A few days ago, there were several videos of high school female students attacking a girl, laughing and abusing, punching and kicking, and taking off their clothes in public. The scene is very bad. There was no resistance or stop, only fists and laughter. The comments under the video are all kinds of anger, some lament the failure of education, some curse high school girls, some sympathize with the girls who were beaten, and some accuse the people who made the video. Anyway, people in the video all say hello, even involving social conscience and so on.

Not to mention that "poor people must be hateful", my first reaction when I saw the video was anger at the girl who was beaten: at this time, my dignity was almost trampled on, and there was no resistance at all?

My friend, the more you submit to humiliation, the more they bully you.

A buddy in the high school dormitory is called Li Qi. Li Qi is easy to talk to, and he is also a diligent person in our group. He cares nothing and is particularly easy to get along with. We always play jokes on his friends. I have never seen him lose his temper, but a good temper doesn't mean anyone can bully him.

When I first entered the university, as a freshman, everyone was attracted by all kinds of part-time jobs except the ambition to study hard at first. After all, when they have enough time, they want to earn some pocket money. Richie and I went to a school. Is our dormitory on the fifth floor or next door?

One day less than half a month after school started, he proudly went to the dormitory to find me and told me that he had recently found a part-time job of distributing leaflets on campus, which cost 45 yuan a day and invited me to dinner when he earned it. Although I was happy to make money and offered to treat me, my buddy asked him specifically how to pay. If the money is too hard, I am embarrassed to accept this treat.

According to him, he and two buddies on the fourth floor of the dormitory are in charge of four male dormitory buildings, and they go to the dormitory at 9: 30 every two nights to distribute various leaflets. A boy dormitory in our school has 6 or 7 floors, each floor is about 50. It's tiring for three boys to run four buildings. He said happily that it is not good to add money to exercise.

In the next few days, I often saw the three of them running between dormitory buildings. But then he ran away, and went back to the dormitory to see him at night, always sweating like a pig, and just came back to rest. I asked him why he hadn't seen those two buddies these days. He said that one of them was busy and the other had gone home. At first, I thought it was nothing. After all, anything can happen temporarily. But for the next few days, Ricky was still alone.

Until one night 10, Ricky came to me sullenly with a pile of leaflets and asked me to go out with him. I asked him what was going on. He looked calm and didn't speak, and took me to the fourth floor.

Then I kicked open a dormitory door and was dumbfounded at that time. Richie's kick completely let me know how angry he was.

The door was suddenly pushed open, and when I saw the people inside, I immediately leaned over and looked at it. I was furious: this is the dormitory of two boys who distributed leaflets together. Now they are not handing out leaflets or going home as they say, but playing computer games? !

Richie, holding the stack of leaflets in his right hand, pointed to two people who were dumbfounded than me and left such a sentence:

"There is no such thing as a free lunch. I'm happy to help you. Do you really think I am a soft persimmon? I'm exhausted, but you two are playing games. Take the money, boy, that's not how money is earned! "

Say that finish directly throw the rest of the leaflets in their faces, and the whole dormitory is full of leaflets. As for the following plot, I don't need to elaborate. When I'm angry with Ricky, these two people are bound to get a few punches.

Later, these two buddies consciously distributed leaflets for a few days, even helped Li Qifa, without any complaints, and often "obediently" asked Li Qi to go with them. At that time, Li Qi was no longer the object of being bullied in their hearts, but the object of not being offended.

In fact, it is not advocating violence to solve problems, but I think there is some truth in the saying that "people are good at being bullied and horses are good at being ridden". When we show kindness to others, it doesn't mean that others can bully at will. Usually, the more we tolerate them, the worse they get. They think we are easy to bully and have no complaints.

People can't be so timid.

The girl who was beaten on the Internet and Li Qi are two opposite examples. The extent to which girls who are beaten in videos can be bullied is often the result of excessive humiliation. If we resist like Richie, not to mention violence, it will also make those who bully us hesitate more or less.

Some people will say that the cost is high and they are likely to be retaliated. I just want to say this: "Dignity is earned by yourself, not by others. If you want to wait for them to respect you, take the initiative to let them respect you. "

Silence is not to submit to humiliation. The more you submit to humiliation, the more they bully you and crush your dignity. On the contrary, as long as you dare to fight for it, their wantonness will become hesitant and even more or less fearful.