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I want to talk about full-time housewives.

Because I saw an interview with Zhang Guimei, the headmaster of Huaping Girls' Middle School.

In that video, there appeared a girl who became a full-time wife after graduating from college. She was a student of President Zhang and donated money to her alma mater with her husband and children. Unexpectedly, her teacher was furious and told her to "get out" ...

In this regard, Zhang Guimei said: "The family is so difficult, we have provided for you until now, and now you are a full-time wife? ! "

Some people say that Zhang Guimei is too extreme, but I hear anxiety from her words. And this anxiety aroused her grief and indignation, which is the legendary "sorrow for its misfortune, anger for its indisputable."

She mentioned many hidden dangers of being a full-time housewife.

For example, if you and your husband speak different languages, you can't make suggestions for your career. Over time, it will be out of touch with society and become an eliminated person.

This means that the efforts of Zhang Guimei and Huaping Girls' High School were in vain.

It also means that women put themselves in a high-risk situation, which can even be regarded as a retrogression of fate.

For Zhang Guimei, who is committed to changing the fate of rural girls, this is the most unwilling and unacceptable scene.

She strives to win opportunities for girls from poor families to study and receive education. The purpose is to let them change their fate by knowledge, and not repeat the fate of getting married and having children, being trapped in a family and being trapped in a mountain for a lifetime because of their gender.

So she will feel sorry for her classmates who become full-time wives.

Among them, it just reflects the plight of full-time housewives and the prejudice and even discrimination against them from all walks of life.

Because in today's China, no one will regard "stay-at-home housewife" as a profession, but more is the voice of "you are idle at home and have done nothing". In other words, the work of a full-time housewife is invisible and its value is not recognized, but being busy is tantamount to doing nothing, not to mention dignity and professional pride.

Zhang Guimei's anxiety and even depression are actually well-founded.

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Actually, I was a stay-at-home housewife.

That was five years ago, Mr. Gao was still running a small company with little income. It happened that I was very tired after work, so I resigned with his connivance.

At that time, I was 25 years old, which was the golden age of women. There were no children to drag me down. I thought I could be a beautiful, decent and elegant full-time wife.

But the truth soon hit my face, not because my husband had a problem, but because of great emptiness and loneliness. Even though I have a higher education, I think I have the ability to solve my troubles.

This is not an exaggeration. When ordinary housewives worry about daily necessities, there are at least three problems:

First, the repetitiveness of labor.

Buying food and cooking, mopping the floor and washing clothes, and taking care of children every day are all mechanical repetitions. Creation and transcendence hardly exist, let alone development space and career breakthrough.

After a long time, enthusiasm and sense of accomplishment will be greatly reduced.

Second, the closeness of life.

The living range of most full-time housewives is fixed between home, vegetable market and school, and the interpersonal circle is shrinking. In the end, I can only put the happiness and sadness of my next family in my heart.

As a woman's pattern and vision become smaller, her temperament will inevitably be cramped, and secularism and philistinism will naturally entangle her.

Third, economic parasitism.

You can't just buy it. Whether it is clothes or cosmetics, it is a man's card, a man's money, and a hand-in-hand party. So we will deliberately reduce the frequency of shopping and dare not ask for anything too expensive.

The equality between husband and wife has been broken unconsciously, and the principle that the economic base determines the superstructure is universally applicable.

Fourth, mental dependence.

The life of a stay-at-home housewife depends on the sense of security brought by marriage, which comes almost entirely from men.

As a result, all women's concerns and centers of gravity have become men. Dependence is the heart and soul, and independence is impossible.

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Even so, I still want to say that being a full-time housewife after graduating from college does not mean waste.

Because the job of a stay-at-home housewife is far underestimated.

If nothing else, take taking care of children.

As we all know, human cubs can't survive at birth like other mammals. He won't grow up by himself. He needs someone to feed him, teach him to talk and walk, and then teach him carefully and instill in him the truth of being a man and doing things bit by bit.

Housewives spend no less time, energy and wisdom on parenting than women in the workplace.

She needs strong overall planning ability, control ability and enough efforts to make the family run normally.

This process is not isolated behind closed doors. An excellent housewife must be a nutritionist, a clever cook, a diplomat, a childcare teacher and so on.

Cultivating an excellent child is the top priority of most family planning.

In the long run, it is even related to the long-term development of the country and the nation. As the saying goes, "the hand that pushes the cradle is the hand that pushes the world."

From this point of view, a full-time housewife with higher education is the gospel of children and families.

But unfortunately, full-time housewives are still regarded as a kind of grievance and compromise, and their essence is more inclined to the fate that the bottom women have to do. In the eyes of the public, it is undoubtedly a huge waste of resources for an intellectual woman to join the family.

Even high-quality housewives are as valuable as senior white-collar workers.

You see, the salaries of child brides, chefs and domestic workers in the market are not low. But when these labors are undertaken by wives, people will naturally ignore the value and take it for granted.

There is neither economic return nor corresponding recognition and respect.

That's why women are scared to death. They avoid "housewives". They can't wait to wrap a layer of impenetrable self-esteem and self-improvement with high heels and black, white and gray suits.

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When she had time to chat with her friends, she said, "If the rights and interests of stay-at-home housewives can be protected by law, I would be happy to do it."

There is no denying that there are some people in the world who can get happiness and satisfaction from the management of food, clothing, housing and transportation; There are indeed some women who are willing to run a family as a career.

The family is a whole, and the division of labor between husband and wife is different, so as to give full play to their respective specialties and ensure the orderly operation of all aspects. There is no distinction between high and low.

Unfortunately, families and society rarely recognize the work and value of housewives. Because the wealth they create is hidden and invisible to those who are interested in lovers.

What is more regrettable is that no law can effectively protect the vital interests of stay-at-home housewives.

In today's era, the measure of value is relatively simple, almost completely summed up by one word "money". Those labors and efforts that can't be measured by money seem completely insignificant.

The hidden dangers of being a full-time housewife are also lurking.

Therefore, being a full-time housewife after graduating from college is not a waste, but a high risk. Without recognition and respect, it is natural to be cautious.

Full-time housewives will feel more relaxed and secure if they can meet the following conditions:

First, you really love taking care of your family, and you can get happiness and satisfaction from it;

Second, family members understand and support, and can truly cherish, appreciate and respect your work;

Third, there is a certain economic foundation, such as a real estate pavement, and you can live as usual without wages;

Fourth, I can learn, be self-disciplined, not be divorced from society, and not be trapped in a room.

Otherwise, try to make money!

After all, economically independent women are more emboldened and confident to face all kinds of situations in marriage and hardships on the road of life.

But I also hope that one day, the value of "stay-at-home housewife" can be recognized, redefined, recognized and respected.

In fact, one of the most remarkable signs of social progress is to respect everyone's choice, whether she wants to be a professional woman or a housewife.