However, both children like reading. Since junior high school, my brother has a little desire to pull his daughter down to help her work. However, my niece likes reading books since she was a child and won't come down. I have criticized my brother's idea many times, and I will not think about it after seeing my daughter's good grades and special progress.
The most difficult period began when my daughter and son were in the third and first year of high school. High school tuition is relatively high, and these two children have never made up a class. And junior high school is in a township middle school. Because there is no high school in the township, high school can only go to the county to study, which leads to extra food expenses.
At that time, I was seconded to the Education Bureau, went to senior high school many times, delayed payment and interceded for two children, and paid for them many times. I have also found my brother and wife to work at home many times to keep them going.
That year, my brother and daughter-in-law went to Nanjing for surgery. Families without savings are even worse. They are really going to give up this time. I resolutely refused, and tried every means to help them tide over the difficulties and try every means to boost their confidence.
Later, children were admitted to universities one after another. Thanks to student loans, their college dreams have come true. My daughter also worked as a part-time tutor and completed her graduate studies. Boys also graduated from undergraduate colleges. These two children have never encountered any problems in employment. Children in rural areas, who can bear hardships and study hard, signed before graduation.
When my niece and nephew were in high school and college, their home was the object of ridicule in the village. Many children in the village went out to work to earn money before graduating from junior high school, but the two of them have been spending money. People have built buildings, and my brother's house has only two side rooms, and he can't even afford to build a room.
However, the fact now is that people who laughed at their younger brother's family were slapped. My nephew and niece work in R&D in two famous electrical enterprises respectively. Those buildings that have been mixed out of junior high school and accumulated money for many years are the salary of my niece and nephew for one year. In other words, their family has to build a house, and they can build two small buildings a year.
However, my nephew and niece said that they would not build a house, and they would buy a house in Hangzhou, so that their parents could go together and stop farming. In terms of economic income alone, it was worthwhile to be poor at the beginning. What's more, the status of the two children is incomparable to those who live in the countryside. They succeeded in becoming social elites and broke away from the bottom of society.
After the story, a rural family became penniless for three college students. Is it worth it? Everyone should have an answer. Yes, the experience of my brother's family has given the answer to this question.
This question is very touching, because I am the mother of three college students, my husband's nephew and two sons. My nephew got 624 points in the first college entrance examination and entered Chongqing University. On the day I got the notice, I was so excited that I shed tears and cooked a table of dishes. The whole family happily celebrated for him.
A year later, the eldest son saw that his younger brother could be admitted. Why can't I? After some efforts, the college entrance examination scored 684 points, exceeding the undergraduate line 130 points at that time. However, when choosing a school, Russian was limited and was not admitted to the school I wanted to go to.
Two years later, the younger son saw that both his brothers had stepped into the threshold of university, but he was unwilling to lag behind and was admitted to Shandong University of Technology with 580 points.
Although the children live up to expectations, they are all four-year undergraduate courses, which is really too difficult for an ordinary family. At the end of each summer vacation, you have to pay tuition and living expenses for one semester, plus materials, books and papers, which is really a lot of money. In order to collect money, they borrowed from the east and borrowed from the west, and even sold their kidneys and blood. Everything else I said was tears.
If it's worth it, I personally think it is. Today, with the rapid development of society, it shows the importance of cultural knowledge. Education is also a personal sign, no matter where you go, you won't move bricks and climb shelves. If you don't have a degree, you may still earn money, but the work intensity is different and the quality of life is different!
Worth it! My home is a living example. I have two women and a man. My eldest daughter graduated from college, and my second daughter and son are both college students. Now they have all graduated. Daya is a primary school teacher, Erya Urumqi is engaged in quantitative design, and his son Urumqi is engaged in structural design of architectural engineering, so they can all stand on their own feet.
Although, at that time, my wife and I suffered a lot, suffered a little, were really tired and owed some debts, but I have tried my best to pay them off, and now life is getting better and better. I also feel very worthwhile and happy from the bottom of my heart. I am honored and proud to have three obedient children who live up to my expectations!
