First, opinions and suggestions for college students to establish a correct concept of love:
1. We should correctly handle the relationship between love, study and career. Love is a major event in life, but it is not the whole of life. College students should focus on their studies, because learning is their main purpose. Career is higher than love, advocate career first, and it is not appropriate to fall in love too early. But don't think that love is a stumbling block to your career. If handled well, love can also play a catalytic role in your career.
2. Be able to bear the frustration of love. Face up to the reality, love is two-way, mutual, based on the love of both sides. Without either side, love will be out of balance and will end. At this time, it is unrealistic for the lovelorn party to love the other party again. As a rational college student, we should face up to this reality. Put yourself in each other's shoes. Doing so will help you understand the reason why the other party terminated love, help you accept the painful reality of lovelorn, and get out of the shadow of lovelorn as soon as possible. Don't hide or suppress the pain caused by lovelorn, but find an appropriate way to vent it. Tell your troubles to trusted teachers, classmates, friends, teachers, etc. You can also keep a diary or write a letter. If you feel that your inner depression is too deep to be resolved, you can also seek psychological counseling from a psychological counselor. You can make more friends, participate in some group entertainment activities, or find someone to go shopping and travel to relax, which will help broaden your mood. On the other hand, because there is a sense of emptiness after lovelorn, it is difficult to adapt for the time being, so you can enrich yourself with work or other methods to prevent yourself from thinking in your spare time practice. As soon as possible, we should sublimate lovelorn love into a kind of motivation and devote ourselves to study or work as soon as possible. Don't be devastated by lovelorn love, thinking that life and life have lost their meaning. You know, love is an important part of life, but it has not lost all of life. We should treat love correctly, put it in a correct position, and handle the relationship between love and study, love and life, and love and marriage.
3. Correct the love motive. Love is for finding like-minded lifelong partners in the future, not for comfort and excitement, not just for sexual satisfaction. The choice of love object is a complicated process, and factors such as economy, politics, culture and personality cannot be ignored, but the ideal orientation and moral sentiment of * * * are the most fundamental. The quality of love motivation is directly related to the success of love. As a bridge of the new era, college students' love view should be an organic combination of ideal, morality, career and sex.
Second, the opinions and suggestions of the school:
1. Strengthen sexual knowledge education for college students. College students are still in the transitional stage of their lives. Although I have been educated for more than ten years, there are few aspects related to sex education, and I am still in the stage of envy and yearning for the opposite sex. A lot of knowledge is still ignorant and not well understood. If there is no sex education, it is easy to make mistakes and even deviant behavior in the process of interacting with others. Without some common sense, I can't understand my wrong behavior well, and I can't solve the consequences of my behavior. This will cause psychological or life pressure and obstacles, which is very unfavorable to the healthy growth of college students.
2. Strengthen the construction of campus culture. We should make use of blackboard newspapers, knowledge contests, speech contests, karaoke, cultural performances, cartoons and various cultural and sports activities to enrich students' spare time and enliven their bodies and minds. Strengthen the mental health education of college students. Make full use of the university's network resources, actively carry out psychological counseling activities and sexual health counseling services, help college students correct their attitudes towards marriage and love, adjust the psychological conflicts and psychological imbalances caused by students' frustration in love, and thus cultivate a sound personality.
3. Strengthen students' successful education and guide students to set up lofty ideals. Whether students fall in love or not is closely related to their ideals and enterprising spirit. We should guide students to pursue their careers, ideals and future, and make them realize that love is only a part of life, not the whole of life, so we can't just love children and ignore their studies.
I sincerely hope that college students can make their love bloom more beautiful under the guidance of a healthy concept of love.