Don't take the kind words of the leader seriously, just listen. When colleagues should be polite, be polite and don't take yourself too seriously. Here is a little story to tell you this truth.
MengMeng, a newly graduated college student, has a round face, big eyes and a long black head. The dimples are deep and sweet when he smiles. The leader took her into the office area and said to her, "Don't be shy, treat this place as a big family. Your seniors get along well. If you don't know anything, you can ask them or ask me directly. I wish you a happy job here in the future! " After listening to this, she felt that the colleagues in this company were really nice and friendly. I went to say hello to my colleagues myself, and I am very familiar with it. As soon as the leader left, colleagues took back their eyes on her. Nobody paid attention to her. MengMeng suddenly felt very lost. Why is everyone not enthusiastic about her? Why doesn't anyone want her WeChat? MengMeng thinks that she is beautiful and has done well in school. It is impossible for her colleagues not to like her. After working for two years, MengMeng realized that this was the first lesson that society taught her-to know how heavy she was.
What I want to say is that the company hired you to do things, not make friends. Your only task is to do the work well first, and then learn something. No matter how good you used to be, don't take yourself too seriously. Moreover, the workplace is a place of equal communication, and your own value determines your height in the workplace. Only by striving to improve your own value, whether it is experience/work ability or knowledge, will you get recognition and warm hospitality from your colleagues. Otherwise, how can anyone enthusiastically meet you, a "rookie in the workplace", unless this person has other plans.
Ma Weidou once said, "relatives should be born, acquaintances should be close, and strangers should be familiar." The so-called extremes meet, which is an eternal law, as well as dealing with interpersonal relationships between colleagues.
Any communication should be measured. For example, when a colleague is talking to you about something that makes him laugh at himself or herself, don't ignore it at this time. Flattery or flattery. For example, your project is in a hurry. You think you have a good relationship with her (colleague). If you want her to do something for you, you can work overtime. If she doesn't say yes to you, it means refusal. Don't be stubborn, and don't alienate her because people don't agree. It is the duty of colleagues to help you, but it is their duty not to help you. There is no saying in the workplace that anyone wants to help anyone, unless you are on the same project team.
The famous American psychologist William? James said: "The deepest desire of human nature is to be recognized and praised by the outside world", and so is interpersonal communication.
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