In the university society, the pressure faced by college students is much greater than many of us think, and even many people who have graduated from college and have worked may not be able to understand this pressure. Because when you walk through this road and look back, you will feel that you chose the right fork in the road. But you may not remember your inner fear and pressure when you face this crossroads.
I. Academic issues
Learning in college and high school are two completely different concepts. After leaving high school, many freshmen find themselves completely lost in their studies. Why?
In the process of studying in high school, there are teachers' guidance, textbooks, exercise books and many counseling books. Many big questions are actually just a comprehensive investigation or in-depth exploration of several knowledge points.
But in college, the teacher is just a leader. As the saying goes, the master leads the door and the practice is in the individual. University study is like an exercise.
When we were in high school, we all had a concept that if it was too deep or too difficult, we could do knowledge beyond our level, because we would not take the college entrance examination.
But college is different. University knowledge is deeper and more focused, and a lot of difficult knowledge needs us to understand slowly and thoroughly.
Second, economic issues.
Many college students didn't manage their finances before entering the university. Sometimes a month's living expenses given by parents will be spent in a week.
They haven't learned how to refuse temptation. University is a colorful world. When children rely on their parents' financial support, the gap between people is infinitely enlarged. Some people wear famous brands and eat out all day. Some people must be careful when buying clothes. Finally, with money in hand, many students can't restrain the impulse to buy things.
They haven't learned how to refuse an invitation. Many college students have just entered the university and are thin-skinned. Class parties, student union parties, all kinds of parties, there is always no excuse to refuse. Each party ranges from 30 to 50, and from 100 to 200. A meal costs a week, and sometimes you have to bite the bullet if you have no money.
When they are embarrassed to ask for money from home, they either can't make ends meet or choose campus loans and fall into a deeper whirlpool.
Third, interpersonal relationships.
Some college students have this problem and feel that their interpersonal skills are poor. Obviously, they all met at the same time. Why did they go to play together in the end, but they didn't make friends? Maybe they don't have the same interest language as you, or maybe there are other reasons?
Anyway, if you are under pressure in this area, Mr. Bi has some suggestions. Be sincere and treat others with sincerity. As long as you treat others sincerely, you will definitely get something in return. Listening is more important than expressing yourself, and people who are good at listening to others are more likely to get friendship. Take the initiative, if others don't take the initiative to talk to you, you can take the initiative to say to them, hello, can I make friends with you? Learn to praise others. Think about how you feel when others praise you. Similarly, when you praise others, others feel the same way as you do.
Fourth, confusion about the future.
When all the peers around me went to work as interns, they couldn't find jobs and no one replied to their resumes. Fear, confusion, regret and unwillingness to the future will weigh on college students like a mountain.
Verb (abbreviation for verb) emotional problems
Many high school students who are forbidden to fall in love with each other are experiencing their feelings for the first time in college. Because it is the first time, I attach too much importance to it and cherish it. It is often easy to convey a sincere heart and take it too seriously, which means that once it is lost, it is easy to suffer a huge blow.
Therefore, it is easy for college students to stand and talk without pain. Individuals have their own difficulties and feelings at all stages, and think from the perspective of others.
External environmental influence of intransitive verbs
Looking at roommates and classmates, participating in various competitions, winning various awards and honors, and watching them have their own life plans and goals, do you feel that you are useless, know nothing, learn less than others, look less beautiful than others, and don't talk and communicate with others very much? ......
Too many negative emotions will disturb normal life, but you can't just complain and do nothing. You should learn to adjust yourself and make yourself as comfortable as possible.