receiver to respond quickly. For example, at present, the communication between men and women in our country is not very casual, so we specially bought movie tickets, concert tickets and so on to invite each other out to watch; Invite each other to go for a walk, outing, etc. Being alone usually means courting each other. In life, when one party loves the other and doesn't know whether the other party is interested in him or not, this semi-implicit method should be adopted. You can ask for directions as a stone, or you can express your attachment to each other first. A pair of intimate people who were afraid to express their opinions can easily step into the track.
3. The method of love and heart
Between men and women in love, their conversation is no longer a tool to convey information, and the content of the conversation is not important to lovers. More importantly, the act of speaking itself is accompanied by the laughter and eyes of lovers, which give each other pleasure and joy. This feature is the special communication function of love words. It focuses not on the meaning of language, but on feelings and hearts. For lovers, it is fun and happiness to listen to the beauty and voice of the person you like slowly echoing in your ears. Everyone likes people who agree with their own views. When you tell them your experiences or thoughts with him, they will naturally appear close to you. The topic narrowed the distance between the two people and became more congenial.
See the truth in China.
The art of speaking plays an important role in any situation, especially in the field of love and marriage. If you want to know the truth, you must talk more. This is the so-called "teaching by example" method. The process of young people's love is sweet and poetic, and once they fall in love, young people tend to idealize and idolize their objects, thinking that they are as dazzling as the sun in the sky and as perfect as the moon on the fifteenth. This is the "halo" effect that often appears in the process of love. However, marriage in love is real life after all, and marriages that fall in love at first sight and get married in a hurry will fail in nine cases out of ten. Only by getting to know each other better in the process of love and communication can we have a happy life.
5 love at first sight method
Love at first sight, in short, is love at first sight with affection mentioned intuitively. At the moment of "first sight", it is the images and impressions of both sides that play a decisive role, such as appearance, manner, conversation and so on. According to Greek mythology, the early integration of men and women was that God divided human beings into men and women. In the future, everyone has their own beautiful prototype, and everyone is looking for their own possession in this vast world. And this kind of search is generally done by the strong impact of the mind. So love at first sight often produces the strongest happiness. In fact, the first love talk is a complex art, and the talk of love at first sight is not "specified", so it is hard to say anything. Moreover, people with different levels, different occupations, different cultural attainments and different temperament have different expressions.
6 Hongyan Chuan Calligraphy
Love letters are a way to communicate feelings and a means to express family affection. It can be said to be "emotional swan" and "angel of love". Although lovers talk a lot or say a few words when writing love letters, not everyone's love letters can communicate emotions, deepen understanding and build a bridge of love. People who are not good at writing love letters start writing with pens, even kissing all over the paper, sometimes scaring off lovers. Love letters, your sincere feelings, should not be flashy. Love letters, writing feelings, need to impress people with feelings. "People who touch people's hearts, don't worry about feelings first." Reading a novel once may be enough, but reading a love letter is never enough. The key is "tempted".
Step 7 borrow things to express feelings
If love is the most beautiful flower in the world, then the endless love words between young men and women in love are a string of dew on this beautiful love flower. The language of love, like the colorful love life of young people, is full of infinite charm. Yes, sweet words are charming and inexhaustible. However, sometimes lovers feel a deep pain, and they can't find the right words to express their feelings for their lovers. They feel that the words are really too poor and limited compared with the rich feelings in their hearts. At this time, lovers will look for another language and another way to express their passion.
This way of expressing love is especially suitable for those introverted and shy lovers. Although you have feelings, you dare not reveal them. At this time, you can use your head and come up with a unique way, which does not need to say such passionate words as "I love you" and can make the other person understand your good intentions in a relaxed atmosphere. Why not?
8 affectionate appellation
Address is often the transmitter of two people's feelings. Every couple wants to hear their nicknames, nicknames or other intimate names from each other. A simple name, it is a ruler to measure the distance between people. The love relationship between the opposite sex is the most natural and intimate relationship of human beings. The appellation between lovers can reflect the subtle relationship between the two worlds. First of all, the change of address marks the change of "love concentration". Young men and women have a natural development process from acquaintance to love.
This development process can be seen not only from the hints in the eyes of both sides, but also from the changes in the names of both sides. But some of our young people don't pay attention to this. When he first met, he called his sweetheart "Comrade Wang Xiaoli", his acquaintance "Wang Xiaoli", his friend "Xiao Li" and his love "Li", but he simply omitted this word as soon as he got married. "Hey, come here" and "Hey, ..." are really uncomfortable and obviously affect the relationship between two people.
9 Empty gloves and white "lang"
Although there was smoke everywhere, the strong wolf looked around. However, it is really not easy for a young female wolf to get a good wolf king. Once you have a good goal, it is not a show-off gesture, but you can do it with ordinary moves. First, control your eyes. Don't try very hard to discharge when you see what you like, be careful. "It's heartless to fall out of love" will become a laughing stock and ruin your reputation. Then, look inside him. The girl's mind is the smallest, he is good and he is bad, and there is always a feeling.
Some boys are timid, and some boys have been hurt. How many good sisters have been hurt by the phrase "boys should take the initiative", be generous and take the initiative. It's no big deal to tell him first. But: don't show your teeth. Don't care too much about him. If you care too much about him, you will be less calm; If you care too much about him, you will lose confidence; Too concerned about him, reserved. People are always like this. The more nervous they are, the more arrogant they are. What do you mean, "a gentleman doesn't marry"? You don't even believe it yourself. Boys chase girls and try their best; Girls chase boys, and their hearts turn. Once the paper is punctured one day, everyone is happy, sad and depressed, which is unexpected.
10 Praise your partner
Praise is very useful in love. It may be a compliment that makes the person you like have a good impression on you, from unrequited love to open love. If you have been procrastinating, it is a good way to praise your partner from time to time, which will greatly increase your's feelings. However, praise should be measured, otherwise it will be counterproductive. I am most afraid of praising what others think is a shortcoming. For example, if the other person is obese, you can say that the other person has a good figure. Your opponent's handwriting is not elegant, but you say his handwriting is good. When the other person hears it, he will only think that you are satirizing him, so think carefully before praising others and base yourself on facts.
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