Children are the hope of a family and the inheritance of parents. Children have parents' expectations and want to make their future better and have a good future.
Therefore, parents are very attentive to their children's education. In order to let children receive a better education, parents also make efforts in all aspects, just to let children have a good educational environment.
Some parents go to cram school after their children go to school, while others help their children study directly. Of course, actively helping children learn is also their own strength.
In particular, some highly educated parents pay more attention to their children's education, and they will also coach their children themselves, thinking that this kind of education is better for their children.
But can things really go as smoothly as parents think? Can parents with high academic qualifications really coach children who study well?
Professor Peking University's daughter "spits" fire. In contrast, the parents of "crazy chicken baby" are terrible.
Ding Yanqing, associate professor Peking University and doctoral supervisor, was named as a "child prodigy" when he was a child. At the age of six, I was able to recite Xinhua Dictionary, and was admitted to Peking University in one fell swoop, and then went to Columbia University to study for a doctorate.
And there is no doubt that Ding Yanqing is a know-it-all, and his wife is also excellent. She is also the high flyers of Peking University. Together, it can be regarded as a "strong alliance."
In many people's subconscious, they think that "the dragon gives birth to the dragon, and the phoenix gives birth to the phoenix, and the teacher's son can make holes", and that a child with such a high level of education from his parents will not be too bad.
However, Ding Yanqing couldn't help saying in an interview that her daughter was "too scum".
Every time after helping her daughter with her homework, Ding Yanqing felt very tired. My daughter has taught it several times, but she still can't remember it. Ding Yanqing once began to "doubt life".
Even in an interview, he said: this is heaven, there is no way, you must accept this thing, what can you do if you don't accept it? That's what she did.
Although there is some helplessness, parents can at least accept that the child is an ordinary person, and the child is very mediocre and ordinary, and can quickly adjust his mentality.
But for adults, they can accept that other children are not good at learning, and they can also accept that other children are disobedient, but they can't accept that their children are mediocre.
The parents of ordinary people have no strengths themselves, so they can only pin their hopes on their children, and eventually the pressure on their children begins to increase.
As a result, "chicken baby" has become the same goal of many parents, urging children to learn by giving them "chicken blood" and "fake energy" in the future.
Parents think it's for the good of their children, and think that their children are still young and don't understand their own good intentions. When they grow up, they will understand and thank themselves.
However, many parents do not know what harm this practice will bring to their children.
Unlike Ding Yanqing, most parents can't accept that their children are a little "mediocre"
There have been such a pair of "crazy chicken babies" parents on the Internet before. When their son took the exam, his score was 99.5, but his parents said, Did you get 0.5?
Although he is only 10 years old, the boys' grades are among the best in the class, but their parents are still dissatisfied, especially the strong father, whose son will criticize his son if he fails to get the first place in the exam.
What's more, after the son finishes his homework, the mother has to write all kinds of exercises. In such an extremely depressed environment, the boy is ill, and a word "homework" will make him twitch to the ground.
The doctor concluded that the boy has become a dissociative disorder, which is what we often call "hysteria".
We all have to accept that our children may be ordinary or ordinary.
There was a popular saying on the Internet before that parents just couldn't fly by themselves, then laid an egg and tried to make it fly higher and farther.
In fact, it is normal for parents to have expectations for their children, but don't put too much pressure on them if they can't meet their expectations.
Because many students really listen attentively in class and finish their homework on time, but their grades are just so-so.
Therefore, parents had better have a psychological preparation, that is, their children are likely to be very ordinary children, but perhaps such children are not strong in learning ability, but in other aspects, they will certainly have outstanding performance, and parents can slowly explore.
Conclusion:
Professor Li Meijin is a professor at China Public Security University. She has a deep research on teenagers' psychology. Her daughter is more ordinary than her mother.
However, Professor Li Meijin didn't feel anything, because her daughter did study hard, but her grades were still unsatisfactory. Later, when she learned that her daughter liked music, Professor Li Meijin began to train her daughter to learn music.
Now, my daughter is a music teacher in a university, and she is very happy every day.
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