Life should pursue perfection and Excellence.
the Milky Way
Life should have its own value.
If a person can't make his life brilliant,
But there is no reason to make it dim;
Life can be ordinary,
But not vulgar, not degenerate;
Life doesn't care how much you take,
But in the pursuit of perfection and Excellence in technology!
This is the motto of my children and me.
My family motto is:
A family, how to thrive, remember these six words, home and everything:
1, and: benevolence and righteousness come first, governing the country comes first; Peace and prosperity, home and happiness add up.
2. Ambition: Men have no ambition and their families are not rich; Women are not soft, drive the money away.
3. Integrity: Although children and grandchildren are stupid, classics must be read; Although the ancestors are far away, the sacrifice must be sincere.
4, frugality: those who accumulate widely, leave future generations to harm; Too much debauchery, one axe lost his life.
5, the same: the family must unite, why not; If you stick to your own opinions, you will accomplish nothing.
6. Diligence: Diligence is the foundation of our life, and farming is the foundation of protecting our family. Great happiness is like fate, and small wealth must be diligent.
Later generations will pass it on from generation to generation and strictly abide by it!
Strive for:
Honest and calm, law-abiding, patriotic and loving the country;
Be low-key and efficient;
Perseverance, courage and tenacity;
Thank you, don't forget your creativity!
Honor and disgrace and * * * are very calm,
Let's move forward together!
Xinghan 2018.12.18 at home.
Is it worthwhile for a rural family to become poor for three college students?
If it is Liu Yuanyuan, a girl from Peking University, I think everyone will find it worthwhile. Even though she can't get into a top university like Tsinghua Peking University, if she can get into a middle school and choose a popular major of 9852 1 1, she can find a good job after graduation, which many people think is worth it.
I have a relative in the countryside who is very poor, but it happened that both his sons were admitted to the architecture department of Harbin Institute of Technology. Tuition and living expenses are not enough. Finally, I had to sell my house and the couple moved to a temporary room on the mountain. Those years were even more shabby and shabby, but the couple just gritted their teeth and survived. A few years later. Two sons graduated, the eldest son worked in a private enterprise in Beijing, and the second son worked in a state-owned enterprise in Shenyang. Up to now, the eldest son has bought three suites in Beijing and one in Nanjing and Zhuhai. The second son didn't know how many suites he had, except that he bought a villa for his father in the suburbs of Shenyang. Water, electricity and property fees are 30,000 yuan per year, which shall be borne by his son. When I go home on holidays, my daughter-in-law drives me back. He is a neighbor. Most children who leave school early to work don't even have a car. Therefore, if a child can be admitted to a prestigious school, whether in urban or rural areas, whether poor or rich, most parents will do their best to support it.
However, with the growing distance between educational resources and economic conditions, more rural children can only enter ordinary universities or even two or three terminal universities. Such schools are not only difficult to find jobs, but also often have high tuition fees. In this case, whether a rural family becomes poor in order to support three college students is a problem that many people struggle with.
These days, my mother met a rural couple because of dizziness. The eldest son learned three books, and the second son studied in ship administration school. In order to support two children, she also sold the house. The eldest son was assigned as a worker in Hangang after graduation. The second son worked in a shipyard after graduation and gave birth to a second child, making ends meet. He resigned and went to Dalian to run a boat. The old couple helped their second son take care of the children in Dalian in the first half of the year and went to Handan to help in the second half.
I looked at their old and haggard faces and couldn't help saying that it was better not to read this book and find a job near home. The woman thought for a moment and said, no, not all babies can learn, but it's right after reading. If the two of them don't study, I'm afraid they can't even find such a job, and life will definitely be worse than now. We don't compare with others, but we feel better about ourselves.
Nowadays, many media publicize that it is difficult for poor families to have expensive children. What really determines your future is not your diploma, but your background. A paper diploma cobbled together by children from poor families in ten years is actually not as good as the contacts and resources accumulated by elite parents for their children.
I don't object to this view, but I believe that elite parents are still a minority, and more are ordinary people, but children have to struggle on their own after all. What determines their future life is not their parents' contacts and resources, but their knowledge and courage, which has little to do with the rich and poor in rural cities.
I have a colleague who is also among the best in school, but he could only choose one of the senior high school entrance examination and the technical school entrance examination, but he could not apply at the same time. The headmaster went to his home many times to mobilize him to take the senior high school entrance examination and go to college in the future, but his parents thought that he had to have children to take over the factory and advocated that he should take the technical school exam. Thirty years later, the difference between going to a technical school and going to college is probably needless to say. There is more than one such example around me.
When I was young, I believed what my colleagues' parents said Now that I am old, my children are going to college. With the increase of expenses, I gradually understood the minds of those parents. Going to a technical school is to increase income, and going to college is to increase income. Some parents think this is not surprising.
In the final analysis, investment in education is actually a payment of money. Parents are willing to pay more for being admitted to a famous university, but for those children who are not sure about being admitted to a famous university, the rate of return is lower, the expectation is smaller, or even invisible. Is it worth it? It is the pattern and courage of parents competing with each other, and families with poor economic conditions need courage and perseverance more.
Let me use my own real examples to talk about my views!
I was born in a rural family and have two older brothers. My father died of illness when I was less than one year old. At that time, the eldest brother was six years old and the second brother was less than three years old. In fact, when his father died, his family was heavily in debt (borrowed for his father's treatment), and there were three starving children behind him. I think it goes without saying how hard life is.
In the following decades, my mother supported this family with both hands. She didn't remarry for our brother and sister. She has to work day and night, not only for our food, clothing, housing and transportation, but also for our good education. She had to finish all the farm work by herself, and she had to take time off to do odd jobs to earn our tuition. I remember when we were at school, it was like this almost every year: at the beginning of each semester, my mother had 100 yuan in her pocket to sign up for the three of us, the eldest brother was thirty-five, the second brother was thirty-five, and I was thirty yuan, even if I wrote a name first to confirm the quota. At that time, the school stipulated that we had to pay tuition to get new textbooks, so we often had to study for half a semester to have our own books (of course, that's not because we were together). Relatives and friends who knew our situation advised her not to send us to school more than once, especially as a girl. What's the use of reading so many books? Sooner or later, she will get married and become someone else's family. But my mother still insisted on sending us to school. She always tells us that knowledge can change the fate of our poor children because she doesn't want us to live a hard life like her.
The higher the cost, the higher the cost. In the second year of eldest brother's normal school, I graduated from primary school, and my second brother was in the second grade, and my family was really poor (later my mother told me that we left school and didn't fry vegetables once a week, so we swallowed sweet potatoes with pickles because there was really no oil or salt), so I offered to drop out of school and left the opportunity to my brother and them. Two years later, my eldest brother graduated to work, and I was sent back to school by them to complete my unfinished studies. Although our family didn't send three college students at once, my second brother went to school without graduating from college, and the economic pressure at home can't be underestimated. But my mother never wanted to give up. As a woman, she can still persist, let alone have a complete family.
Children from poor families need to work harder than children from rich families to succeed. So don't give up hard-to-seize opportunities because of economic difficulties. Find a way to solve it, okay The present policy is more perfect than before. Loan, work-study program, or part-time job during school, study hard and get scholarships, etc. , can alleviate the economic pressure? Therefore, don't give up easily, let alone struggle or doubt whether it's worth it, because the answer is yes, "worth it".
Look at us now, we are all doing well. I know how to be grateful because I have experienced it. We will always remember our mother's contribution, so we are more filial to her, and we have the ability to get a better life, so we are also very happy!
Seeing the topic of "a rural family became penniless for three college students to go to school", I suddenly burst into tears, because my own family is like this, not only penniless, but also heavily in debt. However, my answer is still the same: worth it, worth it!
I was born in an out-and-out peasant family. In the depths of the mountains, the production and living conditions are very difficult. Our parents gave birth to four brothers and sisters, eldest brother, second brother, elder sister and me. As long as I can remember, my father inspired us with the phrase "children in rural areas, especially those in our mountainous areas, can never get out of the mountains without studying".
We didn't go to kindergarten. From primary school to middle school to university, our parents are very tired, but we are never allowed to think about not going to school. Now whenever I think of my parents' hard work in those years and the embarrassment of my family, tears can't stop flowing downwards.
Because the hometown is high and the road is far, almost all the fields are widely planted, and flue-cured tobacco, corn and rice are mainly planted in the farmland. The family raised chickens, ducks, geese and several pigs to subsidize the family, but after deducting the production and living expenses for one year, the remaining money was not enough for the tuition of four children. To this end, parents are heartbroken.
I will always remember that every school season, when my father was working in the fields, my mother would take stock of the corn and rice at home, leaving a small amount of food, and then take our four brothers and sisters to the market to sell. The market is far from home and close to the mountain road of more than 20 kilometers. Sometimes walking to the market for a few hours may not sell well, and sometimes chickens, ducks, geese or eggs will be sold to collect tuition fees one by one.
In order to save every penny, my parents haven't bought new clothes for many years, and my father even quit smoking for many years. Our four brothers and sisters also dressed their younger brothers and sisters in small clothes. Sometimes parents go to rural credit cooperatives for loans, and people in the village laugh at their parents' stupidity, saying that it is not worth seeing a loan to build a new house and marry a wife.
However, our parents have always insisted that we go to school. They said that as long as the dolls have knowledge and culture in the future, they will definitely have their own rice bowls, and they will not face the loess all their lives. It is worth it!
Many things happen. With the encouragement and support of parents, my brother and sister have been studying hard. Two graduated from technical secondary schools and two from universities. Later, they went to work, started their own businesses and paid off all their loans.
However, the weather is not beautiful. When we were going to take our parents to the city to enjoy their old age, our parents left us one after another because of illness. From then on, the regret of "children want to raise but not kiss" will always be an indelible wound in our brother and sister's hearts. When my parents left, they always stressed the importance of learning, saying that they had suffered all their lives, that their family was penniless and heavily in debt, but they didn't regret it at all when they saw their children promising, and felt very valuable!
I thank my parents, who not only gave birth to us, but also gave us a good education. This is a wealth that cannot be measured by money, and it is also an eternal spiritual heirloom of our family!
I am a college student from the countryside, and my sister is also in college. In order to provide education for our two brothers and sisters, my parents had to leave their hometown to work in Guangzhou. Although we didn't become poor because our two children went to college, it did have a great impact on my family economy.
A sentence my father said has impressed me so far. "Reading is also an investment. There are gains and losses. I don't expect you both to make money, at least to break even. " If reading is purely a business, it must be profitable. As a long-term career, reading can't be effective in a short time, but with the passage of time, the "profit" will be greater.
Smart rural people like to calculate how much it costs a child to go to college. After four years, the low is 60,000 to 70,000, and the high is 150,000. Faced with such a huge sum of money, some people began to make small calculations. Go out to work after graduating from high school, 3000 yuan a month, 36000 yuan a year, four years 142400. Not sending children to college can not only save 60,000 to 70,000 yuan, but children can earn more than 100,000 yuan in four years. Therefore, it is concluded that sending children to college is a loss-making business, so it is better to go out to work as early as possible.
This is short-sighted, focusing only on immediate interests, without long-term plans. The benefits of going to college cannot be seen only from the income of money. People who have finished college for four years will have more than twice as high thoughts and values as those who have never been to college. Reading makes people wise. The more books you read, the more comprehensive you will be.
And the income after college directly depends on what kind of university and college you study. Undergraduate course? 985? The different levels of colleges and universities determine your starting point after graduation. There is little difference between a junior college and an ordinary undergraduate course, ranging from 3,000 to 4,000 a month, and more than 5,000 a month after graduating from a junior college in 985.
There are very few people in our village university, most of whom are junior high schools. Go to work directly after graduating from high school. The evaluation of the old people in the village for these young people is that they can't suffer, and they will come back after going out to work for a few days. They have been to Guangdong five or six times a year, but they just can't stay. Many people are old enough to get married and don't even have a date, so they just wander around the village all day.
Some peers in the village, although they only took the college entrance examination once, went to the railway vocational and technical college and joined the railway bureau three years later, and now their monthly salary has reached 6 million yuan. The other was admitted to Zhejiang University of Technology. Join a listed company after graduation. I bought a house in Hangzhou for three years after graduation. He got married this year, and his wife is a college classmate.
Reading is the simplest and most convenient channel for a rural child to jump out of the farm, and reading to change his fate is still applicable. And now the cost of reading is not so high. The state and schools have many subsidy policies for poor college students, and the highest tuition fees can be waived.
I came uninvited. Tell me what I saw. My father has a comrade-in-arms, and their family has a good relationship with ours. Their three sons got good grades from childhood, and their family farmed in the countryside. Since my eldest son was admitted to xidian university, there has been another college student in my family every other year. At that time, my cousins (parents of three children) had a really bad life, and their clothes were patched. The noodles they eat are salty noodles, and they seldom buy meat in a year. Really poor. Now, all three children are married, have good jobs and bought houses in their respective cities. Because their parents didn't want to live in the city, the three sons spent money to build a house for their parents in their hometown, and their lives were very interesting.
The life of a person without knowledge is like a dry well without water all the year round. A person without cultural background, even if he earns more money, always gives people a feeling of incomplete life. "The poor plant pines and cypresses, and the poor children in the family study." Poor students want to get ahead, and reading is the shortcut. There are three college students in a rural family who are at school and become penniless. Some people say that this is a very unfortunate thing, but I think it is also a lucky thing. Poor students want to "turn cocoons into butterflies", and reading is a very good way out.
In our country, there are many farmers who have left their homes, but many of their children are outstanding. My neighbor was quite poor more than 20 years ago. What makes this neighbor even more chilling is that her husband hardly comes back outside and basically doesn't send money home. She brought up all her four children.
Her eldest daughter is not interested in learning, and she has a headache with books, and she has been married for a long time. She also has a second son, a third son and a younger daughter who are still studying. It is not an exaggeration to describe her as a "grass widow". In the process of training her three children to study, this female neighbor works everywhere and borrows money everywhere. In her words, "I sell iron in the pot, even if I sell blood, I have to provide education for my children." Suffering for my generation is enough, and the next generation must not continue to suffer! "
In this way, her second son was admitted to medical school and became an anesthesiologist; Her third son was admitted to Normal University and became an engineer after graduation. Her little daughter turned out to be very promising. It can be said that without the efforts of this female neighbor, these three children would not be today. At the age of 47, when her second son got the undergraduate diploma and was about to prepare for the postgraduate entrance examination, she passed away. Because of a terminal illness, she left her three children trained with her life forever ... If this female neighbor can live to this day, I think she must be the happiest person in our village.
For people in rural areas, parents are illiterate. If children are as uneducated as their parents, they are likely to "copy" their parents' hard life and embark on the bitter road that their parents have gone through. In the eyes of some parents, sending their children to school is a kind of consumption, but I think sending their children to college is actually the best investment. In this "investment" process, poor families may be financially strapped and live in poverty, but letting children change their destiny through reading, broaden their horizons through reading, and broaden their contacts through reading will benefit children for life.
Let children study, poverty is only temporary, temporary; Let children give up going to college, and the "gene" of poverty is likely to be passed down from generation to generation